Consuelo Reyes

Reinhard Hermann

@happygoose739748 · Jan 11, 2026 12:21 pm

why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time

i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard

Jackson Anderson

@ticklishwolf217949 · Jan 11, 2026 5:42 pm

Some emotional patterns repeat in every relationship

I started noticing that different people triggered the same reactions in me.
Same fears. Same expectations. Same disappointments.
It made me realize something uncomfortable:
Sometimes it’s not the relationship — it’s the pattern we bring into it.
Until those patterns are seen, they tend to repeat, no matter who the person is.
Not advice.
Just an observation.