Single wishing for family
Alright so I’m still young and I know I have time but I feel fucking unlovable.
I have had a tough childhood (not financially, just relationship wise) and I have dreamed of being a mum since I was young - while studying, doing sports and travelling the world, I’ve always said my biggest wish has always been to be a mum one day and have a family in my own.
I have however been single my whole life, never even had a situationship.
I live in central Europe and I just can’t talk with the boys for more than 10 minutes - they genuinely seem so immature. I don’t have this issue with Americans or Brits (it was not holidays talks, they are my actual friends) but I live fuckin elsewhere.
If there’s a man I can talk to in my country or the countries around they’re usually close to/in their 30’s when the issue starts because I’m still at uni and not looking to settle down asap.
Men there just cannot respect I am a Christian as well and the moment they ask “after how long can I first give a guy what he wants?” And I say I’d prefer to wait the conversation is over because for them is two weeks only.
I just feel so lost.
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2 months post sa. ive got no clue what to do.
two months ago, i was assaulted in my car by my then-partner. we broke up the next day. i got away, but i still feel like they're looming over me.
we're classmates and i can't ever actually get away from them. i see them in hallways, in the elevators, on the streets around the building. it freaks me out.
i haven't felt safe on my own in ages. i have to have someone around me at all times. my best friend literally has taken to letting me drive her around to nowhere in particular so i can feel comfortable in my own car.
i have nightmares every night about being assaulted. therapy, melatonin, cigarettes have done nothing to help. i put off sleeping to avoid it. when i do sleep, i have to have a sleep mask on, a weighted blanket tucked under me, and asmr playing to have someone reassuring me im safe.
it feels stupid. i feel unmanly. i feel weak. i can't do anything anymore. it makes me feel like im drowning.
if anyone has any tips on moving on, on coping with this stuff, i'd really appreciate it.
There’s a type of woman we don’t dislike nearly enough - the “being drunk is my personality” woman
This is NOT an anti-woman post, and it’s less the woman part, it’s just that there is this very distinct type of woman whose whole ass personality is that she’s a fucking menace to society while drunk.
I have four sisters, older than all four. Those four sisters have historically come with friends. I’ve had three long term girlfriends, all of whom also came with friends.
When girls drink, they break off into four types of drunk:
The sobber, who starts rethinking all her life choices up to and including the most recent guy she let put his dick inside her (and for some reason that soaks up a solid 35-40% of what she wants to talk about).
The funny goofball, who starts playing board games in unconventional ways, singing songs without being prepared for anything but the chorus, telling genuinely funny jokes.
The oddly serious girl who starts making life altering decisions right then and there. Relationships get ended by these women. Friendships dissolved. Jobs quit. Secrets exposed.
And… the menace. The menace is the worst because there’s not even a hint of emotion but for her just wanting to fuck shit up. And you know what? I don’t even believe these women are that drunk. I’ve been ou
Should I get both ears pierced with real diamonds for a man with a classic style?
I'm a 48-year-old architect with a classic style: I wear a shirt, blazer, pleated trousers, and tassel loafers every day. For my birthday, my wife wants to give me real round diamonds, 4 millimeters in diameter, set in yellow gold (like the ones women wear). She thinks it's really sophisticated and sexy for a man, and she'd like everyone to see me with real diamonds in my ears, even at the office. My wife has also talked to our two daughters (11 and 13), who are actively supporting this idea. I really want to, but I'm a little hesitant. I talked to a friend who said, "Why get your ears pierced with real diamonds, like women do?" "This has rekindled my fears: how will a 48-year-old man with a classic and discreet style like mine be perceived with his ears soon to be pierced with real diamonds, sparkling, almost feminine? Should I do it? Thank you for your advice."
