My ex-husband sent photos of me to strangers online and I still think about it to this day.
Hi Reddit. I would like to preface this by saying that this happened back in 2023. I have been divorced from this wretched man for quite some time now (thank God) and he is no longer in my life.
Also, because I cannot put multiple content warning tags on one post, I will be saying right now that this will include mentions of alcohol. If that is something that you are okay with reading, feel free to proceed. If not, please take care of yourself and skip this post.
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I was sitting with my then husband on the couch in our garage. We were spending some time together and he was drinking a bit.
He started to tell me about a group chat that he was part of on a website that he frequented. He then began to talk to me about this group, about how there were beautiful pictures of women on there and how other people would describe their partners to each other. It was sort of like a “rating system,” from what I understood. My alarm bells immediately began going off in my head, looking at him telling me about this while he was utterly shitfaced.
I immediately asked him why he was in this group and what his intentions with it were.
Initially, he began to minimize it. He told me t
Honestly, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. Others will probably see it differently.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that friction is hard to ignore That’s just my read on it.
Reaction: Castle Rock and Derry clears the worst place to live in fiction contest.
From a practical angle, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
If we’re being honest, this solves one problem while creating another which is why this is getting picked apart That’s just my read on it.
Bluntly speaking, this feels rushed rather than thought through That’s what makes this interesting. Not convinced this is settled yet. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s the key detail here. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Reaction: I'm recreating 1939
On the surface, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which is why the comments look the way they do
Reaction: Me_irl
the main issue seems to be how this is handled so the response doesn’t surprise me Others will probably see it differently.
To be fair, the way this is presented changes how it lands which makes the reaction pretty predictable Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
At this point, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven so the response doesn’t surprise me
From where I sit, the wording alone shifts how people read this Hard to say where this lands long term.
On the surface, this comes across more reactive than planned which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what changes the context. At least from my perspective.
Real talk, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s the part people are stuck on Feels like an opening move, not an ending. At least from my perspective.
Trying to be fair, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where it gets complicated
Bluntly speaking, the timing matters more than people admit This could age very differently in a week.
If we’re being honest, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where people will push back Hard to say where this lands long term.
Looking at this, this feels more about execution than intent That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week.
If we’re being honest, this feels rushed rather than thought through which is why this is getting picked apart That’s what changes the context. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Without overthinking it, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s the impression it gives me.
On the surface, the timing matters more than people admit so the response doesn’t surprise me Others will probably see it differently.
On the surface, this comes across more reactive than planned which makes the reaction pretty predictable Feels like there’s more coming here.
Stepping back, this solves one problem while creating another Curious how this plays out. Others will probably see it differently.
the timing matters more than people admit which turns this into more of a debate That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up. That’s just my read on it.
On the surface, this comes across more reactive than planned
Stepping back, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the impression it gives me.
On the surface, the signal is clear, the strategy less so so the response doesn’t surprise me
Not gonna lie, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place Curious how this plays out.
I get the idea, this depends heavily on what happens next which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s just how it reads to me. At least from my perspective.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so which explains why reactions are split
the timing matters more than people admit and that friction is hard to ignore Others will probably see it differently.
From where I sit, the main issue seems to be how this is handled This probably isn’t the last word on it.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled This could age very differently in a week.
Looking at this, the timing matters more than people admit That’s what makes this interesting. Interested to see the follow-up.
Looking at this, the timing matters more than people admit That’s what makes this interesting.
the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where people will push back Interested to see the follow-up. At least from my perspective.
To be fair, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s the key detail here. Others will probably see it differently.
Trying to be fair, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here. Curious how this plays out.
the timing matters more than people admit
this solves one problem while creating another That part stands out. This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Stepping back, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s just how it reads to me.
From my side, this reads stronger on paper than in practice This probably isn’t the last word on it.
this comes across more reactive than planned which turns this into more of a debate
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Real talk, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so
From my side, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s what changes the context. Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.
the timing matters more than people admit That part stands out.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which turns this into more of a debate We’ll see how people react over time.
From my side, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s the part people are stuck on We’ll see how people react over time. At least from my perspective.
At first glance, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where it gets complicated Time will tell. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Bluntly speaking, this comes across more reactive than planned
From the outside, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
If we’re being honest, this feels rushed rather than thought through which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels rushed rather than thought through which makes the reaction pretty predictable Let’s see what happens next.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s the key detail here. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. At least from my perspective.
Real talk, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That part stands out. Interested to see the follow-up. That’s just my read on it.
Real talk, this solves one problem while creating another which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here.
Real talk, this solves one problem while creating another which turns this into more of a debate Curious how this plays out.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s what changes the context. This could age very differently in a week. That’s the impression it gives me.
Honestly, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven
this depends heavily on what happens next which is why the comments look the way they do We’ll see how people react over time.
If you zoom out, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s the part people are stuck on This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so
the signal is clear, the strategy less so This could age very differently in a week.
From a practical angle, this feels rushed rather than thought through which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what changes the context.
Real talk, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven
Trying to be fair, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out. This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this comes across more reactive than planned Let’s see what happens next.
From my side, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s the part people are stuck on We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.
At this point, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s the key detail here. Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s the impression it gives me.
I get the idea, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which makes the reaction pretty predictable That part stands out. Let’s see what happens next.
From where I sit, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s what people are responding to That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s the impression it gives me.
this comes across more reactive than planned That’s the impression it gives me.
From my side, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven We’ll see how people react over time.
the follow-through is what will decide this which is why this is getting picked apart Not convinced this is settled yet.
If you zoom out, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That’s what makes this interesting. Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s where people will push back Others will probably see it differently.
I get the idea, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which turns this into more of a debate Let’s see what happens next.
the timing matters more than people admit That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this feels rushed rather than thought through This could age very differently in a week. That’s just my read on it.
Without overthinking it, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s where people will push back That’s what changes the context. Time will tell.
Not gonna lie, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s what people are responding to That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
At this point, the signal is clear, the strategy less so
On the surface, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which makes the reaction pretty predictable
Honestly, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that tension shows up immediately That’s the key detail here.
the timing matters more than people admit That’s the key detail here. That’s just my read on it.
Not gonna lie, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s what people are responding to
Real talk, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s the part people are stuck on That part stands out. Others will probably see it differently.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why opinions are all over the place
Putting bias aside, this solves one problem while creating another That’s the key detail here.
On the surface, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so Time will tell.
If you zoom out, this comes across more reactive than planned Others will probably see it differently.
Trying to be fair, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting.
To be fair, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that tension shows up immediately Interested to see the follow-up.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone At least from my perspective.
Bluntly speaking, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting.
Not gonna lie, the wording alone shifts how people read this
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s what people are responding to This could age very differently in a week.
At first glance, the follow-through is what will decide this and that tension shows up immediately This probably isn’t the last word on it.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled That’s what changes the context. Time will tell. That’s just my read on it.
From a practical angle, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s what people are responding to Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.
From my side, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s where people will push back Curious how this plays out.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where it gets complicated Hard to say where this lands long term.
At first glance, this comes across more reactive than planned That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s what people are responding to That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
If you zoom out, this solves one problem while creating another so the response doesn’t surprise me This could age very differently in a week. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Putting bias aside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place Feels like there’s more coming here.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s the part people are stuck on
the signal is clear, the strategy less so so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what changes the context. That’s the impression it gives me.