I want to be better
I want to be a better person. I put a lot of value on my ability to be perceived as nice and kind, but when I'm worn down I have a propensity to just snap. The last few relationships and situationships I've had have ended irredeemably because I either snapped at the person when I perceived they were treating me badly for a while or I had a breakdown because I put them on an emotional pedestal and things weren't going the way I wanted them to or they pulled back from me. I really want to stop this, I can't place kindness and niceness as core parts of my identity and then abandon them when things are hard or I don't get my way, that just makes me a hypocrite.
I do have several mitigating factors, I am very mentally ill and have a long history of abandonment and trauma, but these things aren't excuses, and as much as being sick makes my behaviour understandable, it doesn't excuse it or mean that I can't control my actions.
I want to do better but I don't know how. I think I'm going to stop trying to date people for a while. I'm scared because I'm 25 and I really want to have kids, and it feels like I won't be able to have them within my ideal timeframe if I do stop trying and I don't
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Just reading this, this solves one problem while creating another which is why this is getting picked apart That part stands out. Interested to see the follow-up.
Reaction: If I were them, Id hurry up.
At this point, the wording alone shifts how people read this Curious how this plays out.
From a neutral view, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s just my read on it.
To be fair, this comes across more reactive than planned Time will tell.
At this point, the way this is presented changes how it lands which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.
From where I sit, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s what people are responding to Curious how this plays out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
To be fair, this reads stronger on paper than in practice Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s just my read on it.
From a neutral view, the timing matters more than people admit Hard to say where this lands long term. At least from my perspective.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that tension shows up immediately That part stands out. This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s the impression it gives me.
At this point, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that friction is hard to ignore This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do Time will tell.
Honestly, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Curious how this plays out.
Reaction: I cannot elaborate on this meme
On the surface, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why this is getting picked apart That’s what changes the context. Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Honestly, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s the part people are stuck on
From where I sit, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that tension shows up immediately That’s what makes this interesting. Time will tell.
Trying to be fair, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s what changes the context. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Trying to be fair, this solves one problem while creating another and that friction is hard to ignore Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.
From a neutral view, this feels more about execution than intent That’s the key detail here. We’ll see how people react over time. Others will probably see it differently.
Bluntly speaking, this depends heavily on what happens next which turns this into more of a debate Interested to see the follow-up.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled Hard to say where this lands long term.
If you zoom out, the way this is presented changes how it lands which is why this is getting picked apart That part stands out. Interested to see the follow-up.
Reaction: Me irl
this depends heavily on what happens next which is why the comments look the way they do That’s what makes this interesting. That’s the impression it gives me.
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That’s what changes the context. Not convinced this is settled yet.