My mom is my biggest hater
It doesnt even get to me, hasn't since like 14ish. I just think "damn, thats something else" whenever she does it.
For context shes VERY materialistic, it doesnt take a genius or a marriage counselor to see shes a horrible wife. Her entire life has been about "me, me and me" what can you do for me? What purpose do you serve in my life? And so on. She has never held a job in her life (not joking, her resume includes "stay at home mom" even though she was a horrible mother and her youngest kid is 22) and shes very money hungry. Nothing dad does is ever good enough for her even though he works his ass off.
Anyway so before I bought my house i paid 1750 im rent. I lived a very frugal, bare bone expenses life. Once in a blue moon id buy something for myself. Her comments always included "wasting money(rent)" when id buy myself something "pues como tines dinero" passive aggressive "you've got money"
When I bought my house "I hope you dont lose it" "you couldve bought a better house" (its a fixer upper) ive been fixing stuff since I bought it and ill be talking to dad about the stuff ive been doing and mom would just come around "well you got money, hopefully you don't get foreclosed"
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I got cheated on and made excuses for the other person
tldr: Fell in love with a girl at 14, I'm 19 now and still in love with her - well, the version of her that she crafted in front of me maybe.
I am a girl. I had just accepted that I would marry a dude someday and live miserably ever after. Then I met her - the new student with the most beautiful eyes and the sweetest voice. We'd walk home from school together every day. She gave me flowers, grew possessive of me, held me and I was smitten. For the next two years, it was obvious we were in love but it never led to anything because of society's and our own internalized fears. We were best friends, I guess.
I want to preface this by saying that I'm not particularly good looking and she is \*very\* good looking, so it was hard for me to believe that she liked me. That insecurity came off as jealousy to her. And I'm very academically inclined so her mother was already sowing seeds of jealousy and comparison in her heart (god I hate that bitch). Some misunderstandings led to a big fight and she stormed off. Didn't see her for a year. Loved her through every day of it. When we met again, she seemed a bit different, maybe posh? Oh well, people change. She started talking to me again but hi
Stopped oversharing on social media and now people think something's wrong
I used to post everything. What I ate, where I went, random thoughts at 2am, the whole thing. Not necessarily for attention, just felt natural to share. But a few months ago I realized how exhausting it was to constantly think about how my life would look as a post.
So I stopped. Just quietly stopped posting. Didn't announce it or anything, just went silent.
Now people keep reaching out asking if I'm okay. "Haven't seen you post in a while, everything alright?" or "You've been so quiet lately, is something going on?" One person even messaged my sister asking if I was depressed.
The ironic part is my mental health actually got better after I stopped. I'm not constantly comparing my life to others, not refreshing to see who liked what, not crafting captions to sound interesting. I just exist without needing to document it for an audience.
But apparently silence on social media reads as crisis mode to everyone. Like if you're not performing your happiness online, you must be falling apart. I was just sitting at home last night playing some league between doing laundry and got three "checking in on you" texts.
I don't want to go back to oversharing just to prove I'm fine, but it's weir
I dont know if it was SA or not
I dont know if my ex SA’d me or not and it’s really affecting me.
I dont think it was, but my mind keeps going back to ‘but what if it was?’, and idk what to do. He’d ask to do stuff, and when I’d say no he’d ask again and I felt bad so I said yes reluctantly, but he didn’t know i felt bad and that I didn’t actually want it, so it isn’t his fault, is it? He also constantly asked me to give him head even though I told him I wasn’t ready to try that yet (I was 15, currently 16 and he was quite a few of my firsts), but he kept asking and once tried to get me to just kiss it and I kept saying no; I never gave him head, but it made me super uncomfortable that he kept asking.
I dont really know how to feel about him, we broke up a while ago and I have a wonderful boyfriend now, but recently it’s just been playing on my mind I guess.
What actually makes a relationship last long-term?
What makes us expect marriage to last?
I’m not in a relationship and I’ve never been in a romantic one, but I’ve had a lot of friendships and many of them ended over time. The older I get, the more I realize that people change. Sometimes relationships end not because of drama, but simply because we fit into each other’s lives at a certain stage, and later on… we don’t. So we drift apart. Most of the time, I’m okay with that and don’t hold any bad feelings.
That made me wonder: what makes romantic relationships especially marriage different? Why do we expect them to last for years, sometimes a lifetime, when friendships often don’t? What’s the thing that makes us believe this kind of relationship should last longer?
Are Things Like A Good Life Partner And A Family Worth It(if you want them)?
My question is for you, from your perspective are they worth it?
I have seen people say you don't need anyone or anything to be happy, to which I agree to an extent, but like I am very comfortable to be alone but I enjoy more being around my family
I have also heard people say concept of a relationship or love is overrated by hollywood and certain media, which I disagree the concept of someone being by your side and supporting you and you do the same cannot be overrated, I know relationships or marriages are not sunshine and flowers all the time there are though times but I still think they are worth it
Please help settle an argument I had with my wife
I asked my brother-in-law to 3D print something for me. It was around the time of my birthday, and his wife messaged me that they decided print was a gift for my birthday. I didn’t think much of it at that time.
Today I asked my wife to pick it up since she was going in their direction. She called her brother, and he said it is a birthday gift (I did not tell her that beforehand because I did not think it mattered). Then she said to “Oh, I guess we will have to invite you over then.”
We got into an argument because:
1. I did not celebrate my birthday and did not invite anyone over, so I am not planning on doing that for them just to get the print.
2. I think it’s scummy that they think of a gift as a transactional thing. I see a gift as something you give to someone with no strings attached.
Who is correct on these two points? Please help settle this argument.
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Hi im 24f and looking for female friends here. I've always had friends in my life, but almost none of them were close enough to understand each other and share our worries😓 Think i gotta try to be more open maybe. Anyways, I hope we can be real friends to have some girl talk!
(Btw sorry my english is not perfect) I like watching sports, listening to music and reading books! I have quite basic tastes😆
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