I’m learning to sit with my feelings instead of rushing to change them
It’s uncomfortable, but also kind of grounding. Not everything needs an immediate solution
I'm not ready for a relationship
So I just started dating this guy. It's been about two weeks. It was very sudden. He asked me to be his girlfriend with an hours of meeting him and I've never been in a relationship so I thought why not if it doesn't work out then we break up, but I actually really like the guy and I want to work out. He's very sweet and attentive unfortunately he lives three hours away. We met while he was on vacation visiting his family. And I have the wandering feeling to go on hinge or Tinder or hit up one of my old links. I literally feel my finger going to the App Store and I have to stop myself. I buy myself thinking about pass hook ups. I'm not gonna do that. I don't think I have it in me, but I also don't think I have it in me to give up this relationship quite yet because I think I should give it a chance there's a lot that I can learn about myself by being with this man. There's honestly a lot that I could gain in the meantime I just don't know how much longer I can keep this up like yeah I could do it for another month for sure in the hopes that eventually I fall in love with them so I won't want to essentially cheat on him. But he was here for like a week and a half and now he's just g
19F Posting myself on looksmaxxing communities ruined my life
I've always been insecure in my apperance since I was a kid, I was always chubbier than other children my age. I struggled with binge eating/disordered eating for a while and once I graduated high school and started college, end of 2024, I was finally feeling confident and felt happy about myself. I had gained a bit of weight since I went through a breakup and spent a lot of it binge eating, but It was also when I felt the most confident in myself and I finally felt like I was worth people being nice to me or even just being out in public.
That all changed, I was talking to me friend about those looksmaxxing communties or other subreddits where they objectivily rate you. I was in a bit of a depressive episode at the time and I wasn't as happy about myself as I usually were and I posted myself, I didn't tell anybody around me. I just got too curious and I wondered what they would say.
In a matter of minutes my comments were flood with people saying how I was a "3/10, 4/10 if you lost the weight", that my only bet was to "reincarnate", or that I was subhuman. I knew I shouldn't let it get to me, but I couldn't stop thinking about it. My insecurity really hurt me because one of the on
I’m scared of the police where I live.
The police where I live are constantly being arrested themselves, stalking, harassment, even certain crimes involving minors. Now a more, let’s go with “aggressive” police force is around and they don’t get arrested regardless of what crimes they commit, assault or murder, it still leads to nothing. People near me are being imprisoned and forced out of their homes. Our government says it’s only if you commit crimes but the people they attack show differently. I was born here, but I no longer feel safe. I hope I can leave soon.
I feel like I'm fighting tooth and nail to avoid becoming an incel.
God, it's ridiculously hard to try to do anything other than drawing in my sketchbook all day. I feel like a piece of shit, but everything even slightly productive in the real world just gives me the jitters. If I keep at my life in the way I am, I'm actually going to become not much better than an incel. Maybe, I already am... I'm going through multiple job applications and I'm buying groceries for my parents just so I can see the sun at least once a week. Other than that, I don't really know what to do, honestly. I'm probably not going to know what to do ***after*** I get past this either.
I’m gen z and I hate how social media companies have ruined everything
When I was in highschool I often felt like people outside of my friend group didn’t want to have conversations with me. Maybe it’s just me overthinking a couple instances. When Covid happened I went to this highschool and met some old friend. I tried talking to him about literally anything and he didn’t seem to care he was on his phone the whole time, and very unresponsive. I can’t help but feel kids are becoming less interesting and lacking personality because of how much time they spend on their phones rather than having genuine conversations. I have 2 younger sisters and they aren’t “iPad kids” thank god. All this stupid AI stuff there trying to shove down our throats hasn’t benefited me in any way and I don’t know how it’s beneficial at all when you can just look something up on the internet. It really feels like companies nowadays don’t care what they make and as long as they advertise a billion times and make money they will keep making it. It feels like technology has just stopped advancing and now it’s just stupid stuff that’s advertised as the future when really it doesn’t do anything. I hate that meta needs to know every inkling about you they own a lot of social media co
A notification popped up...
So I use instagram on my browser usually so that I don't waste much time scrolling reels on the app. A friend asked me my username and I wanted to recheck it so I opened the site and saw 2 notifications there. One was a follow request and the other was a 'like' on my comment. I opened it. It read, "you're gorgeous." Weird! I don't usually comment. Moreover, it was on a girl's picture I was seeing for the first time. And that too from a different continent. And guess what she was the same girl whose request was there in the notifications. I was very confused. I deleted it. At first, I thought my account must be hacked. Then I searched and found out that this must be a glitch or I might have forgotten it. A glitch, right?
Anybody else experienced this?
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