Reached a long term goal, now I’m there I’m wondering if it’s what I really wanted.
I had been trying to land a specific job in a specific industry for a long time, it was incredibly hard to get the job I wanted and I was convinced it would make me happy.
I felt elated to get the offer, but as my start date inched closer I got gradually less excited, and now I’m at the job I don’t feel motivated or excited much, if not at all. The earning potential is great, the hours will get better etc etc, this isn’t a dead end job, I feel I should be excited now I’m finally where I want to be.
I’ve long been someone motivated by proving to myself that I’m good enough for something and I’m wondering if my motivation to break into this industry was really just to prove to myself that I’m good enough and not that I really wanted the job.
Anyone else dealt with this at all and how did you deal with it?
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I got sick at school today and while I waited for the nurse. Someone asked me what I had. People had already wished me Shabbat Shalom as I was wearing a Yarmulk
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Me and the way I interact with people
I actually find it funny and confusing how I feel sad about being lonely and not having anyone to talk to when I feel really bad/really happy
But at the same time I distance myself from people who makes an effort to get close at me and then try to get close at people who distance themselves from me/don't like me much
If anyone feels the same way as well, do you have any idea why? I would like to understand or solve this to be honest
also I like starting relationships (friendships) but I don't maintain it. any reason why? and how can I fix this
When people disrespect me, I cut them off completely.
Hi. I (25) am really introverted, and while I am really energetic with very specific people I am close and comfortable with, I have trouble standing up for myself and saying no and demanding respect. I think I would consider myself kind and empathetic. People see this as either something good or something they can take advantage of.
When people disrespect me, I just laugh and act like everything's fine. But I am not. I find it difficult to say right there in their face that it's not okay to treat me like that. Instead, I cut them off completely from my life. If it's school or work and I can't cut them off immediately, I try my best to be very simple and try to avoid them the best I can. Then, when I graduate or move jobs, I block them everywhere and make sure I never see them ever again.
I wanted rant a bit about my experience with scounting
Gotta be honest here, this is my very first time ranting like this. I usually avoid ranting because it can often lead to arguments. For not getting out of the subject, I wanted to rant about my experience with scounting. Because honestly...I don't like it. I'm fully disinterest in everything. I hate doing knots, I hate singing those songs, I hate doing the "kim games" (i think that's how they were called) and what I hate more is begin yelled by my scout patrol (consider that half of the day I study, meaning that whatever I go there I'm so tired that everytime we do the games I get extremely confused). Does anyone feels like this? (Also, sorry if I did some grammar errors. I'm a Italian so English isn't my first language).
Is there actually anything wrong with writing nonsensical names on posted birthday cards?
Several years ago a friend misspelt my name on a birthday card, and every year since then we have sent each other birthday cards with more and more elaborate names.
I’ve just posted his card, addressed to Reverend Jørmund Gammonsnacker, but realised I don’t know if this is something we shouldn’t be doing (aside from being very childish, granted).
I appreciate if some hilarious postie left a “sorry we missed you” card then he’d have to go without a birthday message, but is there actually anything wrong with this, or is it just a harmless bit of fun?
Just in case there is indeed a Reverend Gammonsnacker somewhere in the world, my friend recognises my handwriting and would likely double-check if he wasn’t sure it was from me, anyway.
Edit: thanks everybody! Also accepting more nonsense name suggestions - puns not needed, just far-fetched.
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