Marie Andersen

Marie Andersen

@redfrog925761

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 12, 2026
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@crazygoose997858 · Jan 12, 2026 3:18 am

Emotional tension with a coworker in a position of authority is exhausting me

I just need to vent because this situation has been weighing on me for a long time.
Since the very beginning of my job, there has been a strong connection between me and a coworker who is in a higher position than me. Over time, we grew close. There’s obvious chemistry, flirting, sexual jokes, lingering looks. It’s not subtle. You can see it in our eyes. It feels mutual, but also unspoken, like we’re both afraid to cross a line.
I’m in my late 20s and he’s in his late 30s, which sometimes makes the dynamic feel even more complicated.
We’re both rather shy in general when it comes to emotional or romantic situations. He tends to be reserved, and I am too, which I think has contributed to how much remains unspoken between us.
There is also physical closeness between us. Nothing explicit, but frequent touches that feel charged brushing hands, standing very close, small moments of contact that don’t feel accidental. Alongside that, he’s very caring toward me checking in on me, being gentle, attentive, and protective in a way that feels personal, not just professional.
When I first started working there, coworkers told me that before I joined, he had said he didn’t want a relationship a

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@redfrog925761 · Jan 12, 2026
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@blackgorilla191290 · Jan 12, 2026 1:08 am

How do I start a conversation through text message?

(22M) I am in university and there is a girl who I spoke to very occasionally last year, I would like to be friends with her but due to christmas holidays haven't spoken to her anymore. I asked a friend who had her contact if he could tell her if I could have her contact and she said it is ok.
Problem is I haven't texted her yet because I overthink too much everything and in my head I think she might not want to actually talk to me. So I don't know how to start the conversation through texting cause I'm worried the conversation might go in an uncomfortable direction and then when we see in person it'll feel awkward.
Also I'm someone who is pretty shy and doesn't want to interact much with new people because I think I might be annoying them and want me to go. And even more shy at interacting with girls.

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 12, 2026

I forked Andrej Karpathy's LLM Council and added a Modern UI & Settings Page, multi-AI API support, web search provi

Hey everyone!
I recently spent a couple of weekends improving Karpathy's excellent LLM Council Open Source Project.
The [original project](https://github.com/karpathy/llm-council) was brilliant but lacked usability and flexibility imho.
**What I added:**
* Web search integration (DuckDuckGo, Tavily, Brave, Jina AI)
* Clean Modern UI with a settings page to support:
* Support for multiple API providers (OpenRouter, Anthropic, OpenAI, Google, etc.)
* Customizable system prompts and temperature controls (the custom prompts open up tons of use cases beyond a "council")
* Export & Import of councils, prompts, and settings (for backup and even sharing)
* Control the council size (from 1 to 8 - original only supported 3)
* Full Ollama support for local models
* "I'm Feeling Lucky" random model selector
* Filter only Free models on OpenRouter (although Rate Limits can be an issue)
* Control the Process, from a simple asking multiple models a question in parallel (Chat Only), Chat & peer rating where models rate the responses of other models, and Full end-to-end deliberation where the Chairman model makes the final decision on the best answer
You can compare up to 8 models simul

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 11, 2026

I want to be better

I want to be a better person. I put a lot of value on my ability to be perceived as nice and kind, but when I'm worn down I have a propensity to just snap. The last few relationships and situationships I've had have ended irredeemably because I either snapped at the person when I perceived they were treating me badly for a while or I had a breakdown because I put them on an emotional pedestal and things weren't going the way I wanted them to or they pulled back from me. I really want to stop this, I can't place kindness and niceness as core parts of my identity and then abandon them when things are hard or I don't get my way, that just makes me a hypocrite.
I do have several mitigating factors, I am very mentally ill and have a long history of abandonment and trauma, but these things aren't excuses, and as much as being sick makes my behaviour understandable, it doesn't excuse it or mean that I can't control my actions.
I want to do better but I don't know how. I think I'm going to stop trying to date people for a while. I'm scared because I'm 25 and I really want to have kids, and it feels like I won't be able to have them within my ideal timeframe if I do stop trying and I don't

