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@blueduck664816 · Jan 10, 2026

I was rejected without even doing anything.

I've known this girl for almost two years. We're not friends, but I like talking to her. I think she's cool.
We've been talking a lot these days, and yesterday was her birthday. Today she mentioned that she got some perfumes as gifts, and apparently she knows a lot about perfume. I mentioned that someone once complained about my perfume, saying its for man from the streets. She agreed and said it was a “mainstream” perfume, so I asked her for a perfume suggestion. Her response was “You should ask the person who's going to smell you.” Like, tf? I don't think I'll ever recover from this.

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 10, 2026

I dont know if it was SA or not

I dont know if my ex SA’d me or not and it’s really affecting me.
I dont think it was, but my mind keeps going back to ‘but what if it was?’, and idk what to do. He’d ask to do stuff, and when I’d say no he’d ask again and I felt bad so I said yes reluctantly, but he didn’t know i felt bad and that I didn’t actually want it, so it isn’t his fault, is it? He also constantly asked me to give him head even though I told him I wasn’t ready to try that yet (I was 15, currently 16 and he was quite a few of my firsts), but he kept asking and once tried to get me to just kiss it and I kept saying no; I never gave him head, but it made me super uncomfortable that he kept asking.
I dont really know how to feel about him, we broke up a while ago and I have a wonderful boyfriend now, but recently it’s just been playing on my mind I guess.

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 10, 2026

I'm stuck in a loveless relationship

I found out my husband was cheating on me a few months ago. It has entirely destroyed my psyche. I confronted him about it and I ended up taking him back. I have never had any self worth and I know my husband preys on that. Since catching him, he has kept communication up with her - inviting her out to dinner (which he swore they didn't actually go), sending her recordings of his singing (which he initially recorded for me), sent her lyrics to his songs (which he has never shared with me) and even recently sent her an AI song about how she's the one he thinks about all the time, the person on his mind, the forbidden love he'll never regret. Every time I call him out, he lies and gaslights and has explanations that don't even make sense. Like with the AI song, despite the fact that it was posted from his account, in his writing style, and is about not regretting an affair, he says that he did not generate the song, he never read the lyrics, and just likes how it sounds and had mentioned to her that he likes that kind of sound and wanted to show her an example. And despite knowing it's a blatant lie, I told him I believed him.
See, he and I have a child together. A child that's not e

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 10, 2026

Why should we help others more?

When we fall in love with someone or genuinely care for someone from the heart, three hormones—oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine—are released together in our brain.
As a result, a unique and pleasant feeling arises within us. We feel happy and joyful without any specific reason. Because dopamine is involved, our brain keeps craving that feeling again and again.
Interestingly, the same three hormones are also released together when we help someone selflessly or express gratitude sincerely.
So, if you want to live a good and happy life, try to help others selflessly or express gratitude as often as possible. Instead of getting involved in forbidden relationships, shouldn’t we focus more on helping others?
And if you want proof, try helping a helpless person selflessly today and then notice how you feel inside.
Helping others or showing gratitude does not always require money. Speaking kindly to people with a warm smile is also a form of expressing gratitude. Imagine you are walking down a road and notice some garbage lying in the middle, making it difficult for others to pass, but no one is cleaning it or removing it. If you take the initiative to remove it, through that simple act y

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 10, 2026

Does anyone else feel like their mind accelerates faster than they can keep up with?

I’m trying to describe a mental experience and I’m wondering if others recognize this.
For me, the problem isn’t overthinking in the anxious sense. It’s more like my mind accelerates beyond what I can process or execute.
When something clicks — a good idea, a creative project, insight, momentum — my thinking speed suddenly ramps up. Ideas stack on top of each other faster than I can work through them. I’ll be mentally at step 15 while I’m still physically doing step 2.
It doesn’t feel emotional in the usual way. It feels mechanical. Like a system overheating.
Imagine a laptop fan spinning faster and faster until the whole machine feels unstable.
The strange part is that this often happens when things are going well. Flow, success, creativity, clarity — those trigger it more than stress or sadness.
Common advice like “go for a walk” or “try to relax” doesn’t help, because it doesn’t slow the process. It actually gives my mind more room to run.
What I seem to struggle with isn’t motivation or discipline, but regulating the speed and volume of my thinking. Once it crosses a certain threshold, it feels like there’s no built-in brake.
I’m curious if others experience this:
• Thinking th

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 10, 2026

Does anyone else notice advert actors in other adverts?

