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@smallpanda323922 · Jan 12, 2026 10:46 am

My (26M) girlfriend (26F) of 8 years cheated with a married woman, rewrote our relationship as abusive, and now blames m

Im a 26M and my girlfriend 26F of 8 years cheated on me for about four months with a married women who has two children and is about 8 years older than her. I discovered the affair myself.
Whats been hardest to process is that during those same months, my girlfriend and i were actively planning our future together. At the same she was doing this with the married women.
After discoving the affair, I found messages between my ex and this married women saying she realized ive been abusing her for 8 years and I was a terrible boyfriend. The narrative appeared suddenly and only after the afair started. This was never raised with me, friends, or family during our relationship.
During our relationship her family and friends only praised me. Ive supported her through career struggles, health issues, anxiety, and emotion regulation. Im not saying i was perfect but the total rewriting of our relationship feels disconnected from reality.
Two weeks after the affair, I tried to have a calm conversation with her. I asked whether, someday we could remain as friends, since we grew together for 8 years. This conversation went badly. She snapped at me and said I ruined her life, physically harmed he

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@ticklishbear212897 · Jan 11, 2026 8:44 pm

To quote the The Clash: "Should I stay or should I go now?"

Need some advice. I work for a very large company in a specialized role and have been there for 2 years. About 3 months ago, we got a new CIO, and there was an upper management shakeup. The new regime decided they wanted to get rid of on-prem servers and either move to Cloud or SAAS Hosting. If they go to the cloud, I am safe, but if what I oversee goes to SAAS, then I am done immediately. They have not been communicating what they are learning, and told me back in late October, I would know by Thanksgiving, which became X-Mas, then became the 1st of the year. Now I am being told that in early Spring, they will decide. I find it incredibly stressful, and it really put a damper on my Holidays and trying to enjoy them with young kids at home. So I am looking for some non-biased feedback. Should I hang tight, or should I start aggressively looking?
Just to add a quick edit - The stress has really gotten to me. I have voiced my concerns and even had a few outbursts on conference calls. One of the most frustrating things is I have to constantly ask (once a week) one a status update, and they act like I am being unreasonable for wanting to know.