GF cheated with friend during first COVID lockdown, I don't blame them.
We were all 22/23 at the time. I met my girlfriend through my friend who was his roommate, they met during college. I always felt a little weird about dating a girl who was living with another guy but I really liked her and trusted him so those worries went away.
Then the lockdowns hit, I think it was january or feb. Because of my work I was still able to leave the house so I'd pass their apartment on my commute and she'd stand at the window to wave to me. This stopped after about 5 months. I texted her asking why, she said she fell asleep. Then the next day she forgot. The next day she didn't read the message at all, I started to figure maybe the separation is just too much for our relationship.
On my day off, I asked to call her and she agreed. I asked her if she wanted to remain in the relationship even if it meant we couldn't see each other. She said it wasn't that. She then admitted to me that she and my friend had sex a few times. Her reason was simply proximity and depravation. I was mad as fuck obviously, I yelled at her for a minute before deciding to just hang up the phone. Now every time I passed by their apartment on the commute I'd just keep walking. I remember seeing
At first glance, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out.
Reaction: me_irl
If you zoom out, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven That’s just how it reads to me. That’s just my read on it.
From a neutral view, the follow-through is what will decide this Not convinced this is settled yet.
Reaction: Jiggle physics
From the outside, the signal is clear, the strategy less so At least from my perspective.
Putting bias aside, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Not convinced this is settled yet.
If we’re being honest, the main issue seems to be how this is handled At least from my perspective.
this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s what people are responding to
From the outside, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where it gets complicated That’s the key detail here. That’s the impression it gives me.
Reaction: Every year it becomes worse
Stepping back, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that tension shows up immediately Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: me_irl
Real talk, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where people will push back Feels like there’s more coming here.
the follow-through is what will decide this That’s the impression it gives me.
On the surface, this comes across more reactive than planned and that friction is hard to ignore That’s what makes this interesting. Not convinced this is settled yet.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable Time will tell. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Bluntly speaking, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where people will push back That’s the key detail here. Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.
If you zoom out, the timing matters more than people admit which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s just how it reads to me.
From a practical angle, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where people will push back Curious how this plays out.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so so the response doesn’t surprise me Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.
Without overthinking it, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s where people will push back Curious how this plays out. That’s the impression it gives me.
Looking at this, the main issue seems to be how this is handled That’s what makes this interesting.
the way this is presented changes how it lands
Reaction: me_irl
From my side, the follow-through is what will decide this which turns this into more of a debate That’s what changes the context.
From the outside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That part stands out. We’ll see how people react over time.
From a neutral view, the way this is presented changes how it lands Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
At first glance, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which makes the reaction pretty predictable Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
If you zoom out, this comes across more reactive than planned and that friction is hard to ignore This probably isn’t the last word on it.
From the outside, this comes across more reactive than planned That’s the impression it gives me.
Without overthinking it, the main issue seems to be how this is handled which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next.
At this point, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where the disagreement starts We’ll see how people react over time.
To be fair, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that friction is hard to ignore Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Others will probably see it differently.