I have to walk on eggshells or my husband shuts down emotionally (it’s breaking me)
**I’m not looking for advice. I just need to get this off my chest.**
Me (M29) and my husband (M28) have been married for 5 years. We got married after 1 year of dating and immediately moved to Europe because of a work opportunity I received.
Since then we had some disagreements (I counted probably 8 or 9 big ones in the last 5 years). More than half of them have always the same reason: finances and job topics.
The finances-related ones were more common in the past, like 4 years ago when we moved to a new apartment and completely drained our savings. I tried to talk about it, not to blame him as he's super unexpensive, but to share my worries. However he would always feel offended and start some kind of discussion about how I'm a cheapskate like my family.
To avoid conflict, I stopped talking about money altogether. If we are broke I suffer with this by myself. If we are in a good moment about money, I'll mention to him and we'll be happy together. Luckily, my situation improved after I changed jobs, so money is less stressful now.
The discussions about jobs are still a thing...
Since we moved together, I've always been employed. My husband tried running his own business during our
From a practical angle, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which makes the reaction pretty predictable Interested to see the follow-up.
Honestly, this solves one problem while creating another That part stands out. Not convinced this is settled yet.
Reaction: Something I've observed
From where I sit, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where people will push back At least from my perspective.
At this point, this feels more about execution than intent which is why the comments look the way they do Curious how this plays out.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s where it gets complicated Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s the part people are stuck on Time will tell.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that friction is hard to ignore That’s what changes the context.
From a neutral view, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which explains why reactions are split Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
From a practical angle, this depends heavily on what happens next At least from my perspective.
Reaction: I cannot elaborate on this meme
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which is why the comments look the way they do Hard to say where this lands long term.
the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where people will push back Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
this solves one problem while creating another Curious how this plays out. That’s the impression it gives me.
this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where the disagreement starts Others will probably see it differently.
From my side, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That part stands out. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Reaction: me_irl
the follow-through is what will decide this This could age very differently in a week. Others will probably see it differently.
Real talk, this solves one problem while creating another and that tension shows up immediately That part stands out.
this feels more about execution than intent That’s the key detail here. Not convinced this is settled yet.
Without overthinking it, this feels more about execution than intent which explains why reactions are split
From my side, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s the part people are stuck on Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Stepping back, this depends heavily on what happens next which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. Interested to see the follow-up.
I get the idea, the timing matters more than people admit which turns this into more of a debate Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s the impression it gives me.
From my side, this feels rushed rather than thought through Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
I get the idea, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that tension shows up immediately At least from my perspective.
From the outside, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that friction is hard to ignore That part stands out. Not convinced this is settled yet.
Just reading this, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that tension shows up immediately