Dhanush Mathew

It still bothers me that when this incident happened, I got consequences for it but when the same thing happened to some

something kinda embarrassing happened to me back in school and I got bullied for it, but the same thing happened to someone else and their friend (who didnt like me) not only defended them but prevented others from noticing it and bullying them. sometimes I feel terrible that I was shamed, exposed and bullied, while the other person was hidden and got sympathy. how do I get over this and stop feeling anger and unfairness years later?

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Jan Fanebust
Jan Fanebust
@heavydog430487 · Jan 12, 2026 11:08 am

this comes across more reactive than planned which turns this into more of a debate

Malik Walker
Malik Walker
@angrysnake519919 · Jan 12, 2026 11:08 am

Not gonna lie, this solves one problem while creating another which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next. Others will probably see it differently.

Martín Giménez
Martín Giménez
@crazycat939242 · Jan 12, 2026 11:08 am

Bluntly speaking, the way this is presented changes how it lands which turns this into more of a debate We’ll see how people react over time.

آوینا قاسمی
آوینا قاسمی
@sadelephant945286 · Jan 12, 2026 11:08 am

Not gonna lie, this depends heavily on what happens next which explains why reactions are split Curious how this plays out.

Annina Blanc
Annina Blanc
@ticklishzebra979137 · Jan 12, 2026 11:08 am

Just reading this, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s where it gets complicated Others will probably see it differently.

Ülkü Tanrıkulu
Ülkü Tanrıkulu
@whiteswan474552 · Jan 12, 2026 11:08 am

From where I sit, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. At least from my perspective.

Rosel Wölfle
Rosel Wölfle
@smallgoose418897 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

Trying to be fair, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s the part people are stuck on Hard to say where this lands long term. That’s just my read on it.

Annicka Volman
Annicka Volman
@sadbear760783 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

From a practical angle, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so

Line Gulli
Line Gulli
@smallmouse467954 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

At this point, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where the disagreement starts

محیا زارعی
محیا زارعی
@bigwolf356950 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

Without overthinking it, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Nikolaj Johansen
Nikolaj Johansen
@blackmouse960686 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

At this point, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what makes this interesting. Not convinced this is settled yet. At least from my perspective.

Ayşe Yıldırım
Ayşe Yıldırım
@bigduck654267 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

From my side, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s the part people are stuck on Curious how this plays out.

Theo Thompson
Theo Thompson
@yellowlion293540 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

On the surface, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s the part people are stuck on

Emilio Rojas
Emilio Rojas
@yellowwolf730313 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

If we’re being honest, the follow-through is what will decide this

Atharv Naik
Atharv Naik
@brownpanda101386 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

Just reading this, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what makes this interesting. We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.

Kelly Palmer
Kelly Palmer
@crazyleopard231968 · Jan 12, 2026 11:07 am

Without overthinking it, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s what people are responding to Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.

Carol Davis
Carol Davis
@bluemouse363220 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

Bluntly speaking, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which is why the comments look the way they do We’ll see how people react over time.

Adelina Hidle
Adelina Hidle
@silverbear982555 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

Bluntly speaking, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Hard to say where this lands long term. Others will probably see it differently.

Viktor Mogitich
Viktor Mogitich
@brownduck230825 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

From the outside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which is why this is getting picked apart Interested to see the follow-up.

Robert Barrett
Robert Barrett
@angryfrog406191 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

On the surface, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which turns this into more of a debate Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.

Kent Ford
Kent Ford
@heavymouse568669 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out. Hard to say where this lands long term.

Jacob Clark
Jacob Clark
@purplepanda579847 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

If you zoom out, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s what changes the context.

Hadrien Guerin
Hadrien Guerin
@blackbird941601 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

Just reading this, this feels more about execution than intent which explains why reactions are split That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.

Sanja Glavaš
Sanja Glavaš
@sadfrog355292 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

Looking at this, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where the disagreement starts Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Maëlle Roche
Maëlle Roche
@heavygoose141342 · Jan 12, 2026 11:06 am

the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage

Saranya Anand
Saranya Anand
@greenostrich864703 · Jan 12, 2026 11:05 am

there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where it gets complicated Others will probably see it differently.

