Was I the other woman without knowing? Now he’s married and I can’t stop wondering…
I’m 28F and he’s 29M. We met through work, and although we live in different states, I fly regularly because I oversee three properties for my company. When he first confessed his feelings, I told him I wasn’t ready for a relationship because I was still healing from a breakup. Despite that, he continued pursuing me for about a year.
During that time, I heard from others that he had been engaged to someone for eight years. He told me they had broken up, and there was nothing on Facebook to prove otherwise. He put in a lot of effort - flying to see me, talking to me every day - but there were moments that made me suspicious. Once while we were FaceTiming, I heard a woman yelling before he abruptly hung up. He later claimed it was a homestay guest he was looking after and even sent photos and videos of a male university student as “proof.” He also always had excuses for why I couldn’t visit his house.
Then I saw his supposed ex-fiancée comment on an Instagram post of a house saying, “Looks like ours.” When I confronted him, he said they were still on good terms. I told him I might message her, and he said “Go ahead,” which weirdly made me doubt myself and think maybe he wasn’t lying.
Bluntly speaking, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which is why this is getting picked apart That part stands out. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Honestly, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage
this depends heavily on what happens next which makes the reaction pretty predictable That part stands out. Hard to say where this lands long term.
the follow-through is what will decide this
To be fair, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which is why the comments look the way they do Others will probably see it differently.
From the outside, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s where it gets complicated Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
At first glance, this feels more about execution than intent That part stands out. Others will probably see it differently.
this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where the disagreement starts
Just reading this, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where it gets complicated That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy Interested to see the follow-up.
Putting bias aside, the way this is presented changes how it lands Feels like there’s more coming here.
Stepping back, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.
At first glance, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. At least from my perspective.
Not gonna lie, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s what people are responding to That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just how it reads to me.
Without overthinking it, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts Not convinced this is settled yet. At least from my perspective.
Honestly, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
From where I sit, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that tension shows up immediately That’s what changes the context. This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s the impression it gives me.
If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Not convinced this is settled yet.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That part stands out. Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
From a neutral view, this feels more about execution than intent Hard to say where this lands long term. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
If you zoom out, this feels like a half-step, not a full move Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.
Putting bias aside, the timing matters more than people admit which makes the reaction pretty predictable Let’s see what happens next. That’s the impression it gives me.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just how it reads to me.
Stepping back, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified Feels like an opening move, not an ending. At least from my perspective.
From the outside, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what changes the context.
Reaction: Ujumf*
At first glance, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where it gets complicated
On the surface, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what changes the context.
Honestly, this feels like a half-step, not a full move Not convinced this is settled yet.
Bluntly speaking, the timing matters more than people admit That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which is why this is getting picked apart Hard to say where this lands long term. That’s the impression it gives me.
Not gonna lie, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That part stands out. This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the timing matters more than people admit and that’s what people are responding to That’s what changes the context. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Looking at this, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From a neutral view, this feels more about execution than intent so the response doesn’t surprise me Not convinced this is settled yet. At least from my perspective.
From where I sit, this comes across more reactive than planned Curious how this plays out.
Looking at this, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Not gonna lie, the timing matters more than people admit That’s the key detail here. That’s the impression it gives me.
From my side, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which is why this is getting picked apart This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Without overthinking it, this depends heavily on what happens next which is why the comments look the way they do At least from my perspective.
Trying to be fair, this depends heavily on what happens next That’s what changes the context. Curious how this plays out. That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. Others will probably see it differently.
From a practical angle, this feels rushed rather than thought through which turns this into more of a debate That’s what changes the context. Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s just my read on it.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That part stands out.
this solves one problem while creating another
Trying to be fair, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what changes the context.
the follow-through is what will decide this This probably isn’t the last word on it.
this feels more about execution than intent and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s just my read on it.
Not gonna lie, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s the part people are stuck on This could age very differently in a week.
Reaction: me_irl
Without overthinking it, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
Honestly, the follow-through is what will decide this
From a practical angle, this feels rushed rather than thought through which turns this into more of a debate That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up. Others will probably see it differently.
Putting bias aside, this depends heavily on what happens next which explains why reactions are split That’s just how it reads to me.
Bluntly speaking, this feels rushed rather than thought through Not convinced this is settled yet.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice Interested to see the follow-up.
I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which turns this into more of a debate That’s what makes this interesting. At least from my perspective.
this feels more about execution than intent That part stands out. Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that tension shows up immediately Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
Reaction: lock in chat
Without overthinking it, the way this is presented changes how it lands That’s what makes this interesting. This could age very differently in a week.
the timing matters more than people admit That’s the impression it gives me.
Reaction: Me_irl
Bluntly speaking, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome
Honestly, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s the part people are stuck on That part stands out. That’s just my read on it.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what changes the context. Time will tell. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Bluntly speaking, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That part stands out. Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: the collection of colorful pens
To be fair, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Real talk, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which explains why reactions are split This could age very differently in a week.
To be fair, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.