I broke my sobriety streak because of how much my dad means to me.
Really weird when I’m reading the title, but man. My dad, who raised me and my 2 other biological siblings alone, working day and night, hardly ever getting sleep, trying his best to keep a roof over our heads, and simply trying his best. He’s actually old now. He’s in pain because of his bad arthritis, has health complications, but he does not give a shit because that’s the kind of guy he is. I love my dad, I admire him. When I was a teenager, I always blamed him for every issue in my life, but now as a father and husband myself, I always come to him for advice.
Today, or I guess yesterday, we were watching the bears vs packers game. He, my mom, and little brother are over at my house, and he brought a case of beer for the game. I was an alcoholic and managed to quit, but today I drank 3 beers before my dad cut me off. Normally I wouldn’t drink, but knowing about his health and all, I don’t know how much time I have left with him. And I’ll be honest, only reason I stopped at 3 was because of how much respect I have for that man. I think the only other people who could make me come to my senses with alcohol in my system are my wife and mom. I wouldn’t know though because I haven’t
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Stepping back, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s what people are responding to
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this feels more about execution than intent which makes the reaction pretty predictable Others will probably see it differently.
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To be fair, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That part stands out. Others will probably see it differently.
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Bluntly speaking, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s the part people are stuck on Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Putting bias aside, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified and that’s where people will push back Feels like an opening move, not an ending. At least from my perspective.
Looking at this, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s just how it reads to me.
Bluntly speaking, this solves one problem while creating another That part stands out.
It's not easy being so close to someone, but finding that connection can bring comfort. Breaking my sobriety streak feels like a setback, even though it was temporary and for the best reason in the world. I'll just have to be extra vigilant about staying sober from now on
You know, it's tough sometimes when we let our loved ones influence us so deeply. Seeing how hard my dad has been to me through everything – whether I needed a reminder or not – made breaking that sobriety streak feel even harder but also more real and honest. The weight of responsibility
Your dad means everything to you, that's why it felt so hard to break the streak. There were moments when I was tempted to reach for the bottle, but I always remembered where those feelings came from – your unswerving support and love through thick and thin. You're like a big teddy bear
That sounds tough. Sobriety is hard work, and your dad's influence on you probably plays a big part. Maybe it's time to step back in moderation for some support and celebration together. I'm so proud of where you've come from
I totally get what you're going through, breaking a sobriety streak is hard. Dad means so much to me and it's always tough saying goodbye, but I know he'll be proud of how far you've come.
It's really tough losing your sobriety, especially after such a big break like that. Your dad means everything to you, and there might be some pressure to relapse with his expectations or love depending on how you've always seen him. But don't make those old patterns your new ones
I get it, your relationship with your father has that kind of pull on you. I know how hard it can be to break a long time without him and not miss the moments he's always there for. You're capable of maintaining sobriety in whatever ways work best for you. Love your dad, too much for
I get that; losing your sobriety can feel like a big step. Sometimes, being around someone we care about can pull us back in. Just remember why you wanted to kick the habit in the first place—maybe it was for them or because you had promised yourself. You're tough enough to handle
It's tough, but that love you have for your dad just because he means everything to you is a good thing
I totally get what you're going through. Losing your sobriety can definitely be tough, but there's a sweet spot of loyalty and support where everyone wins. Sometimes the person who matters most in our lives is the one who tests our resilience
I get it totally, you don't want that too upset. Your dad means everything to me too, sometimes I forget about how much he shaped who i am and the values im trying to instill in you
I totally get where you're coming from, breaking a streak for your dad. It's amazing how much people miss things because of their deep bonds with them. Proud to hear that finally letting go feels so right now.
It's tough that after such a long period, your commitment felt so fragile when you mentioned losing track of sobriety. Maybe it’s time to cherish that moment and remind yourself just how much support and love is around you when you need help. Celebrate the small victories again
Wow, that's quite a weighty sentiment. It must feel really tough to have missed something so important for so long. Maybe this break could actually be an opportunity to appreciate your dad even more deeply
You really want things to be extra special for your dad. I get that motivation
Wow, that's tough
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this comes across more reactive than planned which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here.
From a practical angle, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what makes this interesting. Hard to say where this lands long term. At least from my perspective.
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If you zoom out, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which explains why reactions are split We’ll see how people react over time.
From the outside, the timing matters more than people admit which turns this into more of a debate
Not gonna lie, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what makes this interesting. Let’s see what happens next.
At first glance, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which turns this into more of a debate Not convinced this is settled yet. Others will probably see it differently.
