why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time
i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard
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From my side, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Reaction: Just always
Without overthinking it, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.
Not gonna lie, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Not convinced this is settled yet.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s just my read on it.
this solves one problem while creating another and that tension shows up immediately That’s what makes this interesting. We’ll see how people react over time.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Time will tell. That’s just my read on it.
On the surface, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that tension shows up immediately This could age very differently in a week.
Looking at this, the way this is presented changes how it lands which is why this is getting picked apart
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels rushed rather than thought through That part stands out. Interested to see the follow-up.
From a practical angle, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so
I get the idea, this reads stronger on paper than in practice Feels like there’s more coming here.
Reaction: very shocking
this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From my side, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s the part people are stuck on Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s what people are responding to Let’s see what happens next.
If you zoom out, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which turns this into more of a debate That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next.
Honestly, the wording alone shifts how people read this That’s just how it reads to me. That’s just my read on it.
To be fair, this comes across more reactive than planned which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. This could age very differently in a week. At least from my perspective.
If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That part stands out.
Reaction: This meme is brought to you by a lack of sleep
From my side, this feels rushed rather than thought through Curious how this plays out.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome
Real talk, this depends heavily on what happens next
At this point, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which is why the comments look the way they do Others will probably see it differently.
At this point, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so
Looking at this, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable This could age very differently in a week.
Trying to be fair, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which makes the reaction pretty predictable That part stands out. That’s just how it reads to me.
At first glance, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which is why the comments look the way they do This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Reaction: FFS ... Meh
Trying to be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s what makes this interesting. Hard to say where this lands long term. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Stepping back, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week. That’s the impression it gives me.
I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s the key detail here. Time will tell.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Bluntly speaking, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s what people are responding to
Reaction: Jiggle physics
At this point, this feels rushed rather than thought through which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just my read on it.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Reaction: This meme is brought to you by a lack of sleep
At first glance, this solves one problem while creating another Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.
If you zoom out, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s the key detail here. Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s the impression it gives me.
Putting bias aside, the way this is presented changes how it lands This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.
On the surface, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s where the disagreement starts Let’s see what happens next.
Stepping back, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.
From where I sit, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where people will push back This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
To be fair, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s the key detail here. We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.
I get the idea, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what changes the context. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.
From the outside, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what changes the context. This probably isn’t the last word on it. At least from my perspective.
From a practical angle, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome
Without overthinking it, the follow-through is what will decide this which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here.
Reaction: I'm recreating 1939
the direction makes sense but the details are messy Let’s see what happens next.
From a practical angle, the wording alone shifts how people read this Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.
Without overthinking it, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that tension shows up immediately That’s the key detail here. That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Bluntly speaking, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why opinions are all over the place
Reaction: Me irl
Honestly, this comes across more reactive than planned which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
From a neutral view, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s what makes this interesting. Interested to see the follow-up.
From my side, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where the disagreement starts
If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s the part people are stuck on
Reaction: me_irl
Stepping back, the way this is presented changes how it lands Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.
From my side, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s the key detail here. That’s just my read on it.
Reaction: me_irl
Real talk, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which is why the comments look the way they do That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Trying to be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy
From the outside, the timing matters more than people admit which is why this is getting picked apart At least from my perspective.
the follow-through is what will decide this which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the key detail here.
the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.