I Idolized Adulthood and Regret It
I (female, 23) have been running toward adulthood for as long as I can remember. When I was a kid, there were things happening that I felt like I couldn’t do anything about, so all I wanted was to grow up. I wanted independence, my own place, a job, my own money. I thought adulthood was freedom.
The problem is, I spent most of my youth trying to be an adult without ever learning how to be a person.
I cannot save money to save my life. The longest I’ve ever saved was a few months, maybe a year. The last time I saved a decent amount, it only lasted six months because I was slowly spending it without replenishing it. The first time I got my own place, I had to give it up because of domestic violence. The first time I left home, I had to come back because I wasn’t ready for the world, not the way I thought I was.
They don’t tell you that when you leave home and go to another country, it’s not all rainbows and sunshine. And I’m not saying people didn’t warn me. I’m saying I didn’t listen.
So many people told me growing up to stop idolizing adulthood. They said once you get there, you’ll regret rushing it. You’ll want to go back and do it all over again, but you can’t. There are no do-ov
Without overthinking it, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome which is why the comments look the way they do Others will probably see it differently.
Trying to be fair, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified Curious how this plays out.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which turns this into more of a debate Interested to see the follow-up. That’s just my read on it.
Real talk, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone This could age very differently in a week.
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Honestly, the timing matters more than people admit which is why the comments look the way they do That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
From my side, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why opinions are all over the place Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Bluntly speaking, the wording alone shifts how people read this which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting. At least from my perspective.
Putting bias aside, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s where people will push back That’s just my read on it.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which makes the reaction pretty predictable Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
At this point, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which is why the comments look the way they do
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where people will push back
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven That’s what makes this interesting.
this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where it gets complicated Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
From my side, this feels rushed rather than thought through which is why this is getting picked apart That’s just my read on it.
On the surface, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s just my read on it.
From a practical angle, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Others will probably see it differently.
From a practical angle, this solves one problem while creating another which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the impression it gives me.
At first glance, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s what people are responding to Curious how this plays out. That’s just my read on it.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here That’s just how it reads to me. That’s just my read on it.
the follow-through is what will decide this That’s the key detail here. Hard to say where this lands long term.
From the outside, this feels like a half-step, not a full move That’s what makes this interesting. Hard to say where this lands long term. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome
From the outside, this depends heavily on what happens next so the response doesn’t surprise me
At this point, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which explains why reactions are split We’ll see how people react over time.
Just reading this, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where it gets complicated Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s what changes the context. At least from my perspective.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s the part people are stuck on At least from my perspective.
Just reading this, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where it gets complicated Feels like an opening move, not an ending. At least from my perspective.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move which explains why reactions are split Hard to say where this lands long term. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From where I sit, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so Curious how this plays out.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the impression it gives me.
Stepping back, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s the part people are stuck on At least from my perspective.
Without overthinking it, the signal is clear, the strategy less so We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s the part people are stuck on Let’s see what happens next. That’s the impression it gives me.
the timing matters more than people admit That’s what changes the context. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Just reading this, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s what changes the context. This could age very differently in a week.
this solves one problem while creating another Others will probably see it differently.
From where I sit, this comes across more reactive than planned That’s what makes this interesting. Interested to see the follow-up.
Honestly, this depends heavily on what happens next That’s just my read on it.
this feels more about execution than intent which makes the reaction pretty predictable Let’s see what happens next. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the wording alone shifts how people read this At least from my perspective.
Honestly, this feels rushed rather than thought through Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
At first glance, the main issue seems to be how this is handled which makes the reaction pretty predictable Not convinced this is settled yet.
From a neutral view, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which makes the reaction pretty predictable That part stands out. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Without overthinking it, this solves one problem while creating another and that tension shows up immediately This could age very differently in a week. Others will probably see it differently.
To be fair, this solves one problem while creating another Others will probably see it differently.
this depends heavily on what happens next which is why the comments look the way they do
Putting bias aside, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that friction is hard to ignore Curious how this plays out. At least from my perspective.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled We’ll see how people react over time. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From a neutral view, the timing matters more than people admit which is why this is getting picked apart That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up. At least from my perspective.
Looking at this, this feels rushed rather than thought through which makes the reaction pretty predictable We’ll see how people react over time.
From a practical angle, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome At least from my perspective.
Real talk, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up.
I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s the key detail here. Let’s see what happens next. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
On the surface, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Putting bias aside, the wording alone shifts how people read this which is why this is getting picked apart
this feels more about execution than intent and that’s why opinions are all over the place This probably isn’t the last word on it. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
I get the idea, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s the impression it gives me.
Not gonna lie, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s just how it reads to me.
From where I sit, this feels more about execution than intent That’s just my read on it.
Putting bias aside, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting. We’ll see how people react over time.
At this point, this feels rushed rather than thought through That part stands out. At least from my perspective.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s what people are responding to
From where I sit, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which turns this into more of a debate At least from my perspective.
Bluntly speaking, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where people will push back Others will probably see it differently.
On the surface, the way this is presented changes how it lands Let’s see what happens next. That’s the impression it gives me.
Stepping back, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified Let’s see what happens next.
At first glance, the main issue seems to be how this is handled so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what makes this interesting. Not convinced this is settled yet.
Trying to be fair, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. Hard to say where this lands long term.
From my side, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage
this reads stronger on paper than in practice which makes the reaction pretty predictable Curious how this plays out. Others will probably see it differently.
To be fair, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that friction is hard to ignore Time will tell.
From my side, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s why opinions are all over the place That part stands out. This could age very differently in a week.
