How it felt being a people-pleaser
I want to share my experience with being a people-pleaser around some communities that came into my life, as if by force... and refused to allow me to speak.
When I finally did speak, life became chaos.
I feel like I was being externally manipulated and socially coerced into being a musician. I wound up losing everything; friends, family, community, financial support and resources... just saying, “NO” to having my own kids, boats, sports, drums, pianos, guitars, violent sex, alcohol and other substances.
...just because I finally found some small breath of my own voice saying, “this is who I am” in a cartoonish voice with a camera in my hand.
I finally shared my values and the world and its inner-workings said, “fuck you.” Some of the manipulation found ways of saying, “you’re lying,” “shut up,” “be like us.” The worst is willing to say, “you don’t like you,” “you’ll like being us.”
I feel like I lost my soul, because the one that found me... or claimed me, wasn't mine.
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Not gonna lie, the way this is presented changes how it lands and that tension shows up immediately Feels like there’s more coming here. Others will probably see it differently.
the timing matters more than people admit and that friction is hard to ignore Let’s see what happens next.
Just reading this, the follow-through is what will decide this Interested to see the follow-up. At least from my perspective.
On the surface, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here.
the follow-through is what will decide this Others will probably see it differently.
At this point, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s the part people are stuck on
If we’re being honest, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s the part people are stuck on Curious how this plays out. At least from my perspective.
From the outside, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which turns this into more of a debate
the signal is clear, the strategy less so That’s what changes the context. Let’s see what happens next. At least from my perspective.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome This could age very differently in a week.
Just reading this, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified That’s what changes the context.
At this point, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what changes the context.
Trying to be fair, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s the part people are stuck on
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At this point, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where the disagreement starts This could age very differently in a week. Others will probably see it differently.
To be fair, the way this is presented changes how it lands which explains why reactions are split This probably isn’t the last word on it. That’s just my read on it.
From the outside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so so the response doesn’t surprise me That part stands out.
the timing matters more than people admit and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which turns this into more of a debate Feels like there’s more coming here.
Real talk, this solves one problem while creating another which explains why reactions are split This probably isn’t the last word on it.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why this is getting picked apart Interested to see the follow-up. That’s the impression it gives me.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice Hard to say where this lands long term.
the direction makes sense but the details are messy Curious how this plays out.
Without overthinking it, this reads stronger on paper than in practice
If we’re being honest, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome
this comes across more reactive than planned That’s the impression it gives me.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled That part stands out. Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s just my read on it.
Just reading this, the direction makes sense but the details are messy Feels like there’s more coming here.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s just how it reads to me. Others will probably see it differently.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.
From the outside, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which is why this is getting picked apart That’s the key detail here. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Real talk, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what changes the context. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From my side, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable This could age very differently in a week.
From the outside, the timing matters more than people admit That’s just how it reads to me.
On the surface, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone This could age very differently in a week.
this depends heavily on what happens next
At first glance, the wording alone shifts how people read this This probably isn’t the last word on it.
From the outside, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which explains why reactions are split We’ll see how people react over time. At least from my perspective.
From a practical angle, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so That part stands out. Time will tell.
To be fair, the main issue seems to be how this is handled This probably isn’t the last word on it. Others will probably see it differently.
Honestly, the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
At first glance, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which is why the comments look the way they do Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Honestly, the way this is presented changes how it lands which makes the reaction pretty predictable Feels like there’s more coming here. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Looking at this, the follow-through is what will decide this and that’s where people will push back That’s what changes the context.
there’s a lot said here but not much clarified This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Without overthinking it, the signal is clear, the strategy less so
If we’re being honest, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven so the response doesn’t surprise me Time will tell.
Bluntly speaking, this solves one problem while creating another and that friction is hard to ignore That part stands out. We’ll see how people react over time.
Putting bias aside, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which is why the comments look the way they do Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
To be fair, the direction makes sense but the details are messy Interested to see the follow-up. At least from my perspective.
this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s where it gets complicated That part stands out.
Trying to be fair, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the impression it gives me.
Bluntly speaking, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s where people will push back Hard to say where this lands long term.
the wording alone shifts how people read this which turns this into more of a debate That part stands out.
From where I sit, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s the key detail here. That’s the impression it gives me.
Just reading this, the signal is clear, the strategy less so Time will tell.
Real talk, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s what people are responding to