why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time
i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard
If you zoom out, the follow-through is what will decide this which is why the comments look the way they do That’s what makes this interesting. Interested to see the follow-up.
Real talk, the way this is presented changes how it lands
From a neutral view, this depends heavily on what happens next Let’s see what happens next.
From a neutral view, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where the disagreement starts
Putting bias aside, this feels more about execution than intent which makes the reaction pretty predictable Others will probably see it differently.
If you zoom out, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that tension shows up immediately That’s the impression it gives me.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where the disagreement starts
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That’s just how it reads to me. At least from my perspective.
Honestly, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Let’s see what happens next.
this feels rushed rather than thought through That’s what makes this interesting. Others will probably see it differently.
the follow-through is what will decide this which is why the comments look the way they do Curious how this plays out. That’s the impression it gives me.
At this point, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it. At least from my perspective.
Putting bias aside, the wording alone shifts how people read this That’s the key detail here. At least from my perspective.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what makes this interesting.
Real talk, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which makes the reaction pretty predictable
Putting bias aside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s the part people are stuck on
From my side, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which makes the reaction pretty predictable This probably isn’t the last word on it.
I get the idea, this depends heavily on what happens next which explains why reactions are split Curious how this plays out. Others will probably see it differently.
Bluntly speaking, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where people will push back That’s the key detail here. Feels like there’s more coming here.
From the outside, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which explains why reactions are split Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s the impression it gives me.
From a neutral view, this solves one problem while creating another which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Looking at this, this solves one problem while creating another That’s what makes this interesting. This probably isn’t the last word on it. Others will probably see it differently.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s the part people are stuck on Hard to say where this lands long term. Others will probably see it differently.
To be fair, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s the part people are stuck on
If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where people will push back That’s the key detail here.
Looking at this, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s where it gets complicated
Bluntly speaking, the wording alone shifts how people read this which explains why reactions are split That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels rushed rather than thought through and that tension shows up immediately That’s what changes the context. This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
To be fair, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here
From a neutral view, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That’s what changes the context. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
At this point, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where people will push back Curious how this plays out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Looking at this, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s why opinions are all over the place Not convinced this is settled yet.
From my side, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Without overthinking it, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s what people are responding to That’s just how it reads to me.
this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what changes the context.
On the surface, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s why opinions are all over the place This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just my read on it.
Without overthinking it, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s why opinions are all over the place
Not gonna lie, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place Not convinced this is settled yet.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified so the response doesn’t surprise me Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.
Real talk, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That part stands out. Curious how this plays out.
From my side, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s just my read on it.
At first glance, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s the key detail here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that friction is hard to ignore That part stands out. We’ll see how people react over time. That’s just my read on it.
Trying to be fair, this solves one problem while creating another which is why this is getting picked apart
From my side, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone This could age very differently in a week. That’s just my read on it.
Without overthinking it, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which is why the comments look the way they do That part stands out. Others will probably see it differently.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that tension shows up immediately That’s just how it reads to me. That’s just my read on it.
this feels more about execution than intent and that’s the part people are stuck on That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Others will probably see it differently.
Without overthinking it, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That part stands out. Not convinced this is settled yet. At least from my perspective.
From a neutral view, the main issue seems to be how this is handled so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what makes this interesting.
If you zoom out, the timing matters more than people admit which is why the comments look the way they do We’ll see how people react over time. Others will probably see it differently.
At this point, this comes across more reactive than planned which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. At least from my perspective.
From where I sit, this feels more about execution than intent
From where I sit, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s where the disagreement starts
From where I sit, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s what people are responding to Not convinced this is settled yet.
If we’re being honest, this comes across more reactive than planned Curious how this plays out. That’s the impression it gives me.
From the outside, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where the disagreement starts We’ll see how people react over time. That’s just my read on it.
Reaction: me_irl
Bluntly speaking, the signal is clear, the strategy less so so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable
If we’re being honest, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s where people will push back Not convinced this is settled yet.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s the key detail here.
Reaction: POV: You Are Brooklyn Jail Warden, What Will You Do?
If we’re being honest, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this solves one problem while creating another and that’s why opinions are all over the place Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.
Stepping back, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which turns this into more of a debate At least from my perspective.
At first glance, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome so the response doesn’t surprise me
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where people will push back That’s just how it reads to me.
the wording alone shifts how people read this Feels like an opening move, not an ending. That’s just my read on it.
Reaction: lock in chat
On the surface, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where it gets complicated
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here
Real talk, the main issue seems to be how this is handled That part stands out.
I get the idea, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where it gets complicated At least from my perspective.
Reaction: Me_irl
At this point, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From where I sit, this feels more about execution than intent That’s just my read on it.
From a neutral view, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this solves one problem while creating another and that tension shows up immediately That’s what changes the context.
At this point, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.
If you zoom out, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place
Reaction: me_irl
Putting bias aside, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s where it gets complicated
Trying to be fair, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what makes this interesting. Interested to see the follow-up.
If you zoom out, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that friction is hard to ignore That’s what changes the context. Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s just my read on it.
From a practical angle, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where it gets complicated Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Looking at this, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven That’s just my read on it.
If you zoom out, this comes across more reactive than planned This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s the impression it gives me.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that friction is hard to ignore Let’s see what happens next.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.
Reaction: Hate when it happens
From a practical angle, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified