Reinhard Hermann

why i've been thinking about myself wrong this entire time

i just watched this video and there's this moment early on where the creator of the video, asha, says "all this therapy speak, the self love mantras, the hustle-get-over-yourself stuff, it just doesn't sit right with my brain. i needed something analytical but not cold. emotionally complex but also practical."
and that resonated with me in a way that's genuinely hard to explain. bc i've read so many books. how to know a person by david brooks. all the dale carnegie stuff. graham duncan. even wandered onto pickup artistry subreddit cos i was thinking maybe they know a thing or two about human psychology. trying to understand what the f is happening inside people, inside myself. and none of them truly taught me how to even begin thinking about a person. a framework for how any of it connects.
she introduces this concept of "the meal vs ingredient theory", which sounds almost obvious once I heard it, but i swear to god... why has no one has ever put it this way before? idk
when i think about my own faults, like my inability to speak up, the way i disappear in groups, how i can't seem to advocate for myself, i've always approached them like bad ingredients that i've been trying so hard

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Cesar Peña
Cesar Peña
@smallbear176891 · Jan 11, 2026 9:06 pm

From my side, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Cesar Peña
Cesar Peña
@smallbear176891 · Jan 11, 2026 9:06 pm

Reaction: Just always

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Judy Lord
Judy Lord
@ticklishbear818656 · Jan 11, 2026 9:05 pm

Without overthinking it, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.

Fynn Bergsma
Fynn Bergsma
@tinybutterfly947419 · Jan 11, 2026 9:05 pm

Not gonna lie, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Not convinced this is settled yet.

آیناز گلشن
آیناز گلشن
@crazymouse329770 · Jan 11, 2026 9:05 pm

the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s just my read on it.

Álvaro Arias
Álvaro Arias
@smallgorilla148573 · Jan 11, 2026 8:57 pm

this solves one problem while creating another and that tension shows up immediately That’s what makes this interesting. We’ll see how people react over time.

Matheus Aarsland
Matheus Aarsland
@redbutterfly717229 · Jan 11, 2026 8:57 pm

the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Time will tell. That’s just my read on it.

Terry Collins
Terry Collins
@bigladybug327971 · Jan 11, 2026 8:44 pm

On the surface, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that tension shows up immediately This could age very differently in a week.

Óscar Camacho
Óscar Camacho
@goldenpanda153207 · Jan 11, 2026 8:44 pm

Looking at this, the way this is presented changes how it lands which is why this is getting picked apart

Macit Sözeri
Macit Sözeri
@angrytiger895797 · Jan 11, 2026 8:44 pm

this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.

Isabella Smith
Isabella Smith
@organicgoose840310 · Jan 11, 2026 8:34 pm

this feels rushed rather than thought through That part stands out. Interested to see the follow-up.

آیناز محمدخان
آیناز محمدخان
@goldenswan591619 · Jan 11, 2026 8:34 pm

From a practical angle, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so

Robim Jesus
Robim Jesus
@silverostrich484139 · Jan 11, 2026 8:29 pm

I get the idea, this reads stronger on paper than in practice Feels like there’s more coming here.

Robim Jesus
Robim Jesus
@silverostrich484139 · Jan 11, 2026 8:29 pm

Reaction: very shocking

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Emre Tanrıkulu
Emre Tanrıkulu
@blueduck219605 · Jan 11, 2026 8:23 pm

this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.

Brittany Reyes
Brittany Reyes
@greengorilla230197 · Jan 11, 2026 8:23 pm

there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Prosper Van der Sanden
Prosper Van der Sanden
@happysnake107445 · Jan 11, 2026 8:13 pm

From my side, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s the part people are stuck on Time will tell. At least from my perspective.

Andrea Grujić
Andrea Grujić
@bigleopard172250 · Jan 11, 2026 8:13 pm

this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s what people are responding to Let’s see what happens next.

Jacob Sirko
Jacob Sirko
@goldencat853382 · Jan 11, 2026 8:13 pm

If you zoom out, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which turns this into more of a debate That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next.

Brooke Moreno
Brooke Moreno
@tinypeacock463124 · Jan 11, 2026 8:06 pm

Honestly, the wording alone shifts how people read this That’s just how it reads to me. That’s just my read on it.

Roli Pereira
Roli Pereira
@bluerabbit135285 · Jan 11, 2026 8:03 pm

To be fair, this comes across more reactive than planned which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. This could age very differently in a week. At least from my perspective.

Alexandre Morin
Alexandre Morin
@greenmeercat608824 · Jan 11, 2026 7:56 pm

If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That part stands out.

Alexandre Morin
Alexandre Morin
@greenmeercat608824 · Jan 11, 2026 7:56 pm

Reaction: This meme is brought to you by a lack of sleep

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مهدیس زارعی
مهدیس زارعی
@angryfrog755925 · Jan 11, 2026 7:56 pm

From my side, this feels rushed rather than thought through Curious how this plays out.

Cory Larson
Cory Larson
@happypanda860864 · Jan 11, 2026 7:45 pm

there’s a gap between the message and the outcome

Libid Kostenko
Libid Kostenko
@crazyfish109440 · Jan 11, 2026 7:45 pm

Real talk, this depends heavily on what happens next

Kenneth Chambers
Kenneth Chambers
@lazylion158422 · Jan 11, 2026 7:45 pm

At this point, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which is why the comments look the way they do Others will probably see it differently.

Sophia Stenvik
Sophia Stenvik
@bluegorilla939420 · Jan 11, 2026 7:42 pm

At this point, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so

Logan Jean
Logan Jean
@greenrabbit199680 · Jan 11, 2026 7:38 pm

Looking at this, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable This could age very differently in a week.

Mathis Hegge
Mathis Hegge
@goldenmeercat578672 · Jan 11, 2026 7:34 pm

Trying to be fair, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which makes the reaction pretty predictable That part stands out. That’s just how it reads to me.

Marian Garrett
Marian Garrett
@blackladybug379641 · Jan 11, 2026 7:29 pm

At first glance, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which is why the comments look the way they do This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Marian Garrett
Marian Garrett
@blackladybug379641 · Jan 11, 2026 7:29 pm

Reaction: FFS ... Meh

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Sofija Perić
Sofija Perić
@whitekoala353705 · Jan 11, 2026 7:25 pm

Trying to be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s what makes this interesting. Hard to say where this lands long term. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Jeremy Kelley
Jeremy Kelley
@happytiger193169 · Jan 11, 2026 7:25 pm

Stepping back, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week. That’s the impression it gives me.

Ida Christensen
Ida Christensen
@whitebird748710 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s the key detail here. Time will tell.

Maëly Francois
Maëly Francois
@lazyostrich237548 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

this feels like a half-step, not a full move That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it.

Eduartino da Mata
Eduartino da Mata
@orangekoala993668 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

Bluntly speaking, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s what people are responding to

Eduartino da Mata
Eduartino da Mata
@orangekoala993668 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

Reaction: Jiggle physics

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Liliana Lilleeng
Liliana Lilleeng
@organicfish825620 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

At this point, this feels rushed rather than thought through which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just my read on it.

محیا زارعی
محیا زارعی
@bigwolf356950 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Liliana Lilleeng
Liliana Lilleeng
@organicfish825620 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

Reaction: This meme is brought to you by a lack of sleep

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Emilie Roy
Emilie Roy
@purplegoose684366 · Jan 11, 2026 7:24 pm

At first glance, this solves one problem while creating another Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.

Terra Kelly
Terra Kelly
@bluekoala791463 · Jan 11, 2026 7:23 pm

If you zoom out, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s the key detail here. Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s the impression it gives me.

Adolf Prell
Adolf Prell
@lazydog521512 · Jan 11, 2026 7:23 pm

Putting bias aside, the way this is presented changes how it lands This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.

William Hudson
William Hudson
@brownlion119372 · Jan 11, 2026 7:23 pm

On the surface, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s where the disagreement starts Let’s see what happens next.

Polda Freitas
Polda Freitas
@greenladybug875197 · Jan 11, 2026 7:23 pm

Stepping back, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.

Line Gulli
Line Gulli
@smallmouse467954 · Jan 11, 2026 7:23 pm

From where I sit, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where people will push back This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Susanna Kennedy
Susanna Kennedy
@lazyswan714431 · Jan 11, 2026 7:22 pm

To be fair, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s the key detail here. We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.

Herbert Frazier
Herbert Frazier
@happyleopard473648 · Jan 11, 2026 7:22 pm

I get the idea, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what changes the context. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.

Consuelo Reyes
Consuelo Reyes
@heavyswan229546 · Jan 11, 2026 7:22 pm

I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.

نیایش احمدی
نیایش احمدی
@silverdog400966 · Jan 11, 2026 7:21 pm

From the outside, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what changes the context. This probably isn’t the last word on it. At least from my perspective.

Rosina Fabre
Rosina Fabre
@happytiger438654 · Jan 11, 2026 7:12 pm

From a practical angle, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome

Allen Anderson
Allen Anderson
@bluebutterfly713608 · Jan 11, 2026 7:12 pm

Without overthinking it, the follow-through is what will decide this which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here.

Allen Anderson
Allen Anderson
@bluebutterfly713608 · Jan 11, 2026 7:12 pm

Reaction: I'm recreating 1939

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Juanita Ferguson
Juanita Ferguson
@blackbird866817 · Jan 11, 2026 7:11 pm

the direction makes sense but the details are messy Let’s see what happens next.

Tayisiya Filenko
Tayisiya Filenko
@sadgoose572476 · Jan 11, 2026 7:07 pm

From a practical angle, the wording alone shifts how people read this Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Noah Mortensen
Noah Mortensen
@heavybird830779 · Jan 11, 2026 6:59 pm

there’s a gap between the message and the outcome Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.

Ross Peterson
Ross Peterson
@bigpeacock249395 · Jan 11, 2026 6:33 pm

Without overthinking it, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that tension shows up immediately That’s the key detail here. That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Nelli Walli
Nelli Walli
@tinybutterfly687613 · Jan 11, 2026 6:26 pm

Bluntly speaking, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why opinions are all over the place

Nelli Walli
Nelli Walli
@tinybutterfly687613 · Jan 11, 2026 6:26 pm

Reaction: Me irl

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Serine Nesland
Serine Nesland
@browngorilla623823 · Jan 11, 2026 6:25 pm

Honestly, this comes across more reactive than planned which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.

Brooklyn Henry
Brooklyn Henry
@tinysnake937751 · Jan 11, 2026 6:19 pm

From a neutral view, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s what makes this interesting. Interested to see the follow-up.

Patsy Brooks
Patsy Brooks
@smallswan199591 · Jan 11, 2026 6:16 pm

From my side, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where the disagreement starts

Alex Burke
Alex Burke
@whitepeacock696119 · Jan 11, 2026 5:21 pm

If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s the part people are stuck on

Alex Burke
Alex Burke
@whitepeacock696119 · Jan 11, 2026 5:21 pm

Reaction: me_irl

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Allan Simmons
Allan Simmons
@blacklion900609 · Jan 11, 2026 5:16 pm

Stepping back, the way this is presented changes how it lands Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.

Kristin Harvey
Kristin Harvey
@silvercat686987 · Jan 11, 2026 12:38 pm

From my side, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s the key detail here. That’s just my read on it.

Kristin Harvey
Kristin Harvey
@silvercat686987 · Jan 11, 2026 12:38 pm

Reaction: me_irl

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Navami Moolya
Navami Moolya
@bigbutterfly549508 · Jan 11, 2026 12:29 pm

Real talk, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which is why the comments look the way they do That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Daksh Tipparti
Daksh Tipparti
@ticklishdog429138 · Jan 11, 2026 12:29 pm

Trying to be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy

Lauri Polon
Lauri Polon
@whiteswan470489 · Jan 11, 2026 12:29 pm

From the outside, the timing matters more than people admit which is why this is getting picked apart At least from my perspective.

Greta Vidal
Greta Vidal
@ticklishsnake162622 · Jan 11, 2026 12:29 pm

the follow-through is what will decide this which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the key detail here.

Helmi Hatala
Helmi Hatala
@smallduck994500 · Jan 11, 2026 12:28 pm

the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.