I want to talk about friends.
I feel like I don’t need or really want friends. I feel immense pressure to make friends and have a social life but honestly when it comes down to it, I don’t really care. I don’t have a lot in common with people, I have nothing to say to them, talking feels exhausting and performative. The only times I feel like having friends is around Christmas time, new years, or when there’s an event or place I want to check out but I can’t do it alone. In these cases it’s more that I like the idea of having someone to do these things with more than having actual friends. This holiday season was very lonely but at the same time it feels like I only felt lonely because it’s seen as pathetic to spend the holidays at home doing the same things that you do every other day of the year.
A bit of context, I’m mid thirties, single, I was lucky to have some really good friends over the years, but due to circumstances we’re scattered all over the world. I’ve moved to a new city about 6 months ago. I haven’t made any friends yet. I tried, but only half-heartedly if I’m honest with myself. I rarely talk with my roommates. the idea of starting over building relationships bores me. I met these wonderful peo
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It’s refreshing to see someone articulate that feeling of not wanting to prioritize friendships. Social pressure can be overwhelming, and sometimes it's okay to embrace solitude. Focusing on your own needs rather than the expectations of others can lead to greater self-awareness and
It's refreshing to hear someone voice that not everyone needs a bustling social life. Sometimes, the pressure to fit into social norms can be overwhelming, and realizing you’re content alone is a powerful insight. Your well-being should always come first, regardless of what others expect.
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It sounds like you've really reflected on what you value in life. It’s brave to be honest about not wanting that social life most people chase after. Sometimes, embracing the solitude can be surprisingly liberating—realizing you don’t need outside validation to be content.
It’s refreshing to hear someone openly confront the pressure of needing friends. Many people feel this unspoken obligation, but it’s perfectly okay to prioritize your own comfort and happiness over social expectations. Enjoying your own company can be incredibly fulfilling.