I have to walk on eggshells or my husband shuts down emotionally (it’s breaking me)
**I’m not looking for advice. I just need to get this off my chest.**
Me (M29) and my husband (M28) have been married for 5 years. We got married after 1 year of dating and immediately moved to Europe because of a work opportunity I received.
Since then we had some disagreements (I counted probably 8 or 9 big ones in the last 5 years). More than half of them have always the same reason: finances and job topics.
The finances-related ones were more common in the past, like 4 years ago when we moved to a new apartment and completely drained our savings. I tried to talk about it, not to blame him as he's super unexpensive, but to share my worries. However he would always feel offended and start some kind of discussion about how I'm a cheapskate like my family.
To avoid conflict, I stopped talking about money altogether. If we are broke I suffer with this by myself. If we are in a good moment about money, I'll mention to him and we'll be happy together. Luckily, my situation improved after I changed jobs, so money is less stressful now.
The discussions about jobs are still a thing...
Since we moved together, I've always been employed. My husband tried running his own business during our
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From a practical angle, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s what people are responding to
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this feels like a half-step, not a full move That’s the key detail here. That’s the impression it gives me.
Just reading this, the timing matters more than people admit That’s just how it reads to me.
Honestly, the signal is clear, the strategy less so
Real talk, the wording alone shifts how people read this That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From where I sit, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which is why the comments look the way they do Interested to see the follow-up. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
At this point, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s what changes the context. That’s just how it reads to me.
At this point, this feels rushed rather than thought through Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Others will probably see it differently.
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Putting bias aside, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just my read on it.
I get the idea, this feels more about execution than intent Time will tell.
I get the idea, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven That’s the key detail here. Others will probably see it differently.
From a neutral view, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s the impression it gives me.
Looking at this, the way this is presented changes how it lands Hard to say where this lands long term.
Trying to be fair, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven We’ll see how people react over time. Others will probably see it differently.
If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where the disagreement starts
Without overthinking it, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven That’s the key detail here. Let’s see what happens next. That’s the impression it gives me.