My (26M) girlfriend (26F) of 8 years cheated with a married woman, rewrote our relationship as abusive, and now blames m
Im a 26M and my girlfriend 26F of 8 years cheated on me for about four months with a married women who has two children and is about 8 years older than her. I discovered the affair myself.
Whats been hardest to process is that during those same months, my girlfriend and i were actively planning our future together. At the same she was doing this with the married women.
After discoving the affair, I found messages between my ex and this married women saying she realized ive been abusing her for 8 years and I was a terrible boyfriend. The narrative appeared suddenly and only after the afair started. This was never raised with me, friends, or family during our relationship.
During our relationship her family and friends only praised me. Ive supported her through career struggles, health issues, anxiety, and emotion regulation. Im not saying i was perfect but the total rewriting of our relationship feels disconnected from reality.
Two weeks after the affair, I tried to have a calm conversation with her. I asked whether, someday we could remain as friends, since we grew together for 8 years. This conversation went badly. She snapped at me and said I ruined her life, physically harmed he
From where I sit, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That’s what makes this interesting. Others will probably see it differently.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s the key detail here. Time will tell.
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the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here Let’s see what happens next.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s where the disagreement starts
Putting bias aside, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting. This probably isn’t the last word on it. At least from my perspective.
Just reading this, this feels more about execution than intent which is why the comments look the way they do Others will probably see it differently.
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this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone We’ll see how people react over time. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
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From my side, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where it gets complicated
Not gonna lie, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s just how it reads to me.
Stepping back, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it. At least from my perspective.
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which turns this into more of a debate That part stands out. Let’s see what happens next.
To be fair, the follow-through is what will decide this That’s the key detail here. Not convinced this is settled yet.
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there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s why opinions are all over the place Interested to see the follow-up.
Stepping back, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here. That’s the impression it gives me.
Stepping back, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s where the disagreement starts Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
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Stepping back, this depends heavily on what happens next which is why this is getting picked apart Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Without overthinking it, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which explains why reactions are split This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s the impression it gives me.
From the outside, this feels more about execution than intent
From where I sit, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s what people are responding to
this comes across more reactive than planned which turns this into more of a debate That’s just my read on it.
To be fair, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context.
From a practical angle, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s the impression it gives me.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice which makes the reaction pretty predictable At least from my perspective.
Stepping back, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Others will probably see it differently.
Just reading this, this feels like a half-step, not a full move That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week. Others will probably see it differently.
From my side, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why opinions are all over the place That part stands out.
this solves one problem while creating another That part stands out. Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place Time will tell.
From my side, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting.
this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where people will push back
this solves one problem while creating another Others will probably see it differently.
the timing matters more than people admit and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
At this point, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s what makes this interesting.
this feels more about execution than intent and that friction is hard to ignore That’s the impression it gives me.
I get the idea, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s where people will push back Others will probably see it differently.
Not gonna lie, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s what changes the context. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
To be fair, the way this is presented changes how it lands Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s what makes this interesting. This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
I get the idea, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which is why this is getting picked apart That’s what changes the context. This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Without overthinking it, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here
Honestly, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s just how it reads to me.
Real talk, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so At least from my perspective.
Honestly, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which is why this is getting picked apart Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.
From a neutral view, this depends heavily on what happens next which makes the reaction pretty predictable Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.
If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that tension shows up immediately That’s the key detail here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
this feels more about execution than intent and that friction is hard to ignore Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.
this comes across more reactive than planned which is why the comments look the way they do Curious how this plays out.
At first glance, this feels rushed rather than thought through which is why this is getting picked apart Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s where it gets complicated Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Stepping back, the way this is presented changes how it lands which turns this into more of a debate This could age very differently in a week.
this feels rushed rather than thought through That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.