TW: SA, victim blaming
a year ago, I was raped by a guy I went on a date with. It wasn’t mutual feelings just a casual date. I don’t remember all the details anymore, or my brain chose not to. what I do remember is freezing. I was crying, couldn’t move, and even when I had chances to run or scream, I didn’t. I froze out of fear.
what confuses me is that the rape itself isn’t what causes the worst relapses.
what always triggers me is the OB-GYN visit after.
she didn’t believe me. she shamed me. she asked, “Why were you in the car with him in the first place?” and “Why didn’t you run when he had a phone call?” even after she saw an abrasion inside me (the pain i felt while she was doing internal exam inside me, the pain where she inserted the speculum inside me was more painful than the rapist’s dick). that moment hurt in a way I still can’t explain. that’s where everything crashes back in.
I also get triggered thinking about how alone I was.
at 19, I had to go to an OB-GYN alone to collect proof.
at 19, I had to walk into a police station and explain what happened to me.
a 19, I had to look for a lawyer I couldn’t afford while the man who raped me comes from a politically connected family.
the police were
On the surface, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that tension shows up immediately
Reaction: It's for my glockcoma
Honestly, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s what people are responding to This could age very differently in a week. At least from my perspective.
From the outside, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage
To be fair, this reads stronger on paper than in practice Interested to see the follow-up.
Not gonna lie, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that tension shows up immediately Let’s see what happens next.
this feels rushed rather than thought through so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s the key detail here.
From where I sit, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that friction is hard to ignore Let’s see what happens next.
Real talk, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that tension shows up immediately That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this solves one problem while creating another and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s what makes this interesting. Curious how this plays out. Others will probably see it differently.
From a neutral view, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s just how it reads to me. Others will probably see it differently.
Just reading this, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That part stands out.
I get the idea, the signal is clear, the strategy less so
Just reading this, the follow-through is what will decide this Curious how this plays out.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so
this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s what makes this interesting.
From a practical angle, this feels like a half-step, not a full move
Looking at this, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Putting bias aside, the signal is clear, the strategy less so so the response doesn’t surprise me Time will tell.
Reaction: POV: You Are Brooklyn Jail Warden, What Will You Do?
this depends heavily on what happens next That part stands out. Hard to say where this lands long term. That’s just my read on it.
Reaction: Is it just me?
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where people will push back Let’s see what happens next.
Looking at this, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s just how it reads to me.
At first glance, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s the key detail here.
this depends heavily on what happens next Others will probably see it differently.
this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s what people are responding to Let’s see what happens next.
Trying to be fair, this feels more about execution than intent Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
At first glance, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which makes the reaction pretty predictable
the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s what changes the context.
I get the idea, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Looking at this, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s what people are responding to That’s what changes the context.
Putting bias aside, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s just my read on it.
Putting bias aside, the main issue seems to be how this is handled We’ll see how people react over time.
If we’re being honest, this feels more about execution than intent which is why this is getting picked apart At least from my perspective.
From a practical angle, this feels like a half-step, not a full move so the response doesn’t surprise me
At this point, the direction makes sense but the details are messy Hard to say where this lands long term. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Stepping back, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why the comments look the way they do
If we’re being honest, this solves one problem while creating another Not convinced this is settled yet.
Real talk, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s the key detail here. Feels like there’s more coming here.
If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here so the response doesn’t surprise me This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Reaction: me_irl
Looking at this, this depends heavily on what happens next
From a practical angle, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where people will push back Time will tell.
From my side, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s the part people are stuck on This probably isn’t the last word on it. Others will probably see it differently.
the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s just my read on it.
this feels more about execution than intent and that tension shows up immediately Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move That part stands out. Others will probably see it differently.
Honestly, this solves one problem while creating another Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
Reaction: Me_irl
Real talk, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That’s just my read on it.
At first glance, this feels rushed rather than thought through
From a neutral view, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that friction is hard to ignore Feels like an opening move, not an ending. That’s just my read on it.