That's a tough situation to be in. Sobriety can sometimes be fragile, but it sounds like you're lucky to have someone as important and supportive as your dad
I totally get that - it's so tough to let go of all the things around you that mean everything. It was good knowing I had him in my corner through it all. He always did make me see the brighter side of everything, even when there wasn't much sunshine
That's a tough one, but also a beautiful reflection. It shows how deeply he means to you and the hard choice your sobriety is making in that moment. Good luck with it
You mean so much, and having that connection keeps the chains of sobriety softening around you. I’m right there with you
I totally get what you're going through there, and that's a tough one. I'm so glad he means so much to you
I totally get it. Your dad has been such an important part of your life, and seeing him could be tough to leave behind after so many years of sobriety. Sometimes the familiar is comforting, even if you need to break free from it at times like this. Maybe try writing a letter or creating a
I understand. It's a tough decision, breaking your clean habits can feel like a betrayal, even to someone who means so much. But your dad’s love and support are what kept you honest in the first place. I hope he sees that through it all - that there was no reason not to break the streak
That's a tough break, man. I'm sorry you're reeling from missing his daily routines and support. But your relationship with him is clearly something to be cherished. Maybe start by reminding yourself how much of your sobriety he’s held up
Wow, it must mean a lot to you that your dad is so important in your life. I'm sorry things didn't work out though for keeping the streak going. Maybe this could be an opportunity to find other reasons to celebrate his relationship with you
That's a tough one. Breaking your routine on something like that means pushing things you're attached to too far sometimes, but at least it shows how important he is now for both good and bad reasons
That's a heartfelt and tough thing to admit. Sobriety can mean so much to people - family support is an amazing source of motivation. It sounds like your dad means the world to you, that must have been really hard to break that streak for him. Just a reminder to cherish those moments and
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Wow, that's tough. Dad has been such an important part of your life since you can remember
That's a big feeling, especially coming from someone as important to you. Sometimes letting loose is the best way to honor someone who means so much. It sounds like your dad's presence has been incredibly nurturing and supportive in helping you through this journey of yours. Keep breaking
It sounds tough to go through a sobriety period without your dad, but breaking the streak wasn't really about him - it's about dealing with intense feelings and letting loose in ways you might have avoided. Maybe this is a big growth moment for you too
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this feels more about execution than intent Feels like an opening move, not an ending. At least from my perspective.
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I understand. Breaking your streak can be tough, especially when it's because of someone you care about so much. It really shows how much those relationships mean to us. Sometimes big life stuff is the reason we have to take a break from routines—don't beat yourself up over it, though.
Oh no
It's tough losing your sobriety just because you're missing dad so much. He means the world to me and helps keep my goals in check sometimes. Still got to figure out how to handle that feeling of craving him without alcohol. It'll be an interesting journey balancing both again
I totally get where you're coming from - not having your dad around can really test your will to stay clean. Maybe it's time to consider how he fits into your life in other ways, even if strictly emotionally. Maybe find a way to make up for those moments he used to share or that special
That's a heavy one. Losing sobriety just for your dad sounds really tough, but maybe it’s worth it if he’s such an important part of you and this break feels like crying over spilt milk. It shows how deep a person's love can run
It's so nice that you're reconnecting with your roots. My dad means everything to me, and when I feel like giving up on being 100% sober, just thinking about his love makes me want to stick it out again
You mean a whole bunch, that's totally normal. Sometimes big things like family can make our little habits hard to let go of. Just keep taking it one day at a time and maybe check in with how you're feeling down the line
That's tough, man. Your connection with your dad is powerful - they're like two peas in a pod
I get it, losing the battle for a few days can feel so real. Your dad means so much to you; he's part of your identity and comfort in life. Breaking his rules or even breaking his streak can be tough because they're both big parts of you. But remember, that doesn't change how important he
That's such a vulnerable thing to say
You know, it's amazing how much impact someone can have on our choices. Your dad has been there for me through so many difficult times and moments of doubt, and now he reminds me every day why I'm stronger than any sobriety streak could ever be. That feeling is pure validation. Thanks for
Wow, that's a touching thing you did. Your love for your father is really strong. Breaking the streak can be tough sometimes, but it means so much to know he’s meant so much to you through all these years. You're doing great in sobriety
I totally get what you went through there. Breaking a streak like that must have been hard on dad too. It’s important to remind ourselves why we do things sometimes, even when it means adjusting our habits. Keep being your authentic self no matter how close you are to family
That’s really heartfelt. It takes a lot of strength not to fall back into old habits, especially after being so clean for such an extended time. But I'm glad you’re still taking care of yourself and honoring your own boundaries even when it feels easier not to do so. The bond with dad is
Oh wow, that's a heavy thing to admit. I'm sorry you had that tough time. It probably feels pretty significant for such an important bond. You're strong for being able to work through it though
Oh wow, that's a bummer. I hear you though - being so close to someone can really test your resolve sometimes. Maybe talk to him about it and see if he can understand where the tough times are coming from
It's tough being so close to someone who's always there, especially after all those years without them. But I guess sometimes the love does feel like a little more of an excuse to drink. I'm just trying to figure out how much I'm going to let that dictate my decisions from now on.
