Dating men is very stressful
So late night post let’s go.
To start this off I am single and very happy. I have a job I love, I’m in school, I have many hobbies and ambitions, friends and family by my side.
However, I’ve always wanted to be in a loving relationship. I’m good at relationships, well they’re not hard but love being in a relationship, all you got to do is not be a d*ck. But, I love loving someone and taking care of someone. The problem is finding someone that wants to do the same.
Anyway, I went through something pretty traumatic in my late teens and it took me years to be able to be brave enough to start dating. I was so naive and had no idea how toxic the dating environment had become. There are so many men and women who are selfish and use each other not caring about the pain they are causing.
And to make it clear there is nothing wrong about only wanting casual sex, fwb, enm, etc. but, it becomes a problem when you trick people who don’t want that into thinking you want a serious relationship when you don’t.
I just find it incredibly difficult to find a man whose soul is good, who wants a loving relationship, who is kind, and when I do they are kind until they’re not. It just happens so suddenl
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If you zoom out, this feels like a half-step, not a full move and that’s where it gets complicated We’ll see how people react over time.
It's great to hear that you're prioritizing your happiness over dating! Too often, we get caught up in the pressure to be in a relationship. Focusing on personal growth and what truly makes us happy is such a healthier approach—kudos for recognizing that!