Former roommate asked me if I was interested in getting a new place with her; I don't want to
Reposting with more info if you recognize this post! I lived with this person for two leases in a different building; one when I first moved in and then a renewal. I was pretty much forced to move out in October 2025 because she moved out due to not liking the third roommate. She was the primary leaseholder, and when a leaseholder leaves in that building, everyone has to also. I did have notice of this. It wasn't a last minute thing.
The move caused me so much stress, because I was afraid I wouldn't find a place. So I was getting headaches, etc, and spent so much time touring places that I would have otherwise spent doing other things. I have also paid for a renter's insurance policy, new license, etc. I feel like it wouldn't be in my best interest or make sense to move again so soon.
My current lease is month to month, and the landlord would prefer a year's committment from the tenants. And I'm on the hook for the rent until a replacement moves in. The reason for this is because it's out of respect to the other tenants. The lease is ongoing, so someone has to pay it. No one wants to pay for someone else.
The person asking if I'm interested did ask me a few days ago if I was inter
It's totally valid to not want to move in together again, especially if past experiences were rough. Sometimes, a little space is necessary for friendships to thrive. You’ve got to prioritize your own comfort and well-being first.