Emotional tension with a coworker in a position of authority is exhausting me
I just need to vent because this situation has been weighing on me for a long time.
Since the very beginning of my job, there has been a strong connection between me and a coworker who is in a higher position than me. Over time, we grew close. There’s obvious chemistry, flirting, sexual jokes, lingering looks. It’s not subtle. You can see it in our eyes. It feels mutual, but also unspoken, like we’re both afraid to cross a line.
I’m in my late 20s and he’s in his late 30s, which sometimes makes the dynamic feel even more complicated.
We’re both rather shy in general when it comes to emotional or romantic situations. He tends to be reserved, and I am too, which I think has contributed to how much remains unspoken between us.
There is also physical closeness between us. Nothing explicit, but frequent touches that feel charged brushing hands, standing very close, small moments of contact that don’t feel accidental. Alongside that, he’s very caring toward me checking in on me, being gentle, attentive, and protective in a way that feels personal, not just professional.
When I first started working there, coworkers told me that before I joined, he had said he didn’t want a relationship a
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How to let go of unrequited feelings?
I had a coworker who I developed feelings for overtime. She's super attractive, has a warm personality and we had a lot in common. We were messaging each other over the last summer, but eventually it stopped. Long story short, her boyfriend didn't want her texting me any longer which I respected when she told me, but sometime after she began acting distant in person. I wasn't working with her for a couple months, until last week when I had a few shifts with her and we reconnected. Those feelings came rushing back, even though I know it's not realistic. I also made the mistake of reaching out to her over text only to be left on read after a few messages.
I can't get her out of my head. I always keep comparing other people to her. I really need some advice here to move on.
My friend is mean
Hi Reddit,
I recently told my friend in casual conversation about an artistic hobby I always wanted to try as a kid.
The hobby I wanted to try was too expensive for the family, so I never could.
She told me “why would you admit you are a wannabe”
I feel hurt that I opened up about something I always dreamed of doing and being brushed off like that.
It doesn’t help that she’s been an a-hole lately, so maybe that was just the cherry on top.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can let this dream go and not feel hurt by a comment like this?
There’s a type of woman we don’t dislike nearly enough - the “being drunk is my personality” woman
This is NOT an anti-woman post, and it’s less the woman part, it’s just that there is this very distinct type of woman whose whole ass personality is that she’s a fucking menace to society while drunk.
I have four sisters, older than all four. Those four sisters have historically come with friends. I’ve had three long term girlfriends, all of whom also came with friends.
When girls drink, they break off into four types of drunk:
The sobber, who starts rethinking all her life choices up to and including the most recent guy she let put his dick inside her (and for some reason that soaks up a solid 35-40% of what she wants to talk about).
The funny goofball, who starts playing board games in unconventional ways, singing songs without being prepared for anything but the chorus, telling genuinely funny jokes.
The oddly serious girl who starts making life altering decisions right then and there. Relationships get ended by these women. Friendships dissolved. Jobs quit. Secrets exposed.
And… the menace. The menace is the worst because there’s not even a hint of emotion but for her just wanting to fuck shit up. And you know what? I don’t even believe these women are that drunk. I’ve been ou
I’m drunk, British, but I think it’s a shame we can’t rely on America (USA) anymore
I’m a 35 year old guy, and from my experience America has always been a contentious topic. They had the best TV shows, the best games, the best everything when I was growing up in the 90s. Sure… my parents thought they were obnoxious and loud, but those were fairly small complaints.
I don’t think that’s the case anymore and I’m just sharing my perspective even though I’m far from sober and know this is contentious
<<< and this is where you’ll have to excuse me because I was 12… and maybe if I was 35 things would have seemed as bleak as they are right now >>>
Then things went bad in the 2000s, you went to war and we followed you. This was not the most popular thing to happen, triggering huge protests in the UK. However I think generally people understood why it happened and why the American people were so angry. Even though a lot of people didn’t agree with it, a lot of them “understood”
So time goes by and these “wars” continue but after the initial years it doesn’t really impact Europe, we pull out and the US stay there…
People within America seemed to be pretty happy though… your freedoms were expanding, you could love who you want to love, smoke what you want to smoke… worry le
Honestly I think my neighbors actually like being heard through these thin walls
It’s honestly weird. I can hear my neighbors being so loud during their private moments that there’s no way they don’t realize the whole building hears it. Every time it happens I just sit there thinking about it. Do they genuinely not care. Or is being heard actually part of it for them.
I’m not even angry. Just confused. Whenever I remember how thin the walls are I automatically lower my voice or turn the TV down. It’s a reflex. But with them it feels like that switch just doesn’t exist. Maybe some people really move through life without thinking about anyone around them. I honestly don’t know. It definitely makes living here… awkward.
