I humiliated myself to a guy and now i feel stupid
i’ll try to make this brief but i’m really struggling rn
around november 2024 met this guy, he was friends with my friends and he started hanging out with us. then we both took interest in each other and started casually going out.
things were good up until january 2025, when he suddenly said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and just kinda shut me down.
that took me by surprise and i was really upset for a while, and even tho i couldn’t really get over it we remained friends as we were in the same friend group.
there were some instances where i did some things i regret in regards to him and our friendship but overall the year went fine without major problems.
fast forward to a few days ago we were hanging out at a mutual friends house and everyone got a little carried away with the drinking (me especially).
things started happening and suddenly we were flirting and eventually hooked up. i was extremely (EXTREMELY) drunk and while we were in bed together i started telling him he was an asshole and a man wh\*re (tbh, he really was. and he really did hurt me) and that i resented him for everything that happened a year ago. i even made him promise that he would never hit on me ever a
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so so the response doesn’t surprise me Hard to say where this lands long term. That’s just my read on it.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that tension shows up immediately That part stands out. At least from my perspective.
From a practical angle, this reads stronger on paper than in practice so the response doesn’t surprise me Hard to say where this lands long term.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
At first glance, this comes across more reactive than planned and that tension shows up immediately Interested to see the follow-up.
From the outside, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s what people are responding to At least from my perspective.
If we’re being honest, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which makes the reaction pretty predictable
Not gonna lie, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where the disagreement starts Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s the impression it gives me.
From my side, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which turns this into more of a debate Hard to say where this lands long term.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice so the response doesn’t surprise me This could age very differently in a week.
I get the idea, the direction makes sense but the details are messy This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.
Without overthinking it, this depends heavily on what happens next which turns this into more of a debate Feels like there’s more coming here.
the follow-through is what will decide this That’s the impression it gives me.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s why opinions are all over the place Others will probably see it differently.
Honestly, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which is why this is getting picked apart Time will tell. That’s the impression it gives me.
From a neutral view, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why opinions are all over the place We’ll see how people react over time. At least from my perspective.
From where I sit, the signal is clear, the strategy less so Curious how this plays out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s just my read on it.
From a neutral view, the way this is presented changes how it lands Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Bluntly speaking, the wording alone shifts how people read this That’s just my read on it.
If you zoom out, this feels rushed rather than thought through
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where people will push back That part stands out. Feels like there’s more coming here.
From a practical angle, this feels more about execution than intent Hard to say where this lands long term.
Not gonna lie, the timing matters more than people admit That’s what changes the context.
Just reading this, the follow-through is what will decide this which turns this into more of a debate This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.
this solves one problem while creating another That part stands out. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Bluntly speaking, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven Others will probably see it differently.
Not gonna lie, this feels more about execution than intent That’s the impression it gives me.
From my side, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven so the response doesn’t surprise me Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From a practical angle, the main issue seems to be how this is handled This could age very differently in a week.
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
On the surface, this feels like a half-step, not a full move Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Honestly, the direction makes sense but the details are messy Curious how this plays out.
From where I sit, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s the part people are stuck on That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up.
Stepping back, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That’s the impression it gives me.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where it gets complicated Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From where I sit, the signal is clear, the strategy less so Interested to see the follow-up. Others will probably see it differently.
From my side, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. That’s the impression it gives me.
From where I sit, the timing matters more than people admit which is why the comments look the way they do That’s just how it reads to me.
If we’re being honest, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the key detail here. Others will probably see it differently.
the wording alone shifts how people read this That’s just my read on it.
the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s where people will push back That’s just how it reads to me. Others will probably see it differently.
Trying to be fair, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where the disagreement starts
the way this is presented changes how it lands and that friction is hard to ignore That’s just how it reads to me.
From my side, this solves one problem while creating another That’s the impression it gives me.
If we’re being honest, the main issue seems to be how this is handled That’s what changes the context.
At this point, this feels like a half-step, not a full move Interested to see the follow-up.
If you zoom out, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s the part people are stuck on That part stands out. Let’s see what happens next. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
On the surface, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that tension shows up immediately We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.
If we’re being honest, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome Interested to see the follow-up. At least from my perspective.
Real talk, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where the disagreement starts Interested to see the follow-up. Others will probably see it differently.
From where I sit, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified We’ll see how people react over time. That’s just my read on it.
From my side, this feels rushed rather than thought through Not convinced this is settled yet.
At this point, this reads stronger on paper than in practice We’ll see how people react over time. That’s just my read on it.
the follow-through is what will decide this
Real talk, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where people will push back
At this point, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s the impression it gives me.
Trying to be fair, the timing matters more than people admit which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting.
From a neutral view, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome That’s what makes this interesting. This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s the impression it gives me.
Trying to be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy That part stands out. Interested to see the follow-up.