Was I the other woman without knowing? Now he’s married and I can’t stop wondering…
I’m 28F and he’s 29M. We met through work, and although we live in different states, I fly regularly because I oversee three properties for my company. When he first confessed his feelings, I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship because I was still healing from a breakup. Despite that, he continued pursuing me for about a year.
During that time, I heard from others that he had been engaged to someone for eight years. He told me they had broken up, and there was nothing on Facebook to prove otherwise. He put in a lot of effort - flying to see me, talking to me every day - but there were moments that made me suspicious. Once while we were FaceTiming, I heard a woman yelling before he abruptly hung up. He later claimed it was a homestay guest he was looking after and even sent photos and videos of a male university student as “proof.” He also always had excuses for why I couldn’t visit his house.
Then I saw his supposed ex-fiancée comment on an Instagram post of a house saying, “Looks like ours.” When I confronted him, he said they were still on good terms. I told him I might message her, and he said “Go ahead,” which weirdly made me doubt myself and think maybe he wasn’t lying.
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CMV: economy size / GDP and true military capabilities are very loosely related things
I often see people comparing Europe and Russia with the tone like "well, Russia's economy is like 15x smaller, it's ridiculous we are getting bullied by them". Or "they can't even take Ukraine, of course it's ridiculous to think they have any chance in Europe".
This is IMO a dangerously naive view. High GDP means you likely have a lot of high tech, a developed service economy, probably some very advanced military tech. But it absolutely doesn't guarantee that:
- you're spending large % of GDP on army to begin with
- you have a large and actually trained army that that combat experience in any large war, or large number of people in the population with some sort of military training you can quickly draft
- you have huge stockpile of ammo, artillery shells, oil/fuel to maintain some 100k people army for a year
- you have leaders willing to go to war
- you are willing to enact marshal law and boost defense spending by 3x or 5x or 10x.
- your population will have enough volunteers to go fight, or you could efficiently forcibly draft enough people without causing massive social unrest
- you are willing to lose million people dead and wounded without colossal shock for the country
Tell me I’m wrong
I feel that everyone around me isn’t pulling there weight and that the world has become way to selfish.
I went for a walk today and a woman told me that I was in her way she needed space. I was 10 feet away and she was walking towards me I was on the right side of the sidewalk. I didn’t move and as she passed me she said thanks for nothing.
I might be old but what happened to people.
Something in this world needs to change,
Feeling lost in life
I'm returning to university after a year's break due to mental health issues. It should be a positive thing, but I no longer have any interest or motivation to study academically. When I started my studies several years ago, I actually enjoyed it, but now it's like all that has disappeared. Nothing about university feels interesting anymore. I feel completely lost. I've tried to apply to other universities in the past, but I wasn't successful and also didn't know what I was looking for. I don't know what's wrong, should I just force myself through university or find something else to do? Finding a simple job doesn't actually sound so bad at the moment, but everyone in my family says that I should invest in my education and get a degree. But it's probably true as others say, that a job without higher education doesn't provide high income. Not sure why I'm writing this, maybe to get some new perspectives. Thank you for reading.
I am jealous of my sister and I am starting to resent her for it
I have been contemplating to write about this for quite some time because I simply feel stupid for even feeling that way.
I (f22) have an older sister (f29), who I get along with quite well in general until recently. 10 years ago my sister moved far away to go to university and came home maybe twice a year due to the distance. She kept in touch with our family with weekly calls but that was it.
However two years ago she moved closer to home again and as a result now visits us at least once a month for a few days and I have started comparing myself to her.
For starters my sister has an engineering degree and works for a big company. She is lucky enough to work remotely and makes good money. I on the other hand am an EMT. While the salary is nice, the job is draining emotionally and physically in a way I never imagined. The shift work is exhausting and I barely have a social life due to that.
My sister on the other hand has plenty of free time due to her kind of work and has a good social life even though she is more of an introvert.
She lives in a gorgeous apartment with the sweetest cat ever while I still live at home due to the cost of living. I cannot help see myself as a fail, c
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I realized I don’t actually enjoy being “productive” anymore
For a long time, I liked the feeling of being productive full days, packed to-do lists, always moving.
Lately though, it feels different.
Not bad, just… hollow.
The moments that feel best now are the quiet ones where nothing is being optimized or tracked. No goal attached.
I didn’t expect that shift, and I’m still figuring out what it means.
Has anyone else felt something like that?
Does anyone else actually enjoy quiet evenings, or am I the odd one out?
I’m 24, work in tech, and I’ve realized my favorite part of the day is when things get… quiet. No loud music, no chaos — just a walk, a café, or sitting with my thoughts pretending I’m not overthinking.
Everyone around me seems to love clubbing and loud plans, and I’m over here getting excited about good filter coffee, long walks, and calm conversations about random things like work, life, or why buses never show up on time.
So I’m curious —
What does a *perfect calm evening* look like for you?
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