Insecurity is killing me
I’m a 20-year-old guy and I’ve always been deeply insecure — about my looks and about my success. It’s gotten so bad that I dread even going to the grocery store, because I feel so ugly and inferior just being around other people. No matter how many compliments I get from my partner, it never feels like enough. It only takes seeing one guy who looks better than me to completely ruin my day.
The same thing happens with success, but even worse. I just saw a Reddit post about dude a bit older than me who bought a really nice home from his parents at a big discount. Meanwhile, I live in a modest government-subsidized apartment with my partner, and I pay my share using benefits. Every time I see someone close to my age doing well, I immediately feel like a failure. I shut down and start hating myself. It’s exhausting.
Right now I’m unemployed. I have diagnosed depression and I’m waiting to be evaluated for ADHD. I’m not in school yet, but I’m trying to get into law school. Objectively, I know I’m not completely unlucky — my parents give me €100 a month and pay my phone bill, and my partner’s dad gave us a car and maintains it for free. I know I should be grateful for those things. But e
To be fair, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s the part people are stuck on Feels like an opening move, not an ending. That’s just my read on it.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so Let’s see what happens next.
Looking at this, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next.
Reaction: me_irl
At first glance, the main issue seems to be how this is handled Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
Trying to be fair, this depends heavily on what happens next so the response doesn’t surprise me Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Reaction: Death awaits you with nasty, big, pointy teeth if you keep doing this to me!
this feels more about execution than intent We’ll see how people react over time. At least from my perspective.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why this is getting picked apart Hard to say where this lands long term.
Just reading this, the main issue seems to be how this is handled so the response doesn’t surprise me Hard to say where this lands long term.
From a neutral view, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s where people will push back That’s what changes the context.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s what people are responding to Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
the follow-through is what will decide this which explains why reactions are split
the direction makes sense but the details are messy
Trying to be fair, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where it gets complicated That’s the key detail here.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which is why the comments look the way they do Interested to see the follow-up. That’s the impression it gives me.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where the disagreement starts
this feels rushed rather than thought through which explains why reactions are split This could age very differently in a week. At least from my perspective.
Reaction: me_irl
Reaction: me_irl
this solves one problem while creating another Time will tell. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Putting bias aside, the signal is clear, the strategy less so Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
From where I sit, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s where people will push back Curious how this plays out.
the timing matters more than people admit and that’s what people are responding to Feels like there’s more coming here.
I get the idea, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s what people are responding to That’s just my read on it.
Honestly, this feels like a half-step, not a full move so the response doesn’t surprise me Not convinced this is settled yet.
From my side, the main issue seems to be how this is handled which is why the comments look the way they do That’s what makes this interesting. Not convinced this is settled yet.
At first glance, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where the disagreement starts
To be fair, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s the key detail here.
Just reading this, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s why opinions are all over the place
Real talk, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where it gets complicated That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week.
Not gonna lie, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s the part people are stuck on Feels like there’s more coming here.
Stepping back, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s what makes this interesting.
At this point, this feels like a half-step, not a full move At least from my perspective.
Reaction: Death awaits you with nasty, big, pointy teeth if you keep doing this to me!
From where I sit, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where people will push back That’s the key detail here.
this feels rushed rather than thought through which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here. This could age very differently in a week.
Not gonna lie, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome Hard to say where this lands long term.
Real talk, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Let’s see what happens next.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s the key detail here. We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.
From a practical angle, the follow-through is what will decide this
Just reading this, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where people will push back
Bluntly speaking, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what makes this interesting. Interested to see the follow-up. That’s the impression it gives me.
Without overthinking it, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where it gets complicated
Real talk, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that tension shows up immediately That’s what makes this interesting.
From my side, this comes across more reactive than planned which makes the reaction pretty predictable Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: Those Actors Were Hella Exhausted
At this point, the follow-through is what will decide this which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here. Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
On the surface, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome so the response doesn’t surprise me Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Stepping back, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That part stands out.
Not gonna lie, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting. This could age very differently in a week.
Just reading this, the way this is presented changes how it lands That’s what makes this interesting.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting.