why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time
i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard
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CMV: People should stop using the argument that Native Americans should be referred to as members of their tribe instead
A lot of the time, when the argument comes up over what to call people who are descendants of the people who lived in the Americas (and generally who were in the US) before Columbus arrived (I will be referring to these people as Native Americans for simplicity), some people will say that those people should be and prefer to be referred to as members of their tribe. You shouldn't call them Native Americans, or Indigenous Americans, or anything else; you should call them the Navajo people or the Choctaw people.
But I feel this argument is senseless. Native Americans are each part of their own tribal nation, yes. But that doesn't mean using a word to collectively refer to them isn't useful, and that's why people are asking/debating over a term in the first place. Even if a term that fit that criteria would be referring to a highly diverse group of people, we already have and use terms like that for other groups of people. For example, people often use the words "European" and "Asian", even though, like "Native American" and other terms for those people, those words refer to people from many different nations and many different cultures, religions, languages, and ethnicities. Having a
Why do I feel like something very good just about to go right in my life
I’ve (M21) had a lot of bad stuff happened these past couple of years and I’ve made a lot of changes recently that we’re kind of scary in life and for some reason I have a feeling that stuff is about to start going very right in my life
I have a lot of dreams and goals. I want to pursue this year and some of them are very outlandish and I’d rather not say what they are because I feel like I’m gonna get made fun of a bit
I just have a really good feeling in my heart and in my gut and I don’t know why but I feel like a whole lot is about to go right for me and that I’m gonna reach my dreams and stuff this year. I just feel really good about it and usually don’t feel good about stuff.
I miss feeling genuinely excited about something
I’ve been thinking about how rare that “can’t wait for tomorrow” feeling is now. Like when you were a kid and you’d be excited over the smallest things
These days things are… okay, but the excitement is muted. I’m not depressed, just kind of numb to the usual stuff.
Do you ever get that feeling? What’s something that still makes you genuinely excited?
I was rejected without even doing anything.
I've known this girl for almost two years. We're not friends, but I like talking to her. I think she's cool.
We've been talking a lot these days, and yesterday was her birthday. Today she mentioned that she got some perfumes as gifts, and apparently she knows a lot about perfume. I mentioned that someone once complained about my perfume, saying its for man from the streets. She agreed and said it was a “mainstream” perfume, so I asked her for a perfume suggestion. Her response was “You should ask the person who's going to smell you.” Like, tf? I don't think I'll ever recover from this.
What's your favorite quiet moment in the day
That one moment when things slow down a bit. Curious what it is for others. I think we all have that one special moment in the day that feels like a little pocket of peace, even if everything else around us is chaos. For some people it might be early in the morning before anyone else wakes up, when the house is silent and you can have your coffee in peace. For others it might be during a commute, or a walk at lunchtime, or those few minutes after the kids have gone to bed. There's something really restorative about having even just a few minutes where you're not required to be "on" for anyone else, where you can just exist. What's your favorite quiet moment in the day? Is it intentional, or does it just happen naturally? And what do you usually do during that time—do you actively enjoy the silence, think about things, or just decompress?
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