how do i confront my mother about her being a lier?
for the record, im fifteen and my mother is a single mother.
i recently found out she has been using drugs almost excessively for about six years without me knowing and yes, i am aware im not her mother and that im not entitled to know everything she gets up to but how am i supposed to be honest to her when she isnt honest to me?
i also found out that she lied about how long we had to move house. she found out over a year ago that we were going to be evicted yet she told me over the phone six months later instead. i dont understand why she would keep that a secret for six months.
we havent been evicted because of rent or bad behaviour, our landlord hates being a landlord so he wants his properties back.
my friend believes that she didnt tell me these things to protect me but im strong, i know that. im not fragile and im not someone whos overly anxious or worried. my head is pretty screwed on and id say that i am mature and capable to handle things like this so i dont understand why she keeps secrets from me.
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To be fair, this feels rushed rather than thought through That’s the impression it gives me.
Not gonna lie, there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s where it gets complicated
From where I sit, the idea isn’t bad, but the delivery is doing damage and that’s why this won’t land the same for everyone At least from my perspective.
the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here and that’s what people are responding to
From my side, the signal is clear, the strategy less so
From the outside, the intention might be solid, the rollout less so and that’s where it gets complicated That’s what makes this interesting. At least from my perspective.
there’s a gap between the message and the outcome and that’s where people will push back Hard to say where this lands long term.
If you zoom out, the framing does a lot of heavy lifting here which makes the reaction pretty predictable Feels like there’s more coming here.
this solves one problem while creating another which turns this into more of a debate