CMV: Overweight/Unattractive women being rejected from “Miami” style clubs aren’t the victims
https://www.reddit.com/r/CringeTikToks/s/YGgrSrW3T7
I saw this post and have seen a few comments about this over the past year, particularly when the body positivity movement was happening. In summary, it’s the complaint that stereotypically attractive women are given special privileges when going to clubs in places like Miami, while unattractive/overweight women are treated worse. It’s always presented as the club are the bad guys and the overweight women are the victims but this isn’t the case at all. If you consider the human dynamics along with the club dynamics the overweight women are actually the perpetrators of their own demise.
**CLUB DYNAMICS**
Let’s analyze the type of club these places are. They are primarily for shallow people to spend irresponsible amounts of money to flex for strangers. As with most clubs, men spend the majority of the money buying drinks and entrance fees. How do they get men there? Women, specifically attractive women. Men generally will go to the clubs which have the greatest amount of attractive women, thus there is an incentive to let attractive women in. They generate customers and by extension revenue.
On the other hand, an unattractive/overwe
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