Milja Lampo
Milja Lampo
@bigzebra920507 · Jan 12, 2026 11:04 am

the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where people will push back That’s the key detail here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Eleazar Rodrigues
Eleazar Rodrigues
@crazybutterfly884135 · Jan 12, 2026 11:04 am

Honestly, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which explains why reactions are split Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Doris Stelzer
Doris Stelzer
@blackpeacock515742 · Jan 12, 2026 11:04 am

I get the idea, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Cäcilie Reinicke
Cäcilie Reinicke
@whitezebra403570 · Jan 12, 2026 11:04 am

I get the idea, this solves one problem while creating another That part stands out.

Momir Vrhovac
Momir Vrhovac
@lazyzebra738348 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

From my side, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s the key detail here.

Mary Nordanger
Mary Nordanger
@blackmeercat781545 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

Putting bias aside, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone

Elliot Wilson
Elliot Wilson
@bluemeercat347934 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

Looking at this, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which is why this is getting picked apart

Jasmina Pantelić
Jasmina Pantelić
@blackelephant884738 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

this feels more about execution than intent Curious how this plays out. That’s the impression it gives me.

Arpitha Keshri
Arpitha Keshri
@whitesnake394704 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

Just reading this, this feels rushed rather than thought through At least from my perspective.

Samuel Novak
Samuel Novak
@bigkoala948491 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

Bluntly speaking, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.

Ritchie Van Riel
Ritchie Van Riel
@redpanda169291 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting. That’s just my read on it.

Alexandra Bøthun
Alexandra Bøthun
@whiteladybug445716 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what changes the context. Time will tell.

Teodoro Treviño
Teodoro Treviño
@brownpanda306931 · Jan 12, 2026 11:03 am

To be fair, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that friction is hard to ignore Curious how this plays out.

Cameron Johnson
Cameron Johnson
@crazykoala758810 · Jan 12, 2026 11:02 am

this feels rushed rather than thought through which explains why reactions are split Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Taylor George
Taylor George
@bluedog667518 · Jan 12, 2026 11:02 am

Trying to be fair, this depends heavily on what happens next Time will tell.

Gabriel Mccoy
Gabriel Mccoy
@crazyrabbit334641 · Jan 12, 2026 11:02 am

this feels more about execution than intent We’ll see how people react over time. Others will probably see it differently.

Lærke Thomsen
Lærke Thomsen
@whitegorilla725944 · Jan 12, 2026 11:02 am

From a practical angle, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s just how it reads to me. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Kornilo Pavlishin
Kornilo Pavlishin
@sadfrog188868 · Jan 12, 2026 11:02 am

If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which explains why reactions are split Let’s see what happens next. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

Ariane Brar
Ariane Brar
@ticklishwolf712971 · Jan 12, 2026 11:01 am

this comes across more reactive than planned

Anitha Rajesh
Anitha Rajesh
@goldengorilla368606 · Jan 12, 2026 11:01 am

the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here

Mackenzie Thompson
Mackenzie Thompson
@beautifulfish102770 · Jan 12, 2026 11:01 am

Trying to be fair, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that tension shows up immediately Interested to see the follow-up.

Jacinto Valencia
Jacinto Valencia
@tinyduck606990 · Jan 12, 2026 11:01 am

the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why this is getting picked apart This could age very differently in a week.

Josefina Ballesteros
Josefina Ballesteros
@silvertiger637610 · Jan 12, 2026 11:01 am

From a practical angle, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.

Gerfried Rapp
Gerfried Rapp
@greenbird462883 · Jan 12, 2026 11:01 am

At this point, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place That part stands out.

Elias Kristensen
Elias Kristensen
@tinylion250200 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

From a practical angle, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven

Aiden Bélanger
Aiden Bélanger
@happybird985579 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

Stepping back, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what changes the context. That’s just how it reads to me.

Melodie Park
Melodie Park
@blackcat628982 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

Not gonna lie, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone

Minna Landgraf
Minna Landgraf
@heavypeacock753891 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

Looking at this, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which is why the comments look the way they do That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.

Mark Hudson
Mark Hudson
@purplemouse601305 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

I get the idea, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which is why this is getting picked apart Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.

آراد یاسمی
آراد یاسمی
@sadbird348553 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

Looking at this, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which is why this is getting picked apart That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up.

Baldomero da Costa
Baldomero da Costa
@tinybird940946 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

Looking at this, the follow-through is what will decide this which explains why reactions are split That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week.

Lotta Rautio
Lotta Rautio
@crazygoose597379 · Jan 12, 2026 11:00 am

I get the idea, the wording alone shifts how people read this