Honestly, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s what people are responding to That part stands out.
this comes across more reactive than planned That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up. That’s the impression it gives me.
On the surface, the follow-through is what will decide this That part stands out. Curious how this plays out.
To be fair, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here so the response doesn’t surprise me That part stands out. That’s the impression it gives me.
Putting bias aside, this feels more about execution than intent so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next.
Stepping back, the follow-through is what will decide this Others will probably see it differently.
this feels more about execution than intent so the response doesn’t surprise me At least from my perspective.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice This could age very differently in a week. Others will probably see it differently.
At this point, this feels more about execution than intent and that friction is hard to ignore
Putting bias aside, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that tension shows up immediately That’s the impression it gives me.
Looking at this, the follow-through is what will decide this That part stands out. That’s just my read on it.
On the surface, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s what people are responding to That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.
From a neutral view, this depends heavily on what happens next Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
Real talk, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome so the response doesn’t surprise me Interested to see the follow-up.
the timing matters more than people admit That’s what changes the context. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From a practical angle, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which explains why reactions are split
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s what people are responding to
Bluntly speaking, this comes across more reactive than planned At least from my perspective.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s the part people are stuck on Not convinced this is settled yet.
the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where it gets complicated Let’s see what happens next. That’s just my read on it.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move which explains why reactions are split Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified Time will tell.
From a neutral view, this depends heavily on what happens next which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here. Let’s see what happens next.
Bluntly speaking, the main issue seems to be how this is handled That part stands out. We’ll see how people react over time.
Bluntly speaking, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s where it gets complicated At least from my perspective.
From a practical angle, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting. Not convinced this is settled yet.
To be fair, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s what people are responding to That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up.
At first glance, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here Not convinced this is settled yet.
Just reading this, the timing matters more than people admit which explains why reactions are split Feels like there’s more coming here.
Real talk, this feels more about execution than intent Curious how this plays out. Others will probably see it differently.
Looking at this, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so Hard to say where this lands long term. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
On the surface, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s the part people are stuck on
At first glance, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that tension shows up immediately
the main issue seems to be how this is handled That’s the key detail here. Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s just my read on it.
On the surface, this solves one problem while creating another Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Just reading this, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s what makes this interesting. We’ll see how people react over time.
Not gonna lie, the timing matters more than people admit and that friction is hard to ignore
the direction makes sense but the details are messy Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From my side, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which explains why reactions are split Interested to see the follow-up.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do That’s just how it reads to me.
At first glance, the signal is clear, the strategy less so so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s the key detail here. That’s just how it reads to me.
Real talk, this depends heavily on what happens next Curious how this plays out. That’s the impression it gives me.
Without overthinking it, the way this is presented changes how it lands
I get the idea, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
From the outside, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone At least from my perspective.
From a practical angle, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s what people are responding to Time will tell.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome so the response doesn’t surprise me
Looking at this, the way this is presented changes how it lands
If we’re being honest, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which is why this is getting picked apart
Trying to be fair, the follow-through is what will decide this so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what changes the context. Not convinced this is settled yet.
At this point, this comes across more reactive than planned That part stands out. Others will probably see it differently.
Without overthinking it, this feels rushed rather than thought through At least from my perspective.
From a practical angle, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which explains why reactions are split That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up.
From a practical angle, the wording alone shifts how people read this which turns this into more of a debate
If you zoom out, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s where people will push back We’ll see how people react over time.
this depends heavily on what happens next which explains why reactions are split
this depends heavily on what happens next so the response doesn’t surprise me Curious how this plays out. At least from my perspective.
Not gonna lie, the direction makes sense but the details are messy so the response doesn’t surprise me That’s what changes the context.
Real talk, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s what people are responding to That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.
From a practical angle, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that friction is hard to ignore
From where I sit, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s what people are responding to That’s what makes this interesting. This probably isn’t the last word on it. At least from my perspective.
the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting. This could age very differently in a week.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice which makes the reaction pretty predictable
I get the idea, this reads stronger on paper than in practice That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here.
Just reading this, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That’s what changes the context. Feels like there’s more coming here.
Not gonna lie, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here Curious how this plays out.
Stepping back, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that tension shows up immediately That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. That’s just my read on it.
Just reading this, this feels more about execution than intent and that friction is hard to ignore Time will tell. At least from my perspective.
Stepping back, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which explains why reactions are split That part stands out.
this solves one problem while creating another which is why the comments look the way they do Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
On the surface, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where people will push back That part stands out. That’s the impression it gives me.
this feels more about execution than intent
Honestly, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do Time will tell. Others will probably see it differently.
Bluntly speaking, the direction makes sense but the details are messy and that’s where it gets complicated This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.
this feels rushed rather than thought through Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Looking at this, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s why opinions are all over the place This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Trying to be fair, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which explains why reactions are split Others will probably see it differently.
From where I sit, this solves one problem while creating another
Trying to be fair, this solves one problem while creating another That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Trying to be fair, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so We’ll see how people react over time.
On the surface, the wording alone shifts how people read this Curious how this plays out. That’s just my read on it.
Looking at this, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that friction is hard to ignore Let’s see what happens next.
Stepping back, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Hard to say where this lands long term.
Just reading this, the way this is presented changes how it lands Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
To be fair, this solves one problem while creating another which makes the reaction pretty predictable Hard to say where this lands long term. At least from my perspective.
the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where it gets complicated
If we’re being honest, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which turns this into more of a debate Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Looking at this, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That part stands out.
If we’re being honest, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Curious how this plays out. At least from my perspective.