Feeling extremely stuck and sad at 30
I don't know what to do, I'm currently 28 gonna be 30 in few yrs but life is just scaring me day by day because time is passing by yet all I'm doing is sitting on the couch like some potatoe and just mourning on life. Keep overthinking excessively and feel miserable from inside. At this point my thoughts and emotions are eating me up. I'm not working. I don't know how to find a good job. Don't have any money. I don't have any skills not even a college degree. I badly want to go college again but don't know what to pursue. I don't drive which is something I need to do and should do because driving is such a important task. I'm living my life with my siblings doing house chores and using my phone to escape reality but deep down time is eating me alive. I'm getting very regretful thoughs that what am I doing right now with my life. I'm supposed to help my siblings. Make money pay bills, work for my future and become a capable adult but here I am just mourning on life feeling like a victim. Anytime I think about taking actions or making a decision, self doubt just kicks in. I start feeling resistance. I feel overwhelmed.
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The American Health Care system is such a fucking joke
The American healthcare system is a joke. From the insurance companies to the providers to the companies making medicines and treatments to help people, they have all failed their patients and the American people.
I have seen my best friend lose his teenage sister because insurance companies wouldn’t cover the care needed to treat her rare bone cancer. I saw my best friend’s family start GoFundMe’s to raise money to try and take her to experimental treatments in other countries.
I watched my dad struggle with cancer for 5 years before it took his life in 2020. Surgery after surgery. Insurance companies rejecting treatments recommended by the Doctors forcing him into experimental treatments that gave him diabetes before he died.
I honestly have never seen more brave people than my father going to surgery after surgery, treatment after treatment to fight and stay alive. Or my friend’s sister fighting for her life and willing to do anything to stay alive. The same goes for my mother and my friend’s family being brave and supporting them as best as they can.
My MIL has a disease there is no cure for and it feels like it’s more just that a cure doesn’t want to be invented and given just
I am a talentless person who doesn't know what I want from life.
I'm 18 years old. I don't know what to do with my life. Until now, I've spent all my time playing computer games and reading modern fiction. I've never had a thirst for knowledge. I wanted to join the army, but I have very poor eyesight, -8; -8.5, and I'm a scrawny guy, so I just wouldn't pass the medical examination. I'm definitely not a tech person, and I'm unlikely to be a humanities person either, because I'm simply dumb and uneducated. Programming doesn't interest me at all. I'm just a basic consumer, really. Lately, I've started getting interested in history and the history of painting, but I'll definitely lose in competition to people who have been interested in this stuff almost since they were in diapers. I'd like to hear stories from people who have been through something similar. How did you find your path? What do you do now? I'll probably be frying chicken at KFC my whole life, and lately, that prospect has started to bother me.
Why do I feel socially stuck outside of school?
Hey, I could really use some advice. It’s been a while since I’ve hung out with friends, and I’ve noticed that outside of school I struggle a lot with conversation. It feels like there’s just nothing to talk about, even with people I know well.
There’s also a girl I like, and the only time I really have a chance to talk to her is on the school bus. But by the end of the day I’m usually exhausted and already stressed, so I avoid it. I keep overthinking everything, worrying about being awkward, annoying, or getting rejected, and I end up creating worst-case scenarios in my head that stop me from doing anything.
I feel like my own thoughts are what’s holding me back. Has anyone dealt with this before? How do you stop overthinking and take small social steps without burning yourself out?
I want to talk about friends.
I feel like I don’t need or really want friends. I feel immense pressure to make friends and have a social life but honestly when it comes down to it, I don’t really care. I don’t have a lot in common with people, I have nothing to say to them, talking feels exhausting and performative. The only times I feel like having friends is around Christmas time, new years, or when there’s an event or place I want to check out but I can’t do it alone. In these cases it’s more that I like the idea of having someone to do these things with more than having actual friends. This holiday season was very lonely but at the same time it feels like I only felt lonely because it’s seen as pathetic to spend the holidays at home doing the same things that you do every other day of the year.
A bit of context, I’m mid thirties, single, I was lucky to have some really good friends over the years, but due to circumstances we’re scattered all over the world. I’ve moved to a new city about 6 months ago. I haven’t made any friends yet. I tried, but only half-heartedly if I’m honest with myself. I rarely talk with my roommates. the idea of starting over building relationships bores me. I met these wonderful peo
17F I have a really good life so why do I still feel so bad?
