why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time
i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard
From my side, this feels rushed rather than thought through That part stands out. That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where it gets complicated Others will probably see it differently.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy We’ll see how people react over time. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From a neutral view, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that tension shows up immediately
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which explains why reactions are split We’ll see how people react over time. That’s just my read on it.
If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where the disagreement starts At least from my perspective.
At first glance, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up.
Just reading this, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that friction is hard to ignore That’s the impression it gives me.
From a practical angle, the signal is clear, the strategy less so Interested to see the follow-up. That’s just my read on it.
this solves one problem while creating another which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the impression it gives me.
From a practical angle, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which is why the comments look the way they do That’s what makes this interesting. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From a neutral view, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s where the disagreement starts Time will tell.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just how it reads to me.
Not gonna lie, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that tension shows up immediately
At this point, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone This could age very differently in a week. At least from my perspective.
Stepping back, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage At least from my perspective.
From the outside, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where the disagreement starts Time will tell.
At first glance, the way this is presented changes how it lands which turns this into more of a debate That’s what changes the context. At least from my perspective.
At this point, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which explains why reactions are split Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Others will probably see it differently.
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified
At this point, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which is why this is getting picked apart
Looking at this, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified so the response doesn’t surprise me That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
I get the idea, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s where people will push back Interested to see the follow-up.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice which turns this into more of a debate This could age very differently in a week.
Not gonna lie, this comes across more reactive than planned which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here.
Stepping back, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. That’s just my read on it.
Real talk, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where people will push back That’s what changes the context.
From where I sit, the main issue seems to be how this is handled
Bluntly speaking, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that tension shows up immediately
From my side, this feels like a half-step, not a full move Interested to see the follow-up. That’s just my read on it.
From my side, this feels more about execution than intent That’s what makes this interesting.
Stepping back, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s what people are responding to
Trying to be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which explains why reactions are split Curious how this plays out.
Without overthinking it, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s the part people are stuck on Curious how this plays out.
Not gonna lie, the main issue seems to be how this is handled which turns this into more of a debate Hard to say where this lands long term.
If we’re being honest, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s the key detail here.
At this point, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what makes this interesting. Others will probably see it differently.
To be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up.
Putting bias aside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s the part people are stuck on
At this point, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what makes this interesting. Hard to say where this lands long term.
To be fair, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which explains why reactions are split That part stands out. That’s just my read on it.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what makes this interesting.
this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where it gets complicated This probably isn’t the last word on it.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.
At first glance, this feels rushed rather than thought through so the response doesn’t surprise me
If you zoom out, the signal is clear, the strategy less so This could age very differently in a week.
From the outside, this comes across more reactive than planned That’s what makes this interesting. This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Not gonna lie, this feels rushed rather than thought through which makes the reaction pretty predictable
Trying to be fair, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which makes the reaction pretty predictable Let’s see what happens next.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why opinions are all over the place We’ll see how people react over time.
the timing matters more than people admit which turns this into more of a debate
the main issue seems to be how this is handled which makes the reaction pretty predictable Hard to say where this lands long term.
I get the idea, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where the disagreement starts Let’s see what happens next.
Real talk, the wording alone shifts how people read this Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s the impression it gives me.
From my side, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where the disagreement starts
Just reading this, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why opinions are all over the place That part stands out. At least from my perspective.
From a neutral view, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where it gets complicated Hard to say where this lands long term. Others will probably see it differently.
Stepping back, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s the key detail here. Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts
Honestly, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That’s the impression it gives me.
Not gonna lie, this feels more about execution than intent which is why the comments look the way they do Curious how this plays out. At least from my perspective.
From a neutral view, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which makes the reaction pretty predictable Time will tell.
Bluntly speaking, this comes across more reactive than planned which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. Curious how this plays out.
If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which turns this into more of a debate Interested to see the follow-up. That’s the impression it gives me.
Bluntly speaking, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why this is getting picked apart That’s what changes the context. We’ll see how people react over time.
On the surface, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s why opinions are all over the place Feels like there’s more coming here.
Looking at this, the signal is clear, the strategy less so Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s the impression it gives me.
From a practical angle, the follow-through is what will decide this which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. Hard to say where this lands long term. At least from my perspective.
Not gonna lie, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that tension shows up immediately
At this point, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which makes the reaction pretty predictable Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s the impression it gives me.
I get the idea, this feels rushed rather than thought through That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week. That’s just my read on it.
To be fair, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which is why the comments look the way they do Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
On the surface, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
Just reading this, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s what people are responding to
the wording alone shifts how people read this Others will probably see it differently.
Without overthinking it, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s the impression it gives me.
At this point, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That part stands out. That’s just how it reads to me.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out. At least from my perspective.
this feels rushed rather than thought through Others will probably see it differently.
At this point, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s where it gets complicated
From a neutral view, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That’s the impression it gives me.
From the outside, this comes across more reactive than planned and that friction is hard to ignore That’s what changes the context.
From where I sit, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that friction is hard to ignore That part stands out. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Just reading this, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which turns this into more of a debate
Bluntly speaking, the main issue seems to be how this is handled Curious how this plays out.
On the surface, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what changes the context. Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s just my read on it.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why the comments look the way they do
Putting bias aside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where people will push back That’s just my read on it.
If you zoom out, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that friction is hard to ignore That’s just my read on it.
Stepping back, this feels more about execution than intent which makes the reaction pretty predictable
Not gonna lie, this solves one problem while creating another At least from my perspective.
At first glance, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where people will push back That’s the key detail here. Curious how this plays out.
Looking at this, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what changes the context. We’ll see how people react over time. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Trying to be fair, this depends heavily on what happens next which explains why reactions are split Interested to see the follow-up.
Putting bias aside, this solves one problem while creating another and that friction is hard to ignore That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up.
From a practical angle, the direction makes sense but the details are messy Feels like there’s more coming here.
From the outside, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That’s what changes the context.
From a practical angle, the follow-through is what will decide this Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.
At this point, the follow-through is what will decide this and that friction is hard to ignore This probably isn’t the last word on it.
If we’re being honest, the timing matters more than people admit At least from my perspective.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which explains why reactions are split Hard to say where this lands long term.
Putting bias aside, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where it gets complicated That’s just my read on it.
this feels rushed rather than thought through so the response doesn’t surprise me Feels like an opening move, not an ending. That’s just my read on it.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s where the disagreement starts Hard to say where this lands long term.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven This could age very differently in a week.
From where I sit, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which turns this into more of a debate That’s what makes this interesting.
From the outside, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s the key detail here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s the part people are stuck on This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.
I get the idea, this depends heavily on what happens next Hard to say where this lands long term.