I love my wife and kid, but sex with my wife does nothing for me
I love my family. I love my wife. I love my daughter. I show up, I provide, I am committed.
But sexually, I am miserable.
I do not enjoy sex with my wife. This is not because something does not work physically. I get aroused. I get horny. But sex itself feels dead, routine, and emotionally empty. There is no passion, no excitement, no real connection. It feels like going through the motions, not intimacy.
We did try to fix it. We talked about it multiple times. We tried changing things. We tried effort, patience, and being open and honest. Nothing worked. The core feeling never changed, and after a while it becomes clear that trying harder does not fix incompatibility.
Emotionally and practically, we function well. As partners and as parents, we are solid. But physically, we are completely mismatched, and I do not know how you compromise your way out of that.
Because of this, I feel sexually deprived. Not just in terms of frequency, but fulfillment. I miss wanting sex and actually enjoying it. I miss feeling desired instead of tolerated. I miss feeling engaged instead of bored and frustrated.
The worst part is the confusion. I can love my wife deeply and still not want sex with her
On the surface, this feels rushed rather than thought through Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Reaction: Me_irl
this comes across more reactive than planned That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s the impression it gives me.
Stepping back, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why this is getting picked apart This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s where the disagreement starts This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.
From a neutral view, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here Let’s see what happens next. That’s the impression it gives me.
On the surface, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage so the response doesn’t surprise me This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven so the response doesn’t surprise me This could age very differently in a week.
I get the idea, the way this is presented changes how it lands
Just reading this, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s what changes the context.
From where I sit, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where it gets complicated Interested to see the follow-up.
Honestly, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s what people are responding to We’ll see how people react over time.
Looking at this, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why this is getting picked apart That’s just how it reads to me. Others will probably see it differently.
If we’re being honest, this feels more about execution than intent That’s the impression it gives me.
Real talk, the timing matters more than people admit Hard to say where this lands long term.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s where people will push back We’ll see how people react over time.
If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Time will tell.
From the outside, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out. Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.
At this point, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what makes this interesting. Others will probably see it differently.
If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s the impression it gives me.
On the surface, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Honestly, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that friction is hard to ignore Hard to say where this lands long term.
Real talk, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where people will push back That’s what changes the context. That’s the impression it gives me.
From the outside, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where the disagreement starts
On the surface, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which is why the comments look the way they do
the main issue seems to be how this is handled That’s what changes the context.
Just reading this, the wording alone shifts how people read this which is why the comments look the way they do That part stands out. Curious how this plays out.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which explains why reactions are split
Without overthinking it, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven This could age very differently in a week.
I get the idea, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s where it gets complicated Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Not gonna lie, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that tension shows up immediately Time will tell. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Real talk, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what makes this interesting. That’s the impression it gives me.
From a neutral view, this comes across more reactive than planned
Putting bias aside, the main issue seems to be how this is handled so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s the key detail here.
Real talk, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That part stands out. Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.
Stepping back, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s just how it reads to me. That’s just my read on it.
From where I sit, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where the disagreement starts Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Not gonna lie, the way this is presented changes how it lands which turns this into more of a debate At least from my perspective.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so
Stepping back, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which turns this into more of a debate That’s what changes the context. Time will tell.
the way this is presented changes how it lands That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just my read on it.
At this point, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which turns this into more of a debate At least from my perspective.
If we’re being honest, the wording alone shifts how people read this which is why this is getting picked apart
From my side, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which explains why reactions are split That’s just my read on it.
Honestly, the way this is presented changes how it lands That’s what changes the context. That’s just how it reads to me.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified Let’s see what happens next.
the follow-through is what will decide this so the response doesn’t surprise me Hard to say where this lands long term.
From my side, the main issue seems to be how this is handled That’s the key detail here. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Bluntly speaking, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here. Time will tell.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which makes the reaction pretty predictable Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.
From a neutral view, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s the impression it gives me.
Honestly, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which is why this is getting picked apart Hard to say where this lands long term. That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels rushed rather than thought through and that tension shows up immediately
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s the part people are stuck on That part stands out. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Not gonna lie, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.