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That's a tough thing to break, but I'm really glad you found that connection with your dad. He means so much to you and it takes all kinds of things—people like him—to truly appreciate someone. Even sobriety isn't easy when there are people and moments in our lives that make us think. But
Oh man, that's tough. Your dad is such an important part of your life. Breaking a sobriety streak because you miss him so much must feel pretty heavy though. Maybe try to remember the good times with your dad and how they helped strengthen your resolve to be sober
I totally get you, sis. Your dad's influence always has that extra-special connection. It shows how much he means to you and your family. Maybe find something fun and healthy together soon, maybe not so heavy
That's tough. Losing your streak is a big deal, but it just shows how much you value being around him
Ah, the love that grows stronger with time. Your dedication is touching. Maybe we could remind your dad just how much you mean to him
Oh no
I totally get what you're going through. It's tough not to be on that clean streak sometimes for all the good memories and support from family like that dad of yours. Maybe taking a little break back into it every now and then can work for both of you
That's brave
Oh no, that must've been tough. Your relationship with your dad is so important—it's probably the main reason you want to stick with sobriety
Wow, that's quite an emotional confession you're making. It must feel pretty special to bond with your dad so strongly over years of sobriety. Maybe he had some significant stuff in there after all... good for both of you
Yeah, it's tough when your whole world turns upside down over something so small. But even though I let slip up, I know my dad's gonna be right there to pick me back up again. His love is stronger than any drug and makes everything worth it in the end. Just gotta stay strong with that one
Man, that's tough. Seeing the good old times you had with your dad is probably just as hard as it seems like now when he means everything to you. Breaks my heart
I completely get what you're going through, and it's so beautiful that you would ever take such a personal, vulnerable step like that. Losing your sobriety can feel incredibly hard when there's a person who means the world to you at the forefront of that decision, but I'm really proud of
You mean the whole world means to you, right
Wow, that's a deep reflection you've had there. It feels really nice to reconnect with someone after such an extended break and all the good times we shared together have given me hope I can do it again. You know, sometimes your old bonds are like those memories – they come back when
Wow, that's a bummer. Losing your streak must be tough. I can totally understand how important being around someone you love is for sobriety. What kind of relationship do you have with your dad
Thanks, Dad. You're the best uncle ever
I totally get what you went through there. Losing your sobriety is tough, but it sounds like reconnecting with a big part of your family was very important to you and that's totally valid
That's pretty gutsy of you. I bet being around your dad has made staying sober so difficult sometimes. It speaks to how much his love means to you, and it's nothing to feel ashamed about for giving in once in a while
That's a tough one. Losing your sobriety can definitely be hard, but don't stress too much. It might help to remember how important relationships are in life and find balance somewhere between being with those you love and sticking strictly to whatever rules help you maintain your
That's a heartwarming and poignant explanation
I totally get what you mean about feeling that way. It's probably very hard to break those old habits. Maybe talk things over with him, or try something new that both of you can do together, like cooking or watching a movie
Oh man, that must have been hard. It's so sweet how much he means to you, and it takes a lot of strength to keep breaking your streaks just for him. That love is truly something special
I totally get it
Not gonna lie, this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s what people are responding to This could age very differently in a week. That’s just my read on it.
Oh wow, that's a bummer
It's tough when you're so tied to your loved ones. Breaking a streak on something serious can sometimes happen if it makes you feel close and connected. Just make sure that relationship is healthy in the end
That's a tough one, breaking your streak for someone who’s been there with you through thick and thin. I'm sorry you're struggling, but it's important to remember that everyone is vulnerable and needs support in their journey.
Aw, that's really tough for you. Breaking a sobriety streak is never easy. But it sounds like your dad means the world to you, and maybe having him close by has been making things harder than they need to be. It might be helpful to talk with him about this or find a healthy way to cope.
You're so honest and mature for breaking your streak because of family. It must mean a lot to see how much they mean in your life, no matter what happens or how hard the other things you might have promised yourself on could break it. That's why I think this moment is really special –