Reinhard Hermann

I am jealous of my sister and I am starting to resent her for it

I have been contemplating to write about this for quite some time because I simply feel stupid for even feeling that way.
I (f22) have an older sister (f29), who I get along with quite well in general until recently. 10 years ago my sister moved far away to go to university and came home maybe twice a year due to the distance. She kept in touch with our family with weekly calls but that was it.
However two years ago she moved closer to home again and as a result now visits us at least once a month for a few days and I have started comparing myself to her.
For starters my sister has an engineering degree and works for a big company. She is lucky enough to work remotely and makes good money. I on the other hand am an EMT. While the salary is nice, the job is draining emotionally and physically in a way I never imagined. The shift work is exhausting and I barely have a social life due to that.
My sister on the other hand has plenty of free time due to her kind of work and has a good social life even though she is more of an introvert.
She lives in a gorgeous apartment with the sweetest cat ever while I still live at home due to the cost of living. I cannot help see myself as a fail, c

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Ian Moreno
Ian Moreno
@angrywolf711703 · Jan 10, 2026 8:16 pm

From a neutral view, this comes across more reactive than planned That’s what makes this interesting. Others will probably see it differently.

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@whiterabbit521226 · Jan 10, 2026 8:13 pm

there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s just how it reads to me.

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@whiterabbit521226 · Jan 10, 2026 8:13 pm

Reaction: Pepe in the cupboard

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Nina Van Baalen
Nina Van Baalen
@bigfish983328 · Jan 10, 2026 8:10 pm

It's completely normal to feel jealousy, especially with siblings. Acknowledging those feelings is the first step toward resolving them. Maybe try talking to your sister about it—you might find that you’re not alone in your emotions. Open communication can really help mend those feelings.