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Logan Willis
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Some emotional patterns repeat in every relationship
I started noticing that different people triggered the same reactions in me.
Same fears. Same expectations. Same disappointments.
It made me realize something uncomfortable:
Sometimes it’s not the relationship — it’s the pattern we bring into it.
Until those patterns are seen, they tend to repeat, no matter who the person is.
Not advice.
Just an observation.
I saw another girl getting molested in the club
I saw a girl getting assaulted in the club. She was as pushed on the table, her chest bare, a guy was touching her chest and was between her legs. I pushed him away but I could not take a pic of him or hold him in place. We took her to the bathrooms and only the she realized what happened and we comforted her. We tried to report to the club staff but they just said “just report to the police”. We are foreigners in another country, so they were not really helpful. I asked if they had cameras (in the country’s language) and they pretended not to understand. The girl was crying in my arms and then in my friends arms. I did not know what to do and then finally she went with her friends, we told the whole story to them and they said they would go to the police. I could not remember those guys faces, so I could not help at all. I don’t want to make it about me but I feel awful and angry and disgusted by all the men standing there and just watching. Nobody was helping until I just went and pushed this guy who was bigger and taller than me. Him and the friend just went away and I did not have the presence of mind to stop them or take a picture of them, so there is no chance to report the
why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time
i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard
How to respond to jokes or being teased?
When people would tease me I would just awkwardly smile back. I don’t know what else to say back to it. I get when ppl are joking just idk how to respond.
What should I do then?
Starting a business
My buddy just started a painting business as a side gig and he asked me to help him get it off the ground. I’ve never painted houses but I paint battleships for work so I’m pretty experienced. The conditions are: I have to find the work.
I’m looking for advice on how to grow this business as far as advertising and presentation goes. Any help is appreciated!
My friend is mean
Hi Reddit,
I recently told my friend in casual conversation about an artistic hobby I always wanted to try as a kid.
The hobby I wanted to try was too expensive for the family, so I never could.
She told me “why would you admit you are a wannabe”
I feel hurt that I opened up about something I always dreamed of doing and being brushed off like that.
It doesn’t help that she’s been an a-hole lately, so maybe that was just the cherry on top.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can let this dream go and not feel hurt by a comment like this?
Why do I care what people think so much? Am I crazy?
I don’t know why, but lately I’ve been looking back at past experiences and just cringing. A lot of it involved alcohol, which I own, but there was also a period in my life when I had a tumor in my neck and I genuinely felt off….like my behavior wasn’t fully “me” at the time. Mostly my coworkers had to see a nervous person.
I’m trying to give myself grace, but I can’t help thinking about all the people I crossed paths with back then and worrying they think I’m crazy. And when I drink too much, I definitely act like… a drunk, which doesn’t help. I’ve never had anything bad happen but I’m talking like getting emotional, mad at people who were rude, and just idk.
I’m doing Dry January right now and realizing I probably care way too much about what people think of me. Has anyone else felt this way? looking back and cringing, or worrying about how they’re perceived?
I saw another girl getting molested in the club
I saw a girl getting assaulted in the club. She was as pushed on the table, her chest bare, a guy was touching her chest and was between her legs. I pushed him away but I could not take a pic of him or hold him in place. We took her to the bathrooms and only the she realized what happened and we comforted her. We tried to report to the club staff but they just said “just report to the police”. We are foreigners in another country, so they were not really helpful. I asked if they had cameras (in the country’s language) and they pretended not to understand. The girl was crying in my arms and then in my friends arms. I did not know what to do and then finally she went with her friends, we told the whole story to them and they said they would go to the police. I could not remember those guys faces, so I could not help at all. I don’t want to make it about me but I feel awful and angry and disgusted by all the men standing there and just watching. Nobody was helping until I just went and pushed this guy who was bigger and taller than me. Him and the friend just went away and I did not have the presence of mind to stop them or take a picture of them, so there is no chance to report the
I do believe children should have self expression, but I fully believe children shouldn’t dress like adults.
I have both babysit and see Younger folks around me a And for a couple years now ivory like I see so like nine-year-olds wearing makeup it’s not just on like online you see like Pete kids do this all the time. Or wearing put together outfits that probably you’ll see an adult person anyway they’re like still and it’s like kind of weird there’s still have the face as a their age like just weird to me like, where is your like rainbows? I honestly find kids in general like really fun and sometimes I personally wanna fit me and I’m too old for it but like I just sad I don’t really see that anymore.
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I forgot to mention it’s mostly girls so
Why do I care what people think so much? Am I crazy?
I don’t know why, but lately I’ve been looking back at past experiences and just cringing. A lot of it involved alcohol, which I own, but there was also a period in my life when I had a tumor in my neck and I genuinely felt off….like my behavior wasn’t fully “me” at the time. Mostly my coworkers had to see a nervous person.