What do I mean? Like the Tena piss pants lady is also in an ad for Wickes kitchens, as is the older lady from the Maryland cookies ad ("Ooh, lovely").
Also I've noticed there's a guy from another kitchens ad (possibly Wren) who's a contestant on the Pottery Throwdown.
It's worse than searching IMDB while watching a film; "What else has she been in?" And it really annoys my wife.
Anyone else either annoyed with this behaviour or can point me to more examples?

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 10, 2026

My friends and I recorded the all of pubs we visited in 2025

[Some of us took it more as a race...](https://i.redd.it/k3z7iuwru4cg1.gif)
Edit: \*all of the (embarrassing)
For a few years now, a group of us predict and record different metrics over a year because we love a bit of arbitrary data. This year we decided to record every time we visited a pub. The rules were simple:
* Predict the number of times you will visit a pub at the beginning of the year, and tally with "# - Pub Name". It does not have to be a new pub.
* A pub is defined as an establishment that has a reference to 'Pub' or 'Free House' on any reputable source.
* If you enter the same pub twice in the same "session" of drinking (e.g. a pub crawl) it still only counts as one.
* You must purchase something within the establishment in order to tally it.
The 7 of us had 441 pub visits, in about 180 different pubs. Here are the results:
https://preview.redd.it/cbiwkfcht4cg1.png?width=1085&format=png&auto=webp&s=34c664558c62e3f7b4d3506c185638571234069d
Michael got the closest to his prediction with a 2 pub discrepancy, and James (me) failed the hardest with 145 at an 85 pub difference, making up 32.9% of the group's total pub visits at almost 3 per week.
Interestingly, a couple yea

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 9, 2026

Stat Update

Jede dritte Session endet gerade mit einem Follow für kassem – das nennt man Fokus.

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 9, 2026

Building an early-stage app for AI-generated image contests — looking for feedback

Hi! I’m building Artigenius, an early-stage app focused on AI-generated image contests.
Creators will be able to submit their AI images, explore others’ work, and compete in creative challenges. I’m sharing it now just to get honest feedback, not to promote a finished product.
Does the idea make sense? Would you use something like this?
Once the app is ready, I’ll come back to launch the first contest, including cash prizes.
If anyone wants to check it out, I can share the link.
Thanks! 🙌

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 9, 2026

What’s a mistake you made early in business that felt small but cost you way more later?

When I first started, I thought speed was everything and skipped a lot of boring setup stuff. It didn’t break things immediately… but a few months later, it came back to bite me way harder than I expected.
Made me realize most early mistakes don’t hurt right away — they just stack quietly.
Curious what other people ran into.
What’s one early decision you’d do differently if you were starting again?

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 9, 2026

What are your “niche” goals for this year?

Ive heard people talk about doing a monthly curriculum where you assign yourself specific topics to learn about each month and it can be anything. It sounds fun and creative.
But Im 28, I feel like I want to try things Ive never done before. I want to actually leave the house for something exciting not work, not gym and not a pottery class lol. I dont want to live the same day everyday.

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 9, 2026

so I realized that for me starting a conversation is not really hard but ending it

so this happened like yesterday again I figuered out that it is kinda a pattern. I don’t really struggle starting conversations. Small talk, casual chats at work, random comments in line, all fine. The problem seems to be knowing how to exit without it feeling weird.
The moment that made it click happened this week. I ran into someone I know casually and we started chatting. It was a nice conversation, nothing awkward or forced. But after a few minutes, it felt done in my head. I didn’t have anything else to add, but there wasn’t a natural stopping point either. I stood there nodding, half listening, half trying to think of a polite way out. I even glanced at myprize hoping it would give me an excuse, which felt rude, so I didn’t use it. Eventually the conversation just sort of fizzled and we both said okay yeah anyway and walked off. Afterward I kept replaying it, not because anything bad happened, but because I felt unsure. Was I abrupt. Did I overstay. Should I have wrapped it up sooner. It made me realize how much social energy I spend worrying about the ending of interactions.
I’m curious if this is something people actually practice or if everyone just wings it and hopes for the best. If you’re good at cleanly ending conversations without it feeling forced, how did you figure that out???

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@blueduck664816 · Jan 9, 2026

.........and it changed everything

I'm feeling really put off by this sub's inundation of AI posts about how something grandpa or dad said "changed everything."
Anyone else noticing this? What's the fucking point?