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Line Gulli

@smallmouse467954 · Jan 12, 2026 12:37 am

My mother is the backbone of my family while im nothing but a burden

Idk if it matters or is relevant, but my family is Asian with my parents being the first of their family to move and start a life outside their home country. They have worked extremely hard to be able to provide for me, my siblings, and their own families. They send money back home whenever they can and are even helping to support my dads side of the family who live here but aren't doing as well as us. Both my parents work every day to sustain my comfortable lifestyle, my mom especially.
Getting up at 4-5am for work, coming back home around 2pm, cooking for the house (8 people rn, parents, me, 2 siblings, grandma, cousin, uncle) and then going to work again from 7 to 10. Even if the second job is with my dad, cousin and uncle, My mom never has a chance to take a break, and I have no way to help her.
The plan for me originally was that I would go to college and work after finishing my program. Last semester I had failed one of my classes and failed basically all of my finals which has now put me on academic probation. I'm not going to continue the program because I'm not interested in it (wasn't originally) and it seems like more money would be wasted if I did continue. My mom doesn

Reinhard Hermann

@happygoose739748 · Jan 11, 2026 12:21 pm

why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time

i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard

Jackson Anderson

@ticklishwolf217949 · Jan 11, 2026 5:42 pm

Some emotional patterns repeat in every relationship

I started noticing that different people triggered the same reactions in me.
Same fears. Same expectations. Same disappointments.
It made me realize something uncomfortable:
Sometimes it’s not the relationship — it’s the pattern we bring into it.
Until those patterns are seen, they tend to repeat, no matter who the person is.
Not advice.
Just an observation.