Lada Subašić

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 11, 2026

Me and the way I interact with people

I actually find it funny and confusing how I feel sad about being lonely and not having anyone to talk to when I feel really bad/really happy
But at the same time I distance myself from people who makes an effort to get close at me and then try to get close at people who distance themselves from me/don't like me much
If anyone feels the same way as well, do you have any idea why? I would like to understand or solve this to be honest
also I like starting relationships (friendships) but I don't maintain it. any reason why? and how can I fix this

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 11, 2026

Followup to my post a year ago.AMA

I'm doing a lot better. I'm feeling a lot better then I was last year. I want to answer questions about how I've improved things but you can ask me whatever you want.
I'm working out at home or at the gym at least twice a week.
I've basically flipped that dread and unknowing feeling on its head and have been feeling way better I have one year left and then I'll have a business degree. Im so excited to start the rest of my life. I've been day dreaming a lot about my future and can see my self happy in so many outcomes.
I really wanted to be a teacher and was even in a teaching program and quit but now I just look at my current degree (bba) as an eventual stepping stone into a career and then maybe teaching later in life.
I love being around and engaging with people so I'm super excited to work in marketing. I have been working on building a portfolio on stuff I have done for fun and from my previous business and I'm planning on hopefully doing some charity stuff for the rescue in the area if they would let me just working up the nerve to ask them.
I also was really struggling badly with my heath and got diagnosed with Crohn's and I just shut down for a little bit but now I'm on a pe

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 11, 2026

I'm sorry for everything I've ever said and done.

I'm laying here in bed, alone, and I just think about every shitty thing I've said to someone, or the mistakes I've made. And I'm sorry, I'm sorry for all of it. And many know im sorry, that ive grown up and changed. But they don't get that time back that I took from them. I know it's going to come back around to get me. I'm going to one day lose my family, like we all do at some point in our lives. I'm going to feel a grief and pain so profound, idk how ill cope. And I'll deserve it. I'm sorry for what I've done, for the things I've said and sometimes still say to different people. Whether it be irl or online. I'm sorry.

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 11, 2026

Why do I care what people think so much? Am I crazy?

I don’t know why, but lately I’ve been looking back at past experiences and just cringing. A lot of it involved alcohol, which I own, but there was also a period in my life when I had a tumor in my neck and I genuinely felt off….like my behavior wasn’t fully “me” at the time. Mostly my coworkers had to see a nervous person.
I’m trying to give myself grace, but I can’t help thinking about all the people I crossed paths with back then and worrying they think I’m crazy. And when I drink too much, I definitely act like… a drunk, which doesn’t help. I’ve never had anything bad happen but I’m talking like getting emotional, mad at people who were rude, and just idk.
I’m doing Dry January right now and realizing I probably care way too much about what people think of me. Has anyone else felt this way? looking back and cringing, or worrying about how they’re perceived?

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

How to earn 1 dollar

So, a lot of people have asked me how to earn $1. Well, it's very complicated, but I know how to do it. First, you have to buy the Statue of Liberty. Then, call a team of 50,000 workers to dismantle the statue, and pay for a Boeing 737 to transport you to China (in the meantime, pay for the largest exceptional freight in history, transporting it to China on an ocean liner).
Once you arrive in China, wait for your ocean liner to arrive with the dismantled statue and put it up for sale at a Chinese market for $1. Within minutes, someone in China will be interested in your offer and will buy the statue. You take the dollar and go home.
I hope I've helped someone who needed help earn $1!

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

When people disrespect me, I cut them off completely.

Hi. I (25) am really introverted, and while I am really energetic with very specific people I am close and comfortable with, I have trouble standing up for myself and saying no and demanding respect. I think I would consider myself kind and empathetic. People see this as either something good or something they can take advantage of.
When people disrespect me, I just laugh and act like everything's fine. But I am not. I find it difficult to say right there in their face that it's not okay to treat me like that. Instead, I cut them off completely from my life. If it's school or work and I can't cut them off immediately, I try my best to be very simple and try to avoid them the best I can. Then, when I graduate or move jobs, I block them everywhere and make sure I never see them ever again.

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

I can't stand Streamers at all

I really dislike streamers 'cause it feels like they building a cult of their personality with video games? I play plastation and computer too, and i get it if you cant play a game for some reason you go watch a gameplay, but this streaming shits and their viewers are going to far i guess. People talking like they know streamers personally, i really cant stand this para-social relationship that is going on with streamers and their viewers. And some even get a fuck ton money from it, like i really don't get it.
Thank you for coming to my ted talk..