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 11, 2026

When people hatee i feel safe

When I was in 1st standard, students used to bully me regularly. Teachers didn’t like me either because I never listened to them. At home, my parents fought almost every day. There was shouting, anger, and tension all the time. After a while, I stopped reacting. I stopped crying. I stopped showing emotions. I told myself this is normal, this is just how life is.
After around one and a half months, I lost control of myself. My mother had cancer at that time. The doctor had prescribed two medicines before sleep: one normal tablet and one heavy tablet that makes you sleep deeply. I noticed this. One night, I hid the normal tablet. As expected, she took only the heavy one and fell asleep. My father came home late, so there was no fight that night. For the first time in a long time, I slept peacefully.
When the fighting started again on other days, I made a decision. If I couldn’t have peace at home, I would at least have peace at school.
So I changed myself on purpose. Instead of letting students bully me, I decided to give them a reason to hate me. I started talking to them disrespectfully. Sometimes I hit them intentionally, in front of others, so everyone would see. Teachers slapped

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 11, 2026

There are some unexpected aspects to aging that I hadn't anticipated.

I always believed that as I grew older, my life would become clearer and more confident. But in reality, I've found that problems have increased—though not in a terrible way, but rather in a quieter, more rational manner.
I'm gradually reassessing my capabilities and energy levels, readjusting my perspectives on certain matters. Things that once seemed unreasonable now feel like I'd still choose the same path if given the chance again.
These shifts in outlook don't happen overnight—they unfold slowly and quietly, sometimes bringing me peace, other times the opposite.
I wonder if others have experienced something similar

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 11, 2026

I want to be better

I want to be a better person. I put a lot of value on my ability to be perceived as nice and kind, but when I'm worn down I have a propensity to just snap. The last few relationships and situationships I've had have ended irredeemably because I either snapped at the person when I perceived they were treating me badly for a while or I had a breakdown because I put them on an emotional pedestal and things weren't going the way I wanted them to or they pulled back from me. I really want to stop this, I can't place kindness and niceness as core parts of my identity and then abandon them when things are hard or I don't get my way, that just makes me a hypocrite.
I do have several mitigating factors, I am very mentally ill and have a long history of abandonment and trauma, but these things aren't excuses, and as much as being sick makes my behaviour understandable, it doesn't excuse it or mean that I can't control my actions.
I want to do better but I don't know how. I think I'm going to stop trying to date people for a while. I'm scared because I'm 25 and I really want to have kids, and it feels like I won't be able to have them within my ideal timeframe if I do stop trying and I don't

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

Why reddit gotta be so strict with their rules? Let a woman post ffs

I need ^ to post. Please help a gal out x

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

My life is a mess and I can't picture myself growing old

TW: Addiction and Suicide
As I've gotten older I realise more and more how damaging my childhood was. My dad was struggling with addiction (still is but its way worse) and didn't supported the family financially, and made it worse by getting us in growing debt. My mum worked minimum wage jobs to support us but we always struggled financially. From fear of the community and the need to hide all these secrets we grew up quite isolated. My dads addiction caused alot of problems which from a young age I witnessed first hand and become entangled in.
Many dramatic, emotionally manipulative and stressful events happened growing up. I realise now that this started off my health issues when I was very young and alot of my issues can be traced back to stress. I didn't realise how traumatised I was of men until I was sat with someone (T) I trust and became very anxious that he was going to hit me because he was silent and fixing something that wasn't working. I realised I am constantly on edge and hyperaware of peoples feelings and any subtle indications of a change in tone or emotion to this day. I tried to end things at 18 and was diagnosed with depression at 19.
We are a very traditional c

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

Starting a business

My buddy just started a painting business as a side gig and he asked me to help him get it off the ground. I’ve never painted houses but I paint battleships for work so I’m pretty experienced. The conditions are: I have to find the work.
I’m looking for advice on how to grow this business as far as advertising and presentation goes. Any help is appreciated!

