How do I start a conversation through text message?
(22M) I am in university and there is a girl who I spoke to very occasionally last year, I would like to be friends with her but due to christmas holidays haven't spoken to her anymore. I asked a friend who had her contact if he could tell her if I could have her contact and she said it is ok.
Problem is I haven't texted her yet because I overthink too much everything and in my head I think she might not want to actually talk to me. So I don't know how to start the conversation through texting cause I'm worried the conversation might go in an uncomfortable direction and then when we see in person it'll feel awkward.
Also I'm someone who is pretty shy and doesn't want to interact much with new people because I think I might be annoying them and want me to go. And even more shy at interacting with girls.
this comes across more reactive than planned so the response doesn’t surprise me Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
the way this is presented changes how it lands and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Time will tell. That’s just my read on it.
From a neutral view, the way this is presented changes how it lands which is why this is getting picked apart That’s what makes this interesting.
this comes across more reactive than planned and that’s what people are responding to That’s what changes the context. Hard to say where this lands long term.
the wording alone shifts how people read this That’s the impression it gives me.
this solves one problem while creating another and that’s what people are responding to
the main issue seems to be how this is handled which is why this is getting picked apart Feels like an opening move, not an ending.
Not gonna lie, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s where it gets complicated That part stands out. Curious how this plays out.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice which is why the comments look the way they do
the wording alone shifts how people read this which turns this into more of a debate Hard to say where this lands long term. At least from my perspective.
From a neutral view, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage Curious how this plays out. Others will probably see it differently.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome Others will probably see it differently.
Reaction: me_irl
Trying to be fair, this feels like a half-step, not a full move That’s the key detail here. This probably isn’t the last word on it. At least from my perspective.
Looking at this, the follow-through is what will decide this and that friction is hard to ignore Feels like an opening move, not an ending. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
From a neutral view, the signal is clear, the strategy less so which turns this into more of a debate This could age very differently in a week. At least from my perspective.
Putting bias aside, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that tension shows up immediately That part stands out. At least from my perspective.
From where I sit, this depends heavily on what happens next and that’s where the disagreement starts That’s what makes this interesting. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Stepping back, the direction makes sense but the details are messy which is why the comments look the way they do Time will tell.
Without overthinking it, the timing matters more than people admit which explains why reactions are split Interested to see the follow-up.
At this point, the logic is there, but the execution is uneven
From my side, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s what people are responding to That part stands out. This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Reaction: me_irl
the follow-through is what will decide this which is why the comments look the way they do We’ll see how people react over time. That’s the impression it gives me.
Bluntly speaking, this solves one problem while creating another and that’s where people will push back
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s the key detail here.
Reaction: me_irl
Honestly, this feels more about execution than intent which explains why reactions are split
At first glance, this reads stronger on paper than in practice This could age very differently in a week.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven which turns this into more of a debate That’s just my read on it.
Stepping back, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s where the disagreement starts That part stands out. Curious how this plays out.
Reaction: Jiggle physics
Putting bias aside, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That part stands out. Others will probably see it differently.
From a neutral view, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that’s where the disagreement starts Hard to say where this lands long term. That’s the impression it gives me.
To be fair, the way this is presented changes how it lands That’s the impression it gives me.
Without overthinking it, this feels more about execution than intent and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Time will tell.
this feels more about execution than intent so the response doesn’t surprise me Others will probably see it differently.
At this point, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that tension shows up immediately That part stands out. We’ll see how people react over time.
To be fair, the signal is clear, the strategy less so That’s what makes this interesting. Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Not gonna lie, this feels like a half-step, not a full move That part stands out. Not convinced this is settled yet.
Just reading this, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s the part people are stuck on Others will probably see it differently.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here This probably isn’t the last word on it.
Not gonna lie, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that friction is hard to ignore Not convinced this is settled yet.
From the outside, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s the part people are stuck on Interested to see the follow-up.
From a practical angle, this feels like a half-step, not a full move Others will probably see it differently.
the logic is there, but the execution is uneven Time will tell. That’s just my read on it.
Reaction: Me_irl
Looking at this, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone That’s what makes this interesting. Others will probably see it differently.
Honestly, the wording alone shifts how people read this Feels like there’s more coming here. At least from my perspective.
From a neutral view, the timing matters more than people admit That’s the key detail here. Time will tell.
From a practical angle, the signal is clear, the strategy less so
I get the idea, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone Not convinced this is settled yet. At least from my perspective.
Reaction: Every year it becomes worse
Putting bias aside, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone
Not gonna lie, this feels rushed rather than thought through and that’s why opinions are all over the place That part stands out. Hard to say where this lands long term.
Reaction: me_irl
To be fair, the wording alone shifts how people read this and that’s what people are responding to Hard to say where this lands long term.
Bluntly speaking, this feels rushed rather than thought through which turns this into more of a debate
Honestly, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that tension shows up immediately
Real talk, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage which is why the comments look the way they do
Honestly, this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that tension shows up immediately At least from my perspective.
this feels like a half-step, not a full move That’s the key detail here. Curious how this plays out.
From the outside, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s where people will push back That’s what makes this interesting.
Putting bias aside, the wording alone shifts how people read this so the response doesn’t surprise me That part stands out.
If you zoom out, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage That’s just my read on it.
If you zoom out, the timing matters more than people admit and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s what changes the context. That’s just how it reads to me.
From my side, the signal is clear, the strategy less so and that tension shows up immediately That’s what makes this interesting.
this reads stronger on paper than in practice and that’s what people are responding to Could be wrong, but that’s how it comes across.
Trying to be fair, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s why opinions are all over the place That’s just how it reads to me. That’s the impression it gives me.
I get the idea, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so which explains why reactions are split
From where I sit, this reads stronger on paper than in practice which is why this is getting picked apart That part stands out. Feels like an opening move, not an ending.