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

I’m not in love with my wife and I’m still here because of her money

I don’t love my wife. I’m not sure if I ever did.
We’ve been married for eight years. She makes most of the money. The house is hers. Our life works because of her income, and that’s the real reason I’m still married.
I cheat on her. I don’t tell myself it’s okay, but I also don’t stop. It’s never emotional. It’s just something I do because I feel empty and disconnected, and because I can.
She trusts me completely. That’s the part that keeps me up at night. She talks about our future like it’s a given, like we’re solid. I go along with it. I say the right things. I play my part.
People would say I should just leave. The truth is I’m scared. I don’t want to lose the comfort, the stability, the life I didn’t really earn on my own. I know that makes me selfish.
She deserves someone who actually loves her. I know that. I just don’t know if I’m brave enough to blow everything up and be honest.
I needed to say it somewhere, even if it’s here

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

My friend is mean

Hi Reddit,
I recently told my friend in casual conversation about an artistic hobby I always wanted to try as a kid.
The hobby I wanted to try was too expensive for the family, so I never could.
She told me “why would you admit you are a wannabe”
I feel hurt that I opened up about something I always dreamed of doing and being brushed off like that.
It doesn’t help that she’s been an a-hole lately, so maybe that was just the cherry on top.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can let this dream go and not feel hurt by a comment like this?

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

My mom is my biggest hater

It doesnt even get to me, hasn't since like 14ish. I just think "damn, thats something else" whenever she does it.
For context shes VERY materialistic, it doesnt take a genius or a marriage counselor to see shes a horrible wife. Her entire life has been about "me, me and me" what can you do for me? What purpose do you serve in my life? And so on. She has never held a job in her life (not joking, her resume includes "stay at home mom" even though she was a horrible mother and her youngest kid is 22) and shes very money hungry. Nothing dad does is ever good enough for her even though he works his ass off.
Anyway so before I bought my house i paid 1750 im rent. I lived a very frugal, bare bone expenses life. Once in a blue moon id buy something for myself. Her comments always included "wasting money(rent)" when id buy myself something "pues como tines dinero" passive aggressive "you've got money"
When I bought my house "I hope you dont lose it" "you couldve bought a better house" (its a fixer upper) ive been fixing stuff since I bought it and ill be talking to dad about the stuff ive been doing and mom would just come around "well you got money, hopefully you don't get foreclosed"
Rep

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

Looking for a study partner (UG Geography – 2nd year)

Hi! I’m a UG Geography 2nd year student, and I’m looking for a genuine study partner to stay consistent and motivated.
We can discuss topics, share notes, solve doubts , and keep each other accountable.
Online study is totally fine. If you’re serious about studying and improving.

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 10, 2026

Saturday night bored af life cant be more doomed

Looking to chat with people casually i mean if our vibe matches ofcourse it would be very cool too.
I mean lets catch up tell me about ur life lets share cool things together i am in my late teens. Tell me why u r bored and idk lets kill time maybe we would actually be person for each other

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 9, 2026

If you're incapable of violence, you're not peaceful -- you're harmless.

Just thought I'd put that out there.

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 9, 2026

Do you attend your high school reunions? Or your college or military reunions?

I had very few friends in high school so I never felt it was necessary to go to my high school reunions. Same with college.
Plus, now that Facebook exists, if I want to see what my old classmates look like now, I can just find many of them online anyway.
What about you? Do you go to any of your reunions?

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 9, 2026

Struggling with emotions

I was asked recently by my ex if I loved him because I needed him, or if I needed him because I loved him. I have been pondering this question all week. Which was it? I am not sure. Maybe that’s why he is now my ex. How does one know the difference and does it matter why you love someone?

Lada Subašić

@heavytiger719502 · Jan 9, 2026

My friend got married last month and their planning process was so different from what I expected

My best friend got married last month in Portland and I was pretty involved in the whole thing since I was in the wedding party. I guess I always thought wedding planning was like picking a venue and a dress and that's mostly it but there were so many random things they had to figure out that I never even thought about.
Like they had to decide on insurance stuff because she works for a startup with better benefits than his company has. And whether to change names, which turned into this whole thing because she's published research papers under her current name. And a bunch of legal paperwork I didn't know existed. Also seating charts are apparently a nightmare and take weeks because his parents are divorced and don't get along and don't even get me started on the vendor contracts and deposit timelines.
They've been together since college so like 7 years but apparently there's still stuff that comes up during planning that they'd never talked about before.
I'm not engaged or anything but now I'm kind of wondering what other stuff I have no clue about. It was just interesting seeing it all happen up close instead of just showing up to the wedding at the end.
Did anyone else feel this way watching someone close to them get married or going through it yourself?