My family adores me, I have good friends, I have always been a #1 student, I have never had any money issues in my life (God my family can afford to pay a private college for me and still live normally) so I don’t understand why I always feel so bad and depressed when some of my friends have worse problems than me
But I just can’t stop crying in the night or feeling empty and how much I’m going to waste my life and end up miserable and I already hate myself and my face and everything about me and even though I go to college it wasn’t in a degree I wanted, and I wanted to have a happy life with a husband and kids but even that idea has been disgusting me and it looks impossible for me
So now I end up pretending I’m happy and just bottling up my feelings when I’m actually depressed for being sad because I have no excuse to feel bad for anything
I hate this
feeling alone, seems like everyone but me is obsessed with sex
for starters i apologize if this doesn't fit the subreddit, i've been trying to figure out the best/most beneficial place to post this. i'm really just looking for insight on why i feel this way. if this breaks any rules please let me know
i often get the feeling that people are obsessed with sex. to me, it feels like most people are constantly thinking about sex and i'm just the only one who doesn't understand. it could be from my lack of sexual experience (though i do have a little), but i just feel a bit put off when people do or talk about sexual things they've done (jokes are fine).
for example, my friend is very much into doing strip shows and has a pole at home that she's been practicing on. when she shows our friend group videos of her performances (nothing big, just small cosplay strip shows at conventions) and when she practices on webcam on her pole at home i just feel annoyed and a little repulsed by her. she is my friend but i also can't let go of this annoying feeling like she's just showing off, yet everyone else is just cheering her on. i know that it's wrong, but i don't understand why i feel this way.
i also can't wrap my head around how most people can sleep with
Damn.
I am a 21-year-old male. Last year, I was dating a 20-year-old girl. After a steady 6–7 months of being in a relationship, she suddenly started ignoring me. Later, I found out from her friends that she was meeting a man around 30 years old, whom she was apparently supposed to marry in the future. She never mentioned him to me.
One day, I confronted them at a cafe. She panicked and told him that I was just her FRIEND. After that, we obviously broke up. She tried to contact me multiple times afterward, but I turned her down every time. They got married last November, and here I am, still thinking about it and crying, wondering what I did wrong.
This was my very first relationship. I am also an overweight guy, and I struggle with social anxiety, which affects me a lot especially when it comes to relationships and self-worth.
P.S. This is my first and last Reddit post.
Cya.
Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to
Reposting with more info if you recognize this post! I lived with this person for two leases in a different building; one when I first moved in and then a renewal. I was pretty much forced to move out in October 2025 because she moved out due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also. I did have notice of this. It wasn't a last minute thing.
The move caused me so much stress, because I was afraid I wouldn't find a place. So I was getting headaches, etc, and spent so much time touring places that I would have otherwise spent doing other things. I have also paid for a renter's insurance policy, new license, etc. I feel like it wouldn't be in my best interest or make sense to move again so soon.
My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a year's committment from the tenants. And I'm on the hook for the rent until a replacement moves in. The reason for this is because it's out of respect to the other tenants. The lease is ongoing, so someone has to pay it. No one wants to pay for someone else.
The person asking if I'm interested did ask me a few days ago if I was inter
feeling alone, seems like everyone but me is obsessed with sex
for starters i apologize if this doesn't fit the subreddit, i've been trying to figure out the best/most beneficial place to post this. i'm really just looking for insight on why i feel this way. if this breaks any rules please let me know
i often get the feeling that people are obsessed with sex. to me, it feels like most people are constantly thinking about sex and i'm just the only one who doesn't understand. it could be from my lack of sexual experience (though i do have a little), but i just feel a bit put off when people do or talk about sexual things they've done (jokes are fine).
for example, my friend is very much into doing strip shows and has a pole at home that she's been practicing on. when she shows our friend group videos of her performances (nothing big, just small cosplay strip shows at conventions) and when she practices on webcam on her pole at home i just feel annoyed and a little repulsed by her. she is my friend but i also can't let go of this annoying feeling like she's just showing off, yet everyone else is just cheering her on. i know that it's wrong, but i don't understand why i feel this way.
i also can't wrap my head around how most people can sleep with
How Small Routines Quietly Become Comforting
Lately I’ve been thinking about how fast routines turn into “normal” without us really noticing. Things that used to feel special or exciting slowly become background noise, like morning coffee, a quiet house for five minutes, or even a favorite show you’ve rewatched too many times. Not in a bad way, just in a this is life kind of way.
It made me wonder what small, ordinary thing you didn’t realize you’d miss until it became part of your daily rhythm. Or something that used to feel boring but now feels comforting. Curious what other people notice about their own routines.
Does it ever happen to you that you listen to an artist and suddenly news about them pops up everywhere?
Let me explain: lately, I've been listening to Bruno Mars a lot. I'm a huge fan and I love him, and I miss his music. It's been 10 years since he released a solo album and 5 years since he collaborated with Anderson Paak, and I hadn't heard anything about him. But just today he released his new song and announced his new album... I feel like the timing was perfect. What similar experience have you had?
What’s a song you never skip when it comes on?
No matter how many times you’ve heard it, it just always hits the same. I’m curious what songs people instantly turn up instead of skipping. What’s yours?
How can I discover underground artists?
Hi! I'm interested in finding underground music. I like listening to all kinds of music, although I had a musical hiatus due to hearing problems. Now that I'm almost recovered, I'd love to find some new gems and a bit of everything so I can get back into listening to lots of music. I'm slowly getting back into it, but I really want to listen! Please share your recommendations or new discoveries!
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