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

I sexted / made plans with a hinge guy as a virgin and I feel disgusted with myself

Hi all,
So I (22F) recently downloaded hinge because I’m a senior in college and have never been on a date, and I really wanted to start just trying to have fun my final semester. The furthest I’ve gone with anyone’s just making out and some touching, but nothing more. I really do have a strong sexual desire though and want to explore it, so I’m on the app!
Anyway, I matched with this guy and he’s super sweet and I like him. I don’t want a boyfriend but I do want to experiment sexually. We started talking and eventually a couple days later it started to get a little heated, we started talking about having fun together. I wanted to make it clear though that I don’t have a lot of experience in intimacy and he was super nice about it. He said that it would be super casual and low stakes and if all I wanted to do was kiss that would be fine. That made me feel better and want him more lol.
And now tonight we were talking and it started getting sexual again. And this time I was really
Feeling it so I was like yknow what fuck it let’s have fun. I did NOT send any photos or ask for any so it was literally just dirty texts, but now I feel grossed out by myself and the fact I did that. We ta

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

I thought I’d finally figured it out; I suppose I was wrong

I really, really just don’t know. I’m not sure where my head is at, and I’d feel disingenuous saying anything contrary to that. Part of me feels like all of this is part of some plan intended to teach me something, but it’s hard for me (especially me) to believe that without proof.I thought I knew what I wanted.I thought I knew what was in front of me (I was going to say: “thought I knew what I had” but that felt unfair to say/assume).
But the only thing I know now is that I’m more alone than I thought I was.
I guess it might be something similar to, like, how an author might? Or maybe it’s closer to what a reader might feel regarding the one-sidedness of the creator-appreciator relationship.
I know for sure that what I felt before was *not* being “seen” or “felt.”
And when I encountered something else, something intellectually engaging, perhaps I mistook that for what I was specifically thinking about when I said I was “missing something”.
 I thought this new thing was what I wanted. But maybe it isn’t?That wouldn’t be anyone's fault but mine for having an expectation of a connection that felt somehow… whole.I still just feel so alone. And everything is so surface-level. It’s a ni

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

When people hatee i feel safe

When I was in 1st standard, students used to bully me regularly. Teachers didn’t like me either because I never listened to them. At home, my parents fought almost every day. There was shouting, anger, and tension all the time. After a while, I stopped reacting. I stopped crying. I stopped showing emotions. I told myself this is normal, this is just how life is.
After around one and a half months, I lost control of myself. My mother had cancer at that time. The doctor had prescribed two medicines before sleep: one normal tablet and one heavy tablet that makes you sleep deeply. I noticed this. One night, I hid the normal tablet. As expected, she took only the heavy one and fell asleep. My father came home late, so there was no fight that night. For the first time in a long time, I slept peacefully.
When the fighting started again on other days, I made a decision. If I couldn’t have peace at home, I would at least have peace at school.
So I changed myself on purpose. Instead of letting students bully me, I decided to give them a reason to hate me. I started talking to them disrespectfully. Sometimes I hit them intentionally, in front of others, so everyone would see. Teachers slapped

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

Does anyone else find that they use music as a silent way to connect with people?

I recently realized something about myself.
When I meet someone and the conversation feels genuine, I sometimes ask them about the music they're listening to or what they've been listening to lately. It's not so much to ask for immediate recommendations, but to let the conversation flow naturally.
Later, when I hear a song related to that moment or that person, the memory comes flooding back. Music ends up storing little fragments of conversations, moods, and people.
I like how those simple moments can create a quiet connection without needing to say much.
I'm curious: do you associate music with people or moments in your life? Or have you noticed how music can shape conversations?

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 10, 2026

What foods have you discovered come with a very slight element of danger?

TIL that if you eat extremely crusty bread it can cut the edge of your lips and make you think you have a lip infection. What foods have you been mildly menaced by?

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Marie Andersen
@redfrog925761 · Jan 9, 2026

The Pitt Season 2’s Rotten Tomatoes Score Rises After Its Premiere

The Pitt season 2 already had a great Rotten Tomatoes score, but now after its premiere has aired, it's even higher than it was.

www.forbes.com
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