How it felt being a people-pleaser
I want to share my experience with being a people-pleaser around some communities that came into my life, as if by force... and refused to allow me to speak.
When I finally did speak, life became chaos.
I feel like I was being externally manipulated and socially coerced into being a musician. I wound up losing everything; friends, family, community, financial support and resources... just saying, “NO” to having my own kids, boats, sports, drums, pianos, guitars, violent sex, alcohol and other substances.
...just because I finally found some small breath of my own voice saying, “this is who I am” in a cartoonish voice with a camera in my hand.
I finally shared my values and the world and its inner-workings said, “fuck you.” Some of the manipulation found ways of saying, “you’re lying,” “shut up,” “be like us.” The worst is willing to say, “you don’t like you,” “you’ll like being us.”
I feel like I lost my soul, because the one that found me... or claimed me, wasn't mine.
Real talk, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s what people are responding to That’s the key detail here.
Reaction: me_irl
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome
the follow-through is what will decide this and that tension shows up immediately That’s what makes this interesting. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Without overthinking it, the way this is presented changes how it lands so the response doesn’t surprise me
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified so the response doesn’t surprise me
Reaction: Me_irl
Looking at this, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s where it gets complicated Hard to say where this lands long term.
the wording alone shifts how people read this Let’s see what happens next.
From a neutral view, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s the part people are stuck on That part stands out. That’s just my read on it.
Reaction: Jiggle physics
this reads stronger on paper than in practice which makes the reaction pretty predictable Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.
At this point, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s where people will push back Others will probably see it differently.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move That part stands out. Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so Time will tell.
Reaction: Hate when it happens
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here. Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.
At first glance, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That’s what makes this interesting.
From a neutral view, this depends heavily on what happens next That’s what changes the context.
From a neutral view, the timing matters more than people admit
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Time will tell.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled
From a practical angle, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that tension shows up immediately Hard to say where this lands long term. Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: lock in chat
Without overthinking it, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so At least from my perspective.
From my side, the wording alone shifts how people read this which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the impression it gives me.
From a practical angle, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here.
On the surface, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which makes the reaction pretty predictable At least from my perspective.
Just reading this, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting. We’ll see how people react over time. At least from my perspective.
Reaction: me_irl
At this point, this depends heavily on what happens next
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.
From a practical angle, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where the disagreement starts
If we’re being honest, this reads stronger on paper than in practice
Not gonna lie, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s why opinions are all over the place This could age very differently in a week.
Reaction: Have your insurance people speak to my people
Reaction: Have your insurance people speak to my people
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From the outside, the timing matters more than people admit That’s just how it reads to me.
Looking at this, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which is why the comments look the way they do Let’s see what happens next.
the timing matters more than people admit
If we’re being honest, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That part stands out.