How it felt being a people-pleaser
I want to share my experience with being a people-pleaser around some communities that came into my life, as if by force... and refused to allow me to speak.
When I finally did speak, life became chaos.
I feel like I was being externally manipulated and socially coerced into being a musician. I wound up losing everything; friends, family, community, financial support and resources... just saying, “NO” to having my own kids, boats, sports, drums, pianos, guitars, violent sex, alcohol and other substances.
...just because I finally found some small breath of my own voice saying, “this is who I am” in a cartoonish voice with a camera in my hand.
I finally shared my values and the world and its inner-workings said, “fuck you.” Some of the manipulation found ways of saying, “you’re lying,” “shut up,” “be like us.” The worst is willing to say, “you don’t like you,” “you’ll like being us.”
I feel like I lost my soul, because the one that found me... or claimed me, wasn't mine.
At this point, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s just my read on it.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled and that’s where it gets complicated That’s just how it reads to me.
From a neutral view, this feels like a half-step, not a full move which makes the reaction pretty predictable Not convinced this is settled yet.
From a practical angle, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here.
From where I sit, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome At least from my perspective.
On the surface, this solves one problem while creating another That’s what changes the context. That’s just my read on it.
On the surface, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s the part people are stuck on Time will tell.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice which explains why reactions are split That’s the key detail here. This could age very differently in a week. That’s the impression it gives me.
On the surface, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which turns this into more of a debate That’s the impression it gives me.
Stepping back, this depends heavily on what happens next which is why the comments look the way they do This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Without overthinking it, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. Curious how this plays out.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s just my read on it.
At this point, this comes across more reactive than planned
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here This probably isn’t the last word on it.
From a practical angle, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what changes the context. Interested to see the follow-up. That’s the impression it gives me.
Reaction: Me_irl
I get the idea, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what makes this interesting. Feels like there’s more coming here. That’s just my read on it.
the signal is clear, the strategy less so We’ll see how people react over time.
Reaction: Me_irl
Bluntly speaking, the follow-through is what will decide this
If we’re being honest, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which makes the reaction pretty predictable That’s the impression it gives me.
Stepping back, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
the follow-through is what will decide this Let’s see what happens next.
Reaction: When the villian catches the hero:
the wording alone shifts how people read this Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: Its that simple
Stepping back, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That part stands out.
Looking at this, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which explains why reactions are split
To be fair, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which turns this into more of a debate Let’s see what happens next. Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: me_irl
Just reading this, the follow-through is what will decide this which is why this is getting picked apart
To be fair, the timing matters more than people admit
this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what changes the context.
Not gonna lie, this feels rushed rather than thought through which is why the comments look the way they do That’s the key detail here. Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s where it gets complicated This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Real talk, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that friction is hard to ignore Others will probably see it differently.
Trying to be fair, there’s a lot said here but not much clarified
From my side, this solves one problem while creating another and that friction is hard to ignore That’s the impression it gives me.
From a neutral view, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage so the response doesn’t surprise me Interested to see the follow-up. Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: the collection of colorful pens
Without overthinking it, the follow-through is what will decide this
the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s what changes the context. Not convinced this is settled yet. That’s just my read on it.
this solves one problem while creating another and that tension shows up immediately That’s just how it reads to me.
Real talk, this feels more about execution than intent That part stands out. Curious how this plays out. That’s just my read on it.
At this point, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s where the disagreement starts
Reaction: Something I've observed
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which is why the comments look the way they do Time will tell.
the main issue seems to be how this is handled
Stepping back, this solves one problem while creating another which explains why reactions are split That’s what makes this interesting.
Without overthinking it, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s where it gets complicated That part stands out. That’s just how it reads to me.