My husband was cheating on me with my best friend and I accidentally got him arrested…
I (31 female) am telling this story about my now husband (32 male) about 5 months after the truth came out. I feel the need to protect my husband and my relationship so I haven’t told my friends or most of my family but I have felt the urge to share my story because it’s quite insane so buckle up.
5 months ago, my friend stormed into my apartment first thing in the morning, he screamed through the place that my husband was a lying, cheating piece of shit and I needed to know the truth. At this point we had been married for over a year and, as it turned out, my friend was dating the woman my husband (then boyfriend) cheated on me with.
Turns out, the summer before we got engaged, my husband had a 3 month affair with a coworker of his (mid 20s female). The real kicker? The entire time by husband was encouraging me to befriend this girl because “we’re so similar and would get along so well.” Well he was partially right and this girl became my best friend for the next year. To the point that she lived with us for a couple weeks then moved into an apartment in our complex just across the car park.
I know now that the affair ended 9 days before my husband and I were engaged when they hoo
Anyone remember the optimism around the Arab spring
I remember being in middle school learning about the Arab spring as it was happening and then in high school about the reasons for the protests yet I find it kinda sad how it didn’t change much. Egypt and Tunisia seem to be under a dictatorship more authoritarian, corrupt and as incompetent than the previous governments. Syria just ended(?) a civil war yet the country is in shambles and parts of the country are still in war, the gulf states are still under theoretical monarchy. Only nation I can think of that’s improved has been Lebanon.
Kinda sad a movement of so much optimism and hope turned into nothing but conflicts.
My husband is not my soulmate
Me (28F) and my husband (36M) got married 6 years ago. We have a very happy life and I feel so lucky. we rarely argue and have two beautiful children together but he is not my soulmate. I love him, but I know deep down there are people out there who would be more compatible for me. I feel like our souls are on different levels if that makes any sense. I don’t plan on leaving him and know we are going to continue to have an amazing life together, but he’s just not my soulmate.
Starting a business
My buddy just started a painting business as a side gig and he asked me to help him get it off the ground. I’ve never painted houses but I paint battleships for work so I’m pretty experienced. The conditions are: I have to find the work.
I’m looking for advice on how to grow this business as far as advertising and presentation goes. Any help is appreciated!
How to respond to jokes or being teased?
When people would tease me I would just awkwardly smile back. I don’t know what else to say back to it. I get when ppl are joking just idk how to respond.
What should I do then?
Did anyone else only notice things got better after they already did?
I didn’t have a big moment where I realized life was improving. It just slowly hit me that my days felt lighter, my routine felt easier, and I wasn’t overthinking every little thing anymore. Nothing dramatic changed, it just happened over time.
I’m curious if anyone else has noticed something like this, where you only realize you’re doing okay when you compare how the same day would’ve felt a while ago.
Do people still wear evening gowns/dresses to the opera?
I’m going to the opera for the first time in a couple of months and I really want to wear a floor length evening dress, but I don’t know if people still wear black tie to the opera and I don’t want look like a right twat, or like an uncultured person who overdresses for things.
Would I look out of place in formalwear? This is the dress, for reference. https://clubllondon.com/products/ariana-pink-cross-neck-maxi-dress-with-cape-cl136074322
Thanks everyone! I did look at the opera subreddit but it was full of Americans and their ideas about dress codes and appropriate attire can be different.
I thought this would be a good place to get some relevant British opinions lol
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I'm giving them one more week
Okay, fuck it...
Last year, I came home from the military. My country has a draft, and my parents, both former naval officers, innundated me with sickly sweet encouragement about what a great time I'm gonna have, but would hesitate the moment I'd ask about trying to get an exemption. I was almost going to, but having just gone 18, I wasn't in any state to say no.
Well, instead of being like summer camp, that year ended in a fucking seizure from being so overworked, my body gave out. So they feel intense regret, but don't know what to do with it, I try to appreciate the constant "little things" from my parents, but my dad will sit with me, hear about that year, cry, but then still ask if I got to use any cool guns.
My mother does modelling, it's already awkward enough when she drags me out on trips she's hoping will be entertaining and I have to explain that she's my mother, not my fucking wife, and then she's scrolling through her photos and says I look like a badass in a uniform, I don't know why either of them think the way they're acting is appropriate.
I genuinely can not take this constant cycle of getting mad at them, them feeling genuinely awful, wanting to make up for it, not knowing how, getting mad at them and then feeling guilt for getting mad.
I'm giving them one week. Either they can genuinely help make this year a good one, unlike the last, like they promised, or I'm leaving the goddamn country.
New year plans are always fail?
My new plan is, like I thought I would go to the gym every day from 1st Jan, but I don't feel like I am going anymore. Anytips What should I do?
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