I am no better than my abusers.
TW: Mentions of mental health issues, suicide, self harm, and abusive behaviors.
I [19M] lost an entire group of online friends within the past two months. And after some therapy and rethinking over my actions, I realized that my actions were incredibly abusive.
I have very treatment-resistant Borderline Personality Disorder and a severe case of OCD. I've been diagnosed with both within 2024-2025. I am in therapy and on medication for both. But I'm barely seeing results. I dealt with abuse from family members growing up, with my grandmother and her now deceased husband being the main abusers.
It all started sometime in late April of 2025, where my closest friend of 6yrs had started talking about this one friend. We'll call my friend 'P' [19] and their friend 'B.' [26-27?]
For anyone who has BPD or is at least aware of it, someone with BPD can have a person in particular that they fixate on specifically, also known as an 'FP', or 'Favorite Person.' P was my FP for months, and still is to an extent. This is important to keep in mind.
P had started showing large amounts of platonic affection towards B in particular, to the point where B was all that P talked / posted about. It was bec
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Honestly, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where it gets complicated This could age very differently in a week. That’s just my read on it.
From where I sit, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
the follow-through is what will decide this That’s just how it reads to me. At least from my perspective.
On the surface, the timing matters more than people admit Hard to say where this lands long term.
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Putting bias aside, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage
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If we’re being honest, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Others will probably see it differently.
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At first glance, the wording alone shifts how people read this Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s just my read on it.
Bluntly speaking, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven
If you zoom out, this feels rushed rather than thought through That’s the impression it gives me.
Trying to be fair, the timing matters more than people admit so the response doesn’t surprise me
At this point, this feels more about execution than intent
Trying to be fair, this solves one problem while creating another so the response doesn’t surprise me Interested to see the follow-up. At least from my perspective.
From where I sit, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here so the response doesn’t surprise me Hard to say where this lands long term.
Looking at this, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
On the surface, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That part stands out. We’ll see how people react over time.