why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time
i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard
At first glance, this comes across more reactive than planned and that friction is hard to ignore
If you zoom out, the wording alone shifts how people read this
Bluntly speaking, this feels more about execution than intent
the main issue seems to be how this is handled which turns this into more of a debate Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
On the surface, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that friction is hard to ignore That part stands out. That’s the impression it gives me.
this depends heavily on what happens next which turns this into more of a debate Hard to say where this lands long term. Others will probably see it differently.
Bluntly speaking, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Stepping back, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s what changes the context.
To be fair, the timing matters more than people admit so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what makes this interesting.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that friction is hard to ignore That’s what makes this interesting. Curious how this plays out.
From a practical angle, the timing matters more than people admit and that tension shows up immediately Time will tell.
To be fair, the main issue seems to be how this is handled which is why the comments look the way they do
Not gonna lie, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that friction is hard to ignore Hard to say where this lands long term. At least from my perspective.
From the outside, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which is why this is getting picked apart Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
this comes across more reactive than planned Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.
Real talk, this feels more about execution than intent That’s just my read on it.