I’m trying to give myself grace, but I can’t help thinking about all the people I crossed paths with back then and worrying they think I’m crazy. And when I drink too much, I definitely act like… a drunk, which doesn’t help. I’ve never had anything bad happen but I’m talking like getting emotional, mad at people who were rude, and just idk.
I’m doing Dry January right now and realizing I probably care way too much about what people think of me. Has anyone else felt this way? looking back and cringing, or worrying about how they’re perceived?
My father had a secret affair while i was in high school. When it was discovered, he claimed he found Jesus. He has beco
I havent really told anyone this.
Class of 2011.
I remember my father being such a dick to me back then.
Ironic how hes the one who is the issue.
In light of the recent events happening in the US, i figured i would write my experience with whats happening.
My parents are very MAGA.
My father is an adulterer and im pretty sure my mother is a sociopath.
I'm an army veteran. I was a medic. My job put me in very sensative and critical situations that not only opened my mind to a world i had no idea existed, but it taught me about the human experience.
All humans suffer. We all want to be happy.
I am not perfect. I have made mistakes.
But i have a front row seat to these Christian Nationalist here in the US.
My father told me the reason i cried over a girl breaking up with me is because I'm "pussy whipped".
This man was literally having an affair during this.
This same man is a very proud Marine.
It's pretty world shattering joining the military to only learn a lot of them are trying to convince you they are the warrior they want ppl to think of them as soo badly.
"Home of the phony tough or the crazy brave."
Ive met a lot of phony tough.
It's a very strange time we live in.
But when i
how do i confront my mother about her being a lier?
for the record, im fifteen and my mother is a single mother.
i recently found out she has been using drugs almost excessively for about six years without me knowing and yes, i am aware im not her mother and that im not entitled to know everything she gets up to but how am i supposed to be honest to her when she isnt honest to me?
i also found out that she lied about how long we had to move house. she found out over a year ago that we were going to be evicted yet she told me over the phone six months later instead. i dont understand why she would keep that a secret for six months.
we havent been evicted because of rent or bad behaviour, our landlord hates being a landlord so he wants his properties back.
my friend believes that she didnt tell me these things to protect me but im strong, i know that. im not fragile and im not someone whos overly anxious or worried. my head is pretty screwed on and id say that i am mature and capable to handle things like this so i dont understand why she keeps secrets from me.
I was on the stairmaster for 10 minutes without stopping and I had a really good day today!
I just wanted to brag that I went on the stairmaster for 10 minutes straight without stopping for the first time! I know that doesn’t sound like a lot to more experience people, but I’ve only been on the stairmaster like twice and I could only do it for like one minute. This is a really big improvement for me! also this morning my mother made bagel sandwiches and they were so delicious and she made it with hot chocolate on the side and today I got my bed moved to the other side of the room because my old bedframe was blocking it and I really like it and for dinner, I hade some Chilaquiles with some hibiscus tea. It was delicious. I had a really nice shower my cable tv is working so I could watch Madagascar and I can practice on my Spanish (I live in Mexico, so the movies are in Spanish. ) I finally wrote in my diary. and I’m watching Amphibia. It’s a cartoon I really like.
That’s all i’m very proud of myself!🎊
CMV: Dissolve NATO and create a new European defense alliance
Or, rather, create a new European defense alliance and THEN dissolve NATO, if Trump doesn’t do it first.
With how unstable and unpredictable the US has shown itself to be, European nations cannot afford to rely on America when it comes to their safety. It was never really a good idea to begin with to have a defense alliance with a bunch of smaller countries essentially outsourcing their military to one big country on the other side of the Atlantic simply because it’s cheaper than building their own. With the creation of the EU, it also makes no sense. It only did because the Cold War was a battle between Western capitalism and Soviet socialism, and Western European countries were firmly in the former block. That ideological difference is all but irrelevant today, as Russia is not a communist regime but an oligarchic kleptocracy, while the US is in many respects just as authoritarian.
We see how Trump is leveraging NATO to get what he wants, such as Greenland. We see how European leaders are being sheepish and deferential despite it being an open secret they all despise him. This is not only undignified but unnecessary, given that Trump has no qualms about abandoning Europe if it se
CMV: Democrats need to be pro-gun
As we endure a trump term, most democrats are sounding the alarm. Erosion of democratic norms, illegal kidnapping of immigrants, racial profiling, flaunting of the judiciary, extremist rhetoric. It's bad.
If you think Trump is a threat, you need to be arming your community. There's no way around it. That needs to happen both culturally (being afraid of guns is not a luxury you have right now) and legislatively (state level and federally.) An armed minority is harder to oppress.
A common counterargument here is "what are civilians with rifles going to do against tanks and fighter jets?" This is silly for a few reasons. ICE doesn't have fighter jets or tanks. In the event of a civil war, there are going to be a million factors limiting the use of said weapons, and some of them will end up on both sides. Even then, Ukraine has taught us that an FPV drone mounted to a mortar shell can take out tanks.
In a sense, this is actually an argument AGAINST gun control. If we want civilians to have an edge, why not allow them a larger selection of weapons? Why not allow some limited purchases of explosives or full auto weapons? Should a suppressor really be a regulated item?
Some might argue th
CMV: "we cant have infinite growth in a finite world" is a dumb harmful idea
Why its dumb:
That is the whole point of technology! If resources are limited we find better ways to do valuable things with the existing ones. We have been doing this for centuries (or, arguably, since before we became homo sapiens sapiens)
There might be a limit to that, a point in which our technology is so great no significant improvement is possible (or at least not practical). But we are nowhere close to that. And any limits we might theorize today are based on our current understanding of physics, which is likely to change in the long timeframe it would take for us to reach the limit
And we have no reason to restrict ourselves to the resources of earth. We can - and should - colonize space. The moon. The planets, the asteroids and then the stars. And while we are at it we should do a dyson swarm of space stations around the sun. With multiple copies of earth biome if we want
Why its harmful:
It implies growth is bad. It isnt. Growth is what allows us to improve peoples lives. It means more food for the hungry, more medicine for the sick, more air conditioning between the tropics, more yatchs to the rich. If we want those that live in this planet to thrive we need to find way
CMV: Winning the 2028 Democratic primary will come down to who will deliver the most on affordability, even modestly, co
There seems to be 3 factions within the Democratic Party right now trying to prove they are the best in "building stuff" in the runup to 2028 primaries. Yes, Republicans like Gov.Spencer Cox of Utah and even controversially Gov.Greg Abbott of Texas are also making YIMBY reforms in their state; but the GOP image itself will have been so tarnished by 2028 that I don't think majority of Americans will consider voting for them no matter how well they govern at the state level.
And so, that leaves us with three wings of the Democratic party, each with their own version of Abundance, the next possible economic-political order in America. They each seem to be making their own "big gamble".
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1.) The Liberals-
Out in the West Coast and Sunbelt cities, we got the controversial liberal CA governor Newsom, the very lowkey liberal mayor Kirk Watson of Austin, & liberal CO governor Jared Polis. Newsom's big gamble seems to be this "prefab push" that he is going to do this new year of 2026 after many years of various reforms on permitting, zoning, and litigation techniques. Seems promising as there seems to be more prefab startup firms strongly considering
CMV: A Kobayashi Maru gambit at a political debate, with the right candidate, would be successful.
Let me explain.
For those unfamiliar, the Kobayashi Maru is a test of character in the Star Trek universe. The "commanding officer" is put into a "no win" situation to see how they will respond. That's the basics of it.
And I think it would take a very specific type of candidate, of either major political party, for this to be successful. Generally, I believe it would take an "outsider" candidate.
The general mechanics would work like this (the verbiage wouldn't be exactly like this, but you get the general idea).
During opening statements, this candidate (let's call them Candidate Real), as part of their opening statement, would simply assert that they are the only one on stage not performing. Everyone else (the other candidates and moderators), including the post-debate analysts, is performing.
That's the trap. Candidate Real has now excluded himself from the "game" being played on the stage. And as we know from WarGames, sometimes the only winning move is not to play.
And at that point, Candidate Real doesn't even have to *win* the debate. He merely has to survive it.
His "everybody's performing but me" statement does a few things:
1. It's pretty much unfalsifiable.
2. It puts t
CMV: A second Mexican-American war would be national suicide.
Someone who understands contemporary US military capabilities, please disabuse me of some potentially bullshit assumptions.
Is Trump just planning a little drug bust with a few commandos somewhere in Mexico so he can get a photo-op for Fox? Otherwise, I can think of few better ways to end American hegemony forever than a second Mexican-American War, which I believe is almost certainly what we'll get if we send ground troops there. Mexico City is over 4X bigger, hundreds of miles further inland and 2.5X higher up than Caracas. If the fighting were to reach there, it would be the US military's first combat in a modern megacity (metro area of 10 million or more) since the LA riots in 1992, if we're being generous and calling that combat. If we're \*not\* being generous, it would be their first ever. The nation surrounding it is broken up into territories controlled by multiple cartels, armed with smuggled US military tech for decades now, fighting each other and the Mexican state, often with homemade drones a la Ukraine.
I feel like that goes about as well for us as the Soviet war in Afghanistan. You know how the CIA gave the Mujahideen stingers, javelins and bomb blueprints to destro
CMV: Elon bought Twitter so he could turn it into hate platform.
Elon's version of "free speech" is just allowing hateful people to say dehumanizing things about others and not only that, but that walking shit stain pays them for it as well.
All these racists, neo nazis, terrorist sympathizers (like Hasan Piker), people who use "memes" as a way to mask their hate and to spread violent rhetoric (like hayasaka\_aryan) and etc on his platform and he doesn't do a dam thing about them. He just sits there, pays them. and gets butthurt whenever someone calls him out.
Remember when that idiot tried to sue a group of people for monitoring and pointing out that he was deliberately allowing